About being single...

[AreaCode707]

Inspired by cashman's thread - the use of emoticons seems to imply that some of you (surprise surprise) are dissatisfied with your single state. Is this because you can't find *any* girl to couple up with you or because you can't find someone to your standards, or you're holding out for that impossibly perfect girl? Or is that impossibly perfect girl your standard (I know, I know, some of you have found her, good for you.) There are a lot of jokes about the AT guys not being able to get girls, but is that because you can't or because you're looking for something specific?

 

[thawolfman]

See my reply in his thread

 

[Geekbabe]

Dani,

I'm such a brat ! I mean really, do you think dudes are lining up for trout smackings ?

 

[Hammer]

I created a poll about almost the exact same thing, and a lot of people listed impossibly high standards as being the reason for being single. Either that or they were rationalizing.

 

[GrumpyMan]

The devil is in the details. Anyone of these guys could get a girl if they really wanted to, but like most people they seem to believe that there is a yin to their yang (perfect girl).

 

[Danman]

Originally posted by: baffled2
Dani,

I'm such a brat ! I mean really, do you think dudes are lining up for trout smackings ?

Lol!

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: baffled2
Dani,

I'm such a brat ! I mean really, do you think dudes are lining up for trout smackings ?

Who the heck is Dani? Or did you rename me?
Paige

 

[Danman]

Originally posted by: GrumpyMan
The devil is in the details. Anyone of these guys could get a girl if they really wanted to, but like most people they seem to believe that there is a yin to their yang (perfect girl).

Exactly, it took me soooo long to find the girl I liked. Plus, she liked me! That's what really shocks me, who can like some huge computer dork that hasn't had a girlfriend before and liked me?! I COULDN'T BELIEVE IT! I am soo happy with my girlfriend, it just shocks me.

 

[toph99]

i have been shot down 3 times in the past few months, i have very low standards too so long as she and i have interesting conversations, it's a possiblity. girls prefer me as a friend instead of anything more

 

[wnied]

Not the Perfect girl, Not the hottest girl.

Just the right girl.

I'll know when.
~wnied~

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: HotChic

Originally posted by: baffled2
Dani,

I'm such a brat ! I mean really, do you think dudes are lining up for trout smackings ?

Who the heck is Dani? Or did you rename me?
Paige

oppps !! now you know why I'm called "Baffled"


Life is just a never ending series of blonde moments ...no matter what color my hair is

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: thawolfman
See my reply in his thread

Hmm, hitting on me... *chalks up thawolfman on the list of people with low standards*

 

[Yossarian451]

My probelm for most of my time was my unexplainably high level of antisocial behaviour. Meaning I was not willing to socialize and go places and meet people. I am one if those not so attractive nerdy males. However I lucked out by meeting a girl at school who became my best friend and then we just elevated it and it has worked well for me because now I am really happy and I didn;t have to go out and meet people. But beyond this relationship, I think antisocial behaviour would prevent me from getting a girlfriend, and I would be content to sit around and b1tch about my lack of relationship. NO stereotypes but I think a lot of the people on computer forums fill this kind of criteria. It wasn't the standards that kept me single it was my own shortcomings and apathy, combined with fear of socializing.

 

[Lucky]

Newly single.

I broke up with my GF of nearly 4 years about a month ago. Im about to take my first "real" job out of college, and I wasnt ready to make "that step" with her. (her following me, living with me, and eventually marrying). She is a wonderful person but at 22 I feel I need to explore the world a bit more and get a better sense of who I am before committing my life to someone else. We had other issues as well, but the marriage issue was a driving force for the breakup in some sense. I had a strange adolescence (went to reform school) and as such my experiences with romantic relationships were a little behind-the-curve coming out of high school.

I dont think I have impeccably high standards though. I desire a women first of all who can be my best friend and whose intelligence at least matches mine. Attractive body is certainly a plus. I think I just need to mature another 2-3 years before Im ready to marry or anything. Dont see the sense in marrying early if you aren't completely sure that she is "the one". And at 22, I still have some exploring to go.

