That audicity cannot work with such a big file I have a hard time to believe, given sufficient ram and temp file space
If it can't, it's because it's a format-compatability issue, probably not so much a question of memory resources. The "manual" for the latest version of Audacity refers only to WAVs, without specifically mentioning the W64 format either way. A few years' old post from someone connected with the project said it can't ((or at least a previous version, not specifically identified in the post, couldn't) handle the latter format, but then I also came across another post (don't remember exactly where) from someone who seemed to know what she was talking about, complete with a source code reference, that says it can. In this particular case, since the the recorder didn't formally finalize the file - the OP is trying to work with a temp file - it may just be that the file is incomplete or got corrupted somehow.
If the the recording is from a source that can't be replicated, it might be worth looking at the file in raw form to see if it can be "repaired" enough either to let Audacity read it, if possible, or at least convert it to W64 format. Otherwise, it's probably easiest to just re-record with a program known to be able handle W64 files, or splitting the file at a convenient point in the performance.