• We’re currently investigating an issue related to the forum theme and styling that is impacting page layout and visual formatting. The problem has been identified, and we are actively working on a resolution. There is no impact to user data or functionality, this is strictly a front-end display issue. We’ll post an update once the fix has been deployed. Thanks for your patience while we get this sorted.

Acceptance of drinking

W

WhiteKnight

Platinum Member
So here's the deal. I'm 20 and a Jr. in college. I don't drink. Yes, I've had alcohol before but I've never been remotely close to being drunk. My problem is this... my girlfriend drinks. Let's call her Lauren. She always has good judgement and everything, and I don't have a problem with the amount that she drinks, she never gets drunk, but what I hate is the typical college party setting. To me, alcohol should be a supplement to another activity (a nice Italian dinner perhaps?), not the main focus of an event. I am a very genuine person, and I think that's where my distaste for drinking originates. The whole frat party scene lacks the dependability and honesty that I like in my life. I love Lauren and I love spending time with her, but I really hate going to parties where everyone is drunk. How can I feel more comfortable? I don't want to hold Lauren back from having a good time, but I want to be able to feel more at ease.

Ok... I need sleep. This is rather poorly written... Does it even make sense?
 
d;ude, if yer gonna post something... at least make the topic "anyone else dislike drinking"

then post "i sure dont"

if yer gonna post statements, MAKE THEM INTERESTING!!!

otherwise bring forth a question.. or something to talk about!
 


<< d;ude, if yer gonna post something... at least make the topic "anyone else dislike drinking"

then post "i sure dont"

if yer gonna post statements, MAKE THEM INTERESTING!!!

otherwise bring forth a question.. or something to talk about! >>


Who the heck are you? A member of the topic gestapo? 😉
 


<< I am a very genuine person, and I think that's where my distaste for drinking originates. >>



What does being a genuine person have to do with a distate for alcohol?
 
Ok. First of all, don't knock it until you've tried it. There's a lot to be said for getting nice and sloshed every once in a while. Hehehe.

Second - you're confusing things. Just because Lauren is a little more ... mainstream .. than you, why make this sound like some sort of drinking issue? The problem here sounds like - you don't like the atmosphere of frat parties, your girlfriend does. Compromise. You go to some frat parties, and try to get her to do things that are more your speed. But don't try to make some sort of moral stand on the drinking issue...
 
Frat parties suck... people drink at them becuase there is no other way to have fun at them.

i'm not a big drinker either.. and my ex-gf was a pretty heavy drinker.. she loved to go out and get drunk and that always kinda made me mad. I wasnt going to keep her from having fun as long as she stayed out of trouble. Some people like drinking, some people need to drink to have a good time... and as for the rest of us.. we just have to deal with those who drink.

sometime when i go to parties and i know i'm not going to be drinking, i'll have a cup with me anyways, even if its empty.. i feel like i fit it more when i am holding a cup. Drunk people are also fun to watch... laugh at the funny drunkards who can barely walk and do stupid things.. that might make you feel more comfortable.
 
Bad joke:

Q: What's the mating call of a sorority girl?
A: I'M DRUNK!

------------------------------------------------

I really dispise the whole drunken frat/house party scene as well. But, then again, I really hate large mobs of drunken assholes too. But, that doesn't mean that I hate alcohol, I just hate the atmosphere that the frat/house party provides.

Some of my most enjoyable nights involve 3 or 4 close friends, about 8 pitchers of a beer, and a couple games of bowling. Drinking and bowling makes for a great time.

As for your situation, you are just pawning off alcohol as a cop out for your own insecurities.
 
get into drinking socially. Nothin like chuggin brewskies or guzzling vodka straight outta the bottle, but figure to appreciate the more upscale beers and social liquors like whiskeys, maybe martinis, and some other conservative mixed drinks. Not too much sugar as it might upset the stomach. Then you can let your girlfriend socialize as she will and you can go forth and hunt for some halfway intelligible conversation. Every once in a while, check up on her to play the role of the thoughtful boyfriend. If you have to get up and do something like dancing, it's acceptable to put it down. Contrary to popular belief, it is not a requirement to be able to dance with drink in hand. There's always someone not feeling up to getting wasted or whatnot, and you can converse the night away, looking social. Depending on how jealous she is, there's a relatively easy way to see if a girl is getting drunk or not and, ergo, possible conversation. Ask for a sip of her beer, but don't drink it. Instead, let the beer hit your upper lip. If it's warm, she's not getting drunk that night, she's been nursing the same beer the entire time probably. If it's cold, she's prolly drinkin a bit.
 
