You must be doing something wrong...
That RAM should at least be able to do 250MHz...
Did you lower the LDT Multiplier?
Go to Advanced Chipset Features >> LDT Multiplier. Lower it to 4x. When you reach 250MHz and want to push it further, lower it to 2x (3x doesn't work on this board).
Also, set CAS to 2.5.
TCCD can't handle really low write to read, read to write delays (the last four values in the memory settings page). My Ballistix can do 2-2-1-2 (those last four values), but for TCCD, you might want to try 3-3-2-3.