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[minendo]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: shimsham
when are you boys gonna grow up and realize that women NEED men other than you to flirt with them and let them know they still got it? it makes them feel good about themselves, which only benefits you. if you trust her, wtf is the problem? i say you.

A married woman does not need to be interacting with any male other than their significant other unless it is strictly plutonic.

So how's your girlfriend/wife?

 

[Pepsi90919]

Originally posted by: Geekish Thoughts

Originally posted by: kami333
Don't you go to bars to hang out with your friends?

It's different when you're a guy. You have the control. Guys hit on girls more than girls hit on guys, and it's obvious that guys are stronger. You get what I'm trying to say. I'm just afraid for her.

But I think you guys are right, she can do whatever she wants.

:thumbsdown:

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: minendo

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: shimsham
when are you boys gonna grow up and realize that women NEED men other than you to flirt with them and let them know they still got it? it makes them feel good about themselves, which only benefits you. if you trust her, wtf is the problem? i say you.

A married woman does not need to be interacting with any male other than their significant other unless it is strictly plutonic.

So how's your girlfriend/wife?

That's a low blow and you know it.

 

[minendo]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: minendo

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: shimsham
when are you boys gonna grow up and realize that women NEED men other than you to flirt with them and let them know they still got it? it makes them feel good about themselves, which only benefits you. if you trust her, wtf is the problem? i say you.

A married woman does not need to be interacting with any male other than their significant other unless it is strictly plutonic.

So how's your girlfriend/wife?

That's a low blow and you know it.

Used strictly to prove a point. With that attitude you will probably never keep someone around.

 

[homestarmy]

Fine, I'll stop banging your girlfriend!

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: minendo

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: minendo

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: shimsham
when are you boys gonna grow up and realize that women NEED men other than you to flirt with them and let them know they still got it? it makes them feel good about themselves, which only benefits you. if you trust her, wtf is the problem? i say you.

A married woman does not need to be interacting with any male other than their significant other unless it is strictly plutonic.

So how's your girlfriend/wife?

That's a low blow and you know it.

Used strictly to prove a point. With that attitude you will probably never keep someone around.

I don't want a significant other just for them to be around. I want a real relationship. Heh... I won't keep the whores around, that's for sure. But that's fine with me, since I'm not interested in dealing with cheating again.

I'll find someone who thinks the same way I do. And I'll be happy.

 

[ajayjuneja]

Oh man Nik, you are in for an eye opening... get a clue

 

[Looney]

Originally posted by: Geekish Thoughts

Originally posted by: Skoorb
You sound like a possessive stalker freak...seriously, what's the big deal?

It's more like she stalks me, it's this simple thing that bothers me. Bars. I think walking into them is asking to get hit on and taken advantage of if you're a girl.

I've told her I trust her.

It's not about her.

It's about guys like the one last week that grabbed her butt and that want to take advantage of her.

You're going to get assholes everywhere... whether it's in a bar, in the subway, or walking down the streets... you're going to stop her from going to those places as well?

If you trust her, then this shouldn't be a problem with it. If somebody gropes her, so what? Maybe in time she'll realize bars suck and stop going to them.

 

[purbeast0]

i think the OP is just insecure. this is a sure sign of it. he's obviously afraid that his girlfriend will go out and find someone OTHER than him if he's not around. i can tell you from experience dude, that insecurity in a relationship is NOT a good thing. being jealous and insecure is different. it's okay to get jealous, but from the situation you are describing, you are insecure and that is definitely not a good thing.

when i first started going out with my new GF, i was very insecure for the sheer fact that she is just exotic looking and beautiful. i mean for godsakes, she was Ms. Teen Nicaragua one year . so at first it was hard for me. but after we had talks about it, i started to feel alot more secure about her going out with her friends and without me. and now i trust her greatly. i still have that jealousy feeling if she goes out and i can't because of something else to do, but i get over it.

just remember ... trust is the KEY to a relationship.

 

[her209]

Tell her you want to go to bars without her.

 

[Shockwave]

Originally posted by: Skoorb
You sound like a possessive stalker freak...seriously, what's the big deal?

Skoorb, never an intelligent one, amazes us with a sudden bit of wisdom......

 

[dirtboy]

I'd let her go to the bars and not worry about it. If you try to control someone and keep someone from doing what they want, you'll lose them. So if you can't handle her going to the bars, you need to get a woman that doesn't want to go anywhere when you are out of town.

 

[bigredguy]

My fiancee is in the UK going to bars all the time without me and i never worry or feel insecure. If you love her you have to trust her. That guy probably would have grabbed her a$$ whether you were there or not, he just would have been sly about it. If you think she is the one you have nothing to worry about. These things more or less take care of them selves. Either something mildly bad happens and she realizes she shouldn't be out with out her "big burly protector," or nothing happens (much more likely) and you were worried about nothing.

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: dirtboy
I'd let her go to the bars and not worry about it. If you try to control someone and keep someone from doing what they want, you'll lose them. So if you can't handle her going to the bars, you need to get a woman that doesn't want to go anywhere when you are out of town.

yeah what he needs is either a time machine or a blow up doll. With a time machine he can go back in time where women did as the man said. a blow doll he does not have to worry about her going out with friends and having a good time.

Pulling this crap is a good way of losing out on a relationship. But that is probably for the best (for her that is)

 

[Gooberlx2]

Wouldn't you feel the same way?

About guys grabbing her ass? Of course I wouldn't want another guy grabbing my gf's ass. But she's an adult and she can take care of herself. Dude, at bars/clubs, that's gonna happen even when you ARE there. Let her have her girl's night out...give her a little trust. Has she ever done anything to take trust away from you? Don't be so controlling over something so trivial. To her, eventually, it'll just feel like your always breathing down her neck. What happens when she wants to do something a lot more independent like go to Cancun with her girlfriends or to Vegas for a bachelorette party?

 

[glenn1]

YAGT: She wants to go the bars when I'm out of town

Girlfriend of 6 months just turned 21 two weeks ago.

Kinda dense, aren't you? If she just turned 21, the bar experience is still new to her and she's out trying something new with her friends. It's normal for someone who just reached drinking age to spend most evenings in bars with friends for the first few weeks because of the novelty factor, she hasn't got jaded by them yet, which depending on the person is generally by 24 or so. As others have pointed out, you can't honestly expect her to sit at home every night you're away just pining away about your absence, nor should you want that.

You didn't mention it, but it would be interesting to know whether she's been spending time in bars to the complete exclusion of the things she used to do in her spare time. If this is the case I do think it would be reasonable to point out to her in a calm, mature manner and mention while you don't have a problem with her spending time with friends, that you're a bit concerned that she only goes to bars with them now and doesn't do _______ (fill in the blank with a former hobby, etc) anymore.