Originally posted by: nativesunshine
Originally posted by: Redhotjrm
Originally posted by: ActPrincess
Originally posted by: KGB
..ANY STRAIGHT males would be the case anyhow. Ghey men are very much in touch with their femininity and usually are very thoughtful and giving. It's what sets them apart from the cro-magnum man and their wants and needs that need to be pleased first. But I just think men don't think about it much because of their marriage or relationship binds them and they are looking into pron and alcohol to relieve their "stressed" lives from their wives... (mental note.. should have written this for sociology report.. )
btw if your buying flowers... buy plastic; they last longer
what does that have to do with doing something nice for someone you love??? if that is how you see a "regular" relationship..... thats just stoopid. that makes me so pissed to think that most men really do think like that. its seems as though there is no hope left.
and if someones life is sooo stressed because of their spouse, well, there is the problem right there, and no amount of flowers or chocolate will solve that.
No wonder there are so many bitter women out there. :|
Yup, romance is the only things that keeps relationships alive. I'll be honest.. I'm not the most spontaneous, romantic guy in the world, but my fiance made it super clear that she is a strong believer that romance is the only thing that keeps couples loving each other 20 years down the road... and I fully agree. My parents love us children, but they don't love each other. My dad sits works his butt off, pays for most everything in the house, does yard work, etc... my mother works too, does laundry, etc, and they just never really do anything together. I think they stay together just because they are complacent with taking care of the family and don't have any type of romantic relationship. I'll never be like that!
my parents are like your parents. They never do anything anymore. HE doesn't even go shopping with her like he used to. He's the ultimate definition of bum when he's at home. Sits around, plays on his computer, washes his car, does a bit of yardwork and pays the bills. And he's so damn passive too. My mom has strict rules for me about going out and stuff...but ask daddy: "uh huh...just don't stay out too late". um..wait, that's actually not a bad thing. nvm.
back to the point..I think romance does play a big part in relationships. It keeps the spark, the excitement, alive. It makes the girl go "aww...how sweet" and makes the guy feel like a big hero for making his girl happy, so everybody wins.
Not that I don't agree with what you women are saying about realtionships and how that guy mentioned about keeping the realtionship romantic. But through your own experiences you see that it doesn't always work out as "wonderful" as Mr. Blain's over here. Giving flowers or suprising the significant other, usually its the same old story.. the husband is tired from work and the wife is beat from taking care of the kids and what have you. Men in this situation was solitude, self sobriety: women on the other hand look for attention from the significant other, satisfaction and a sense of accomplishment. Now I might seem too general in these statement but I hope you guys understand where the ball is rolling. The normal situation/actions in a person's really bores the heck out of them.
Recently my parents took a month long trip to Turkey (they haven't gone there in 12 years) they came back renewed, rejuvinated and happier to be together. It was a present from my sister and myself to buy them plane tickets and sending them on their way.. otherwise they were exactly like how nativesunshine described her parents.. my father is passive and my mother wouldn't let me get away with anything.. A change in atmosphere and activities can recindle the spirit of love I guess
I mean once you know a person.. there's really not much to do with them. When you meet a partner for the first time, there are plenty of insecurities, desire to please them, impress and soforth. Once that is out of the way you have to find a way keep it going.. build momentum and such. But otherwise.. I was just joking with Mr. Blain.. (what did you think the
was for? ) 
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