A Simple Plea: Be Civil.

[Carmen813]

short haired wookie...

and i totally agree that this is free mental health care for the masses... it's as useful as any counseling (suggestions never get taken) or talk therapy (see 'moonbeam' and 'johnofsheffield')... it's a soap opera that lets everyone be bigger and prettier and smarter and crazier than life...

Modern counseling isn't really about telling people how to live their lives. At least not the good counselors. Telling someone what to do rarely works, most people want to figure it out themselves. The trick is to help without them knowing your helping them. /evil Mr. Burns hands.

Part of the reason I stubbornly continue posting here is that it's a good way to expose myself to different ways of thinking.

I agree though, that the internet is easy access venting. Problem is that I don't really think getting angry actually helps a person be happier in the long run, and that it is usually an emotion that is concealing an underlying issue. In this case my guess would be fear of the unknown and feelings of powerlessness.

 

[cubeless]

Modern counseling isn't really about telling people how to live their lives. At least not the good counselors. Telling someone what to do rarely works, most people want to figure it out themselves. The trick is to help without them knowing your helping them. /evil Mr. Burns hands.

Part of the reason I stubbornly continue posting here is that it's a good way to expose myself to different ways of thinking.

I agree though, that the internet is easy access venting. Problem is that I don't really think getting angry actually helps a person be happier in the long run, and that it is usually an emotion that is concealing an underlying issue. In this case my guess would be fear of the unknown and feelings of powerlessness.

dang, i guess i could try your method, but i have always used a two step method: 1) practice pulling my foot out of your ass to learn how to resolve an immediate problem 2) use that experience to resolve your other problems so that we don't get back to #1... my success rate hasn't been too bad, overall...

and watch that exposing yourself, you will have to start registering every time you move, and that's a pain...

but i figure that spewing here is better than some of the other options... the debate overall has become more coarse along with virtually everything else in our society - it's the new norm... i find it hard to believe that the drivel here escalate to anything more serious, but who knows?

 

[Moonbeam]

Modern counseling isn't really about telling people how to live their lives. At least not the good counselors. Telling someone what to do rarely works, most people want to figure it out themselves. The trick is to help without them knowing your helping them. /evil Mr. Burns hands.

Part of the reason I stubbornly continue posting here is that it's a good way to expose myself to different ways of thinking.

I agree though, that the internet is easy access venting. Problem is that I don't really think getting angry actually helps a person be happier in the long run, and that it is usually an emotion that is concealing an underlying issue. In this case my guess would be fear of the unknown and feelings of powerlessness.

The unknown that is feared is the fact that we hate ourselves, that our anger is our own self contempt. Powerlessness is the result of not knowing our true inner condition and which means we don't know what to fix. Behind anger is rage and behind that is tremendous sadness and tears and finally deep deep grief. And all of it feels bottomless but for grief. Grief is the real feeling and grief is what heals. Did you but suffer you would not suffer I've heard Jesus said in the Apocrypha. At any rate it is true.

So getting angry doesn't help anything but in a therapeutic situation it's a door to go through. Your rage is there to protect you from feeling your grief. It is only by letting it all out that we get to the bottom.

Everything we fear and all of our nightmares have already happened. What we fear is to remember, to remember by reliving the past with the feelings attached.

 

[cubeless]

The unknown that is feared is the fact that we hate ourselves, that our anger is our own self contempt. Powerlessness is the result of not knowing our true inner condition and which means we don't know what to fix. Behind anger is rage and behind that is tremendous sadness and tears and finally deep deep grief. And all of it feels bottomless but for grief. Grief is the real feeling and grief is what heals. Did you but suffer you would not suffer I've heard Jesus said in the Apocrypha. At any rate it is true.

So getting angry doesn't help anything but in a therapeutic situation it's a door to go through. Your rage is there to protect you from feeling your grief. It is only by letting it all out that we get to the bottom.

Everything we fear and all of our nightmares have already happened. What we fear is to remember, to remember by reliving the past with the feelings attached.

see? a few more years of this and i'll be cured!!! and for so many years i thought the interweb was a frivolous wasteland... moonbeam is going to reach the 100th monkey if he lives long enough and the eternal spring will bloom...