a

[erikiksaz]

a

 

[bradruth]

It's best that you did it sooner rather than later. Give her some time to think and then call her & see how she's doing.

 

[MDE]

:camera:?

 

[OS]

You should tread more carefully, sometimes your outlook may change also. When I was a freshman in college, I met a girl who I became good friends with. I had the feeling she liked me, but I didn't really feel the same way. In retrospect, she was one of the most exceptional women I had ever met, and I really regret that I let that what might have been a once in a lifetime opportunity pass through my hands.

 

[Zugzwang152]

if she was a really good friend, it will be a few days or weeks before you realize that you enjoy each other's company regardless.

i happened to be in the same situation, only it lasted 2 years, not a day. and it took me damn near half a year to recover.

 

[gsaldivar]

:camera:s or BAN.

 

[erikiksaz]

Actually, she had a talk with me. All seems well. She would have rather had me tell her now then months down the line. thanks all.

 

[Shelly21]

Did you sleep with her?

 

[skace]

"i got with a good friend
I realized we were nothing more than good friends"

Check out that order... something musta sucked.

 

[rh71]

Originally posted by: Shelly21
Did you sleep with her?

that's what I want to know also... if not... I think it'll just take time for your friendship to mend but you'll likely never go back completely to the way things were. In hindsight, you should've definitely thought this through before deciding to have a go at a relationship... this is precisely why friends don't always hook up...

I don't think it's always a bad idea. You just have to read it. For me in Sept., I am marrying the girl I was close friends with for an entire year before we got together.

 

[The Stigenator]

go apologise..

I made that mistake once back in HS.. never again.. well i cant say never again.. but the point is that go apologise.. and give it a try..

it will be worth your time.. in the end if it doesnt work out, you got your friendship to hold on to..

 

[Shelly21]

Originally posted by: The_good_guy
go apologise..

I made that mistake once back in HS.. never again.. well i cant say never again.. but the point is that go apologise.. and give it a try..

it will be worth your time.. in the end if it doesnt work out, you got your friendship to hold on to..

You need to kick Tyler out of the house/apartment.

 

[Azraele]

I think perhaps you could have given it more time, to make sure what you were feeling was right.

However, it is always best to tell someone the truth face to face and without stringing them along.

 

[ElFenix]

dumbass!

 

[PunDogg]

i think you did the right thing, but maybe wait a little bit next time. Cuz u could just be getting used to the relationship aspect. But its too late now hehe

if you slept with her and then broke up with her, your a basterd, but if u didn;t things should calm down.

Dogg

 

[thomsbrain]

Originally posted by: Shelly21
Did you sleep with her?

if so, :camera:'s of this!

 

[PingSpike]

Wow, a woman got the "Lets just be friends" line for once. See how they like it.

I guess I can't really understand this situation since every female friend I ever had I eventually developed the hots for. When she said "I might be falling for you." I would have been like 'giddy-up!' and never looked back.

 

[moshquerade]

yeh, i am thinking if you had sex with her in that small window of being actual boyfriend and girlfriend that she is feeling used big time.

 

[Kadarin]

If the feeling's not there, then it's not there, and since there's not much you can do about it, you're best off telling her right away. On the other hand, if you're just confused and not knowing what you want, then you're a dumbass...

 

[gopunk]

sounds like she had a crush on you before and was waiting to make her move... must be a pretty big disappointment to her.

honestly, is she ugly or something?

 

[Leejai]

We need to know if you slept with her...if so, i hope it was worth it because it's going to take a looong time for things to mend. If not, then a couple weeks and hard work (you being persistant) should do the trick....i think all she really needs to know is that you care for her and you need her friendship.

 

[kt]

All I can say is that at least you tried. I've had my chance and now I can only wonder what could have been instead of knowing for sure. I've been thinking about almost everyday how things would've worked out between us. She's now married with a kid.

 

[StageLeft]

I also said that i valued our relationship as friends wayy too much for it to fall as a bf/gf relationship.

What a cop out!

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: Skoorb

I also said that i valued our relationship as friends wayy too much for it to fall as a bf/gf relationship.

What a cop out!

I agree.

It amuses me that people say this. So what does this mean? you can only have a relationship with those whom you are NOT friends with?

Does anybody realize how stupid this sounds?

To have a sustainable relationship, friendship is necessary.

 

[PanzerIV]

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: Skoorb

I also said that i valued our relationship as friends wayy too much for it to fall as a bf/gf relationship.

What a cop out!

I agree.

It amuses me that people say this. So what does this mean? you can only have a relationship with those whom you are NOT friends with?

Does anybody realize how stupid this sounds?

To have a sustainable relationship, friendship is necessary.

Agreed. Admittedly I don't know all of the specifics of this guy's situation anymore than the rest of you do, but on the surface it seems rather silly to NOT want a dear, close friend to become more.