Of course, having your parents divorce twice doesnt help my confidence in the committment arena. :/

 

[rgwalt]

Well, I thought I had the perfect girl, but that dissolved away. I'm just waiting for something that seems right. Not all possibilities should be explored.

Ryan

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: baffled2

Originally posted by: HotChic

Originally posted by: baffled2
Dani,

I'm such a brat ! I mean really, do you think dudes are lining up for trout smackings ?

Who the heck is Dani? Or did you rename me?
Paige

oppps !! now you know why I'm called "Baffled"


Life is just a never ending series of blonde moments ...no matter what color my hair is

Darlin', you know I love ya anyway, no matter what the hair color. Just don't call me any of those nicknames you use for Heather...

 

[UberDave]

hmm.... I'm single and not proud of it. I just want a girl that's too my standards, which isn't too much to ask. A respectful body and mind / personality. That's all.

 

[gopunk]

who knows... i may think it is for one reason, but it is probably for a deeper reason that i'm not willing to address

 

[thawolfman]

Originally posted by: HotChic

Originally posted by: thawolfman
See my reply in his thread

Hmm, hitting on me... *chalks up thawolfman on the list of people with low standards*

HEY NOW! = JK

In all seriousness though, it's a little combination of everything, not many opportunities arise, and when they do I usually fsck em up by trying to do to much and be super nice insead of just chilling the hell out and letting whatever is going to happen happen. It also doesn't help that lately i've been turned down a couple times with the "to young for me" thing a couple times, ahh well though.

<--- Keeps looking & Keeps all options open

Edit - not to mention that my self confidence has been rather lacking since I was ~16 due to a rough first-love kinda breakup

 

[Instagib]

Originally posted by: HotChic
Inspired by cashman's thread - the use of emoticons seems to imply that some of you (surprise surprise) are dissatisfied with your single state. Is this because you can't find *any* girl to couple up with you or because you can't find someone to your standards, or you're holding out for that impossibly perfect girl? Or is that impossibly perfect girl your standard (I know, I know, some of you have found her, good for you.) There are a lot of jokes about the AT guys not being able to get girls, but is that because you can't or because you're looking for something specific?

In all seriousness(is that even a word). I'm holding out for a smart woman such as you.

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: UberDave
hmm.... I'm single and not proud of it. I just want a girl that's too my standards, which isn't too much to ask. A respectful body and mind / personality. That's all.

A respectful body... now, why don't you explain that a little further to me.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: cashman

Originally posted by: GrumpyMan
The devil is in the details. Anyone of these guys could get a girl if they really wanted to, but like most people they seem to believe that there is a yin to their yang (perfect girl).

Exactly, it took me soooo long to find the girl I liked. Plus, she liked me! That's what really shocks me, who can like some huge computer dork that hasn't had a girlfriend before and liked me?! I COULDN'T BELIEVE IT! I am soo happy with my girlfriend, it just shocks me.

You are such a sweetie and you look just like your user icon, I don't find it hard to believe that some smart girl grabbed you ! You need to hold a higher opinion of yourself my friend

 

[rgwalt]

HotChic- I hope you don't really mean the stuff you say about yourself. The worst thing you can do is to have low self esteem. I did my best to help my ex through a time in her life where she didn't think much of herself. It wasn't fun. Anyway, I'm serious here.

Ryan

 

[AreaCode707]

In all seriousness(is that even a word). I'm holding out for a smart woman such as you.

Seriousness is a word, yes. You're sweet, but going by my past record, most guys apparently don't share your opinion so maybe there's something about me that negates interest, when you get to know me. I'll be darned if I know what it is though, unless it's *dun dun duh* conservative Christianity.

 

[Spendthrift]

i do have incredibly high standards, but not impossible standards. ive met two girls that fit what im looking for. one shot me down and i have to wait until i return to the states before i can broach the subject with the second one.

so i know what im looking for is out there. just have to find the one that is looking for the qualities that i have.

i could get a girlfriend, but why waste the time, energy, and money on a girl that i know isnt what i want in a wife?