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20 and 17; is that a good couple?

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Jameson657

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I'm a 20 year old guy. I wanted to date a 17 year old girl (18 in February). The father said "no." What are your opinions of this (especially, I want the old male opinions of this)?
 
Originally posted by: moshquerade
that age difference is fine, but father's are very protective of their daughters. she is prolly still in HS, right?
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Yes, she graduates in June. She's very mature, though.
 
Depends on the people involved.
Do you have a lot in common with her, do you like some of the same things, can you relate to one another?

Unless you really like this person I'd probably stay away if there are going to be issues.
 
Originally posted by: TheAudit
Depends on the people involved.
Do you have a lot in common with her, do you like some of the same things, can you relate to one another?

Unless you really like this person I'd probably stay away if there are going to be issues.
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Yeah, there will be issues, and I'm staying away. Her father threatened to take away all her college money if she disobeyed him. The sad part is, we both really like each other. Whatever! I just don't understand how he can make a call like that, without at least meeting me first!
 
Originally posted by: Amused
Just wait until you have a 17 year old daughter... then you'll understand.
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My thoughts on that.... Ok, maybe I can understand the protectivity involved, but I don't understand why he won't at least meet me first, before damning us! Even if he meets me, without having any intention of saying yes, that's still a big respect thing.
 
Did the father explain that the age difference was the only reason ? Because if I had an 18-year old daughter, I'd rather she date a 20+ year old than an 18 year old. At least they are somewhat more mature. And so long as the dude doesn't look like the fratboy-gimme-some type.
 
Originally posted by: Jameson657
Originally posted by: Amused
Just wait until you have a 17 year old daughter... then you'll understand.
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My thoughts on that.... Ok, maybe I can understand the protectivity involved, but I don't understand why he won't at least meet me first, before damning us! Even if he meets me, without having any intention of saying yes, that's still a big respect thing.
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Give it some time then, if you really like each other she'll still be there later.
 
The father said "no."
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Well, father knows best. My daughter will be 17 in just 7 more years. I'll be dispensing the same answers at that time if a 20 y.o. wants to date her.

I remember when I was 20 -- horny like a dog. 😉



 
when i was 16 a 19 y/o guy asked me out and it was a big NO WAY from my Dad.
but then when i was 18 and he was 21 we dated and my Dad ended up liking him.
 
A girl in most of my classes in HS is 17, and she is dating a 23 year old. Her parents have no problems with it. That strikes me as very odd that her parents have no problems with a 23 year old dating a 17 year old.
 
I'd say to wait it out for some time if you can. Tell the father you will wait until she and him are ready to agree to it. Or when she says she doesn't like you. That'll show him that you aren't interested in getting some really fast and leaving. It'll show you have patience and you're willing to wait for her. All that can be done if you really do love her. How long you have you wait I don't know, but probably nothing till she's in college.
 
are you going to be 21 before June? If so, you'll be the prom-goer who can legally drink alcohol. 😉
 
Originally posted by: Amused
Just wait until you have a 17 year old daughter... then you'll understand.
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i don't think any father likes the idea of his 17 year old daughter dating, period.
 
Originally posted by: dolph
Originally posted by: Amused
Just wait until you have a 17 year old daughter... then you'll understand.
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i don't think any father likes the idea of his 17 year old daughter dating, period.
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I think that's the crux of it. What did the dad say no to ?
 
if I was the 20 year old, I would be like wtf is the problem? If my sister was 17 and you were trying to date her, initially I would be like uh... no. Realize that until teenagers get to college, most dating is done grade-grade, so age differences are usually 1 year or younger.

edit: pics? 😀
 
Originally posted by: rh71
Did the father explain that the age difference was the only reason ? Because if I had an 18-year old daughter, I'd rather she date a 20+ year old than an 18 year old. At least they are somewhat more mature. And so long as the dude doesn't look like the fratboy-gimme-some type.
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I wouldn't, the 20+ year old should be "smarter" than the 18 year old when it comes to these things. There's a good chance he only wants one thing and probably knows how to get it quickly. At least that's how it is over here where I know a lot of seniors in HS dating freshmen because they are easy.
 
Hell yes it's fine, but by my standards just one year. Personally if you really like the girl I'd wait until June to do anything that might get ya in trouble, because she is 17 after all... once June hits you have nothing to worry about.

gl.
 
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