Your thoughts on no-strings attached fun. Good/bad, yes/no? - Update

[RSI]

Thanks for the input, I appreciate it.

Gotta go now though. I'll check this thread later perhaps.

 

[jjones]

No strings relationships are great; I spent nearly 20 years in those kind of relationships. The key is just managing them like any relationship. Don't see each other too often and go out with other girls.

People say, "Oh, eventually someone gets hurt". So what if they do, they'd get hurt in a regular relationship also. The difference is it's less painful and easier to break off when it starts out as a no strings relationship. If it gets too serious then you've only got yourself to blame.

These kind of casual relationships are not for everybody but if you want to just have some fun and not be serious, then go for it. Not everyone wants to hold out for the "perfect girl" