About this whole "asking someone out" business...

[amnesiac]

I have a girl friend I've been hanging out with a lot lately, we've gone to movies, dinner, etc. and I've paid a couple times but we never really set it up as a "date" per se. I'm interested in her but I think I've been a bit teasing and vague (it took me about a month to decide whether or not I wanted to start something), and I don't doubt there's some interest on her end. However I've been in only 2 real relationships and both were very special circumstances, so I have no experience with starting a relationship from scratch. What I'm wondering is how to go from going out to "going out" if you get my drift. Advice from the ATOT guys and gals would be appreciated. Thankee.

My plan so far is to invite her out for sushi this week and afterwards go in for the goodnight kiss, but she's the type of girl who'd beat a guy senseless if he moved in at the wrong time.. I've never had such a problem but she's kind of hard to read like that.

 

[gopunk]

well, i guess it depends on how desperate you are... if you're willing to go into a coma for a kiss... *shrug*


seriously... i would probably just talk to her about it... or you could compliment the way she looks and see how she responds... but then again, i never did like getting the crap kicked out of me

unless you were asking for ways to sort of coerce her into "going out" with you... in which case i have no advice to offer, because my laziness prevents me from doing any excessive chasing of girls.

 

[dude]

Dude, just do it.

Take her out, do whatever afterwards, then take her home. Walk her to her porch or steps and say that you had alot of fun while casually holding her hands. Then just give her on one the cheeks or lips, turn around, and RUN FOR IT! No, just walk away. If she liked or didn't liked it, she'll let you know the next day.

Good luck!

 

[Pastfinder]

Dude, you're getting a Dell!

 

[NakaNaka]

I totally agree about just going for it. Can't let a change like this pass you by.

 

[Nitemare]

You can do itttttt!

Nothing ventured nothing gained..

Sure you want to try and get the first kiss after both of you has been eating raw fish?

Might want to make a make-out tape too...slow songs and just pop it in after the restaurant to "unwind" to, this will help set the mood.

 

[Pastfinder]

Hmm, raw fish then kiss. Sounds like disaster. Beware of wasabi

 

[Juniper]

Go for it!! The worse thing that can happen is "NO"

 

[Jerboy]

<< Hmm, raw fish then kiss. Sounds like disaster. Beware of wasabi >>



hmm beaware of tape worms. Raw meat/fish are excellent vehicle for parasites.

 

[Nemesis77]

<< Go for it!! The worse thing that can happen is "NO" >>



The worst thing that can happen is a ninja-kick right to the balls.

 

[Anubis]

well to avoid the "ninja-Kick to the balls" i suggest that you take her out to dinner then a movie at yory place. that way you can set the mood better you can snuggle with her on the couch or what not and whetever happens happens. and some mood music never hurt anyone just done be stupid about it. like having endless love blasting in you car or something.

YOu could always try makin he a home cooked meal women like guies that can cook. but theres more room for error here if your not a wiz with food. you could end up poisioning her

 

[dude]

yeah, i like that idea better.

Hit Blockbuster or Hollywood Video and get a porno. Take her home or go to her place.

 

[amnesiac]

Thanks for the encouragement. If after this week I'm not heard from again, you can probably find me at some county hospital.

 

[BruNgoLD]

what i would do is just chill..

enjoy how it is now, you dont want to mess that up, do u?
realize that if u try something and she doesnt like it, all this cool, "going out" stuff is going to end, or be weird at the very best.. its not going to be the same..

i just usually make sure about her feelings first, before i try anything... thats just me.. i respect them too much to do something that they wouldnt like..
.. of course.. maybe thats just me..

start giving her compliments, like how good she looks, or how funnee she is, etc.. that way she will see what a considerate and caring guy you are, etc.. and she'll eat it up..

make sure they arent fake compliments or else she'll know..

chicks are smart like that

so just be careful, thats what i would do

gL bro

brungold

 

[superfluousmonkeys]

1) Drop pants

2) Say" Well, it's not going to suck itself!"


Works for me everytime.

 

[Deeko]

here's what you do...you just ask lol

 

[jbmitt]

The easiest way to get a kiss, is just ask "May I get a goodnight kiss?" Its golden! Just remember, turn your head, close your eyes, and keep the tongue in until you are a little closer.

Best of luck.