4 years and it ends in a day

[akodi]

I'm not an emotional person, but jeez I thought that a 4 year relationship would end more dramatically. Last night ex-gf came to visit have dinner watch a movie and at the end she tells me that she's not comfortable with the distance (Berkeley-SD) and says it might be in our best interest to split, and with that it was over what could I have said? It was always one of those relationships where it was obvious that I liked her more, but man this is a downer. A four year commitment and bam it's over, didn't cheat on her, treated her well but I guess if this is what she wants you can't do anything no point in holding on to things forever. I guess it makes it easier because I'll be going on to grad school at who knows where and she'll still be in SD finishing up.

Cliff: gf of 4 years broke up/going to grad school so it makes sense that she broke up.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Ouch.

I suggest :beer: and a party. Hit the clubs.

- M4H

 

[notfred]

I know how you feel.

 

[thawolfman]

:beer:

 

[saxophonoia]

Sorry Man.

 

[dquan97]

awww, poor baby...have a :rootbeer; on me. Breakups that way are hard. Keep doing the things you enjoy and you'll get over it

 

[pyonir]

There are plenty of fish in the sea.


(don't you hate when people say that?)

 

[WHipLAsh13]

Yep you gotta move on because I bet she already has. From my experience women don't usually break up with you in a situation like yours unless she already has her sights set on someone.

 

[Kelvrick]

First thing that came to mind when I read that title was women problems. Looks like you're not taking it too bad and thats good. Go out with your buddies and stuff. Here's a :beer: for ya.

 

[akodi]

i wondered how she couldn't trust me up here, i've stayed honest 3 years into college (granted it was berkeley lol) but seriously it's not like i'm going to cheat on her this far in.

 

[Fritzo]

Yeah, nearly all relationships you will be in will end. There must have been other issues if she split after being together that long. To help you get over it, when you start feeling down, think of all the stuff she did that drove you up the wall and feel better in the fact that you don't have to deal with that anymore.

 

[ucdbiendog]

sucks dude. go have a :beer:... or two... or...

 

[Lager]

Originally posted by: akodi
i wondered how she couldn't trust me up here, i've stayed honest 3 years into college (granted it was berkeley lol) but seriously it's not like i'm going to cheat on her this far in.

I can stalk her for you. Just pay for everything.

 

[kranky]

I'm sure it's painful now, but that won't last.

And where do you get off handling this situation in a rational, logical way? Where's the whining? The cries of "How could this happen?"

Let the rest of ATOT learn a lesson from your point of view.

For you: :beer:

 

[akodi]

haha no thanks i trust her more than that.

As I was thinking last night before I tried to sleep was how I could have made her so unhappy, I think that's the part that people hurt about. The whole time I just wanted her to be happy but I hope she is now.

 

[Aharami]

distance will do that to ya man. it seems like the men are always the ones gettin hurt in long term relationships

go out with friends...go to clubs. enjoy the single life for a while.

 

[tnitsuj]

Originally posted by: notfred
I know how you feel.

You have feelings?

 

[Svnla]

Ouch. I feel for you. Been there, done that. This too shall pass. Keep your chin up.:beer:

 

[akodi]

thanks for your support guys. i don't think my brain cultures in lab could give me this kind of support...no motivation to stay in lab...perhaps i'll take the rest of the day off

 

[gistech1978]

i know how you feel man.
its tough.

 

[AgentEL]

My gf and I are doing the same thing (Berkeley - SD).

 

[Cal166]

I feel your pain man, i been there.

What I learned from my past relationship is that when a girl feels too comfortable, feel that she is treated like a queen and knows that you will never cheat on her---thats when things gets boring to her and things goes down hill.

The problem with most girls these days is that they want a guy who treats them like crap and cheats on them, they do not want to feel secure but feel insecurity.

Live and learn.

 

[DWW]

Do her best friend
That will teach her a lesson !

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

That's one of the risks to getting involved. I know how you feel. Sorry bro. :beer:... lots of :beer:

 

[akodi]

Originally posted by: Cal166
I feel your pain man, i been there.

What I learned from my past relationship is that when a girl feels too comfortable, feel that she is treated like a queen and knows that you will never cheat on her---thats when things gets boring to her and things goes down hill.

The problem with most girls these days is that they want a guy who treats them like crap and cheats on them, they do not want to feel secure but feel insecurity.

Live and learn.

lol, i'll keep that in mind with the next lady.