Let's call her Lauren

Hey, that's my favorite female friend's name! I object to the name! (Lol! She doesn't drink. You can keep the name there or it's bound to be changed many more times because of others wishes)

You are quite correct, drinking alcohol shouldn't be the only thing at the event. It is disgusting when all these freaks drink until they have to throw. Even if your girlfriend drinks in modesty, it may not be a good idea for her to be drinking with freaks who drink to get drunk. Perhaps, there are other settings under which you will feel more comfortable with her drinking. For example, there may be a more modest group somewhere in your college in which ppl drink in moderation, and in which the focus is something other than drinking.
 


<< What does being a genuine person have to do with a distate for alcohol? >>



I just find that when people are drunk, they tend to do or say things that may not be entirely in line with what they actually feel or believe. I realize that some may say that people are actually more genuine and honest when they are drunk and I'm not going to argue with that, but I can only speak from personal experience. I of course realize that there's a difference between drinking and being drunk, but as far as parties go, it tends to be more of the latter.
 
yeah those parties where ever soul is hammered out of their mind usually aren't that fun...its better getting sloppy drunk with a few of your best buds, then causing a ruckus somewhere (i.e. the dorms)
 
hell yea Kami... hanging out with like 4-5 good freinds.. getting drunk, playingn some cards, then cuasing trouble.. thats where the fun is at.


post 1000!!!! 😀
might go get a drink to celebrate
 


<< yeah those parties where ever soul is hammered out of their mind usually aren't that fun...its better getting sloppy drunk with a few of your best buds, then causing a ruckus somewhere (i.e. the dorms) >>



Kinda funny you mentioned that... I'm an RA too. Free room and board makes the bank account happy 🙂
 


<< Bad joke:

Q: What's the mating call of a sorority girl?
A: I'M DRUNK! >>


Even in a drunken stupor, no girl would have sex with me. 😛🙁
 
A lot of people have told me that I should try being drunk once just to see what it's like. While I understand what they are trying to say, the arguement seems a little silly to me. I've never done heroine either, but I have no intention of shooting up "just to see what it's like." Obviously the severity is different, but it's the same basic idea. It's just that it's socially acceptable to be drunk.
 
I was an RA as well...what that meant was that my room was the offical place to stash the booze in 🙂

 


<< A lot of people have told me that I should try being drunk once just to see what it's like. While I understand what they are trying to say, the arguement seems a little silly to me. I've never done heroine either, but I have no intention of shooting up "just to see what it's like." Obviously the severity is different, but it's the same basic idea. It's just that it's socially acceptable to be drunk. >>



you also dont hang out with herion addicts and go to drug parties... if you did, maybe they would expect you to shoot up once in a while.

getting drunk can be fun, it can suck too.. and it usually leads to trouble. I would say drink a little, enough to loosen up some.. and then just try to have fun and enjoy yourself
 


<< A lot of people have told me that I should try being drunk once just to see what it's like. While I understand what they are trying to say, the arguement seems a little silly to me. I've never done heroine either, but I have no intention of shooting up "just to see what it's like." Obviously the severity is different, but it's the same basic idea. It's just that it's socially acceptable to be drunk. >>



dont start drugs, its a bad idea expecially heroine. Alcohol is a little diferent since its legal (if your over 21). Alot of times if you start drugs you end up liking the feeling so much you keep doing them.
 
I've had this problem before. I don't drink, most people (girls) my age do. Unfortunately I've never met a girl I've "loved" enough to put up with it though... so actually it's not really a problem for me because I just dump 'em. 😀 However if I did fall in love with a girl who drank then that'd be a problem... I don't know what I'd do... I've always assumed I wouldn't fall in love with someone that different than me though. We'll see. 🙂

This didn't help at all, did it? How about this, find a smarter girl who doesn't drink. 😛 (Yes that was a joke, no need to tell me of all the brilliant minds that have been saturated with alcohol).

dc
 


<< I just find that when people are drunk, they tend to do or say things that may not be entirely in line with what they actually feel or believe. >>



I'm sorry, but your being a genuine person has NOTHING to do with your distaste for alcohol. People can be very genuine when they drink and others can be genuine when they don't drink.

If you don't like drinking, don't do it. I don't see what the problem here is. Maybe this "Lauren" girl isn't the one for you. The drinking could eventually be a big issue. If you don't like frat parties, you probably never will. So, either suck it up or don't go.

Am I the only one that doesn't really see an issue here? Do what YOU want, not what other people want. If you have to change yourself to be with this girl, then you probably shouldn't be with her.

 


<< yeah those parties where ever soul is hammered out of their mind usually aren't that fun...its better getting sloppy drunk with a few of your best buds, then causing a ruckus somewhere (i.e. the dorms) >>



yep, that sounds about rite. It's more fun getting buzzed or drunk with your good friends. At a party where everyone if drunk off their ass, you got fights, vomit, etc going on. :disgust:
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

TRENDING THREADS

Back
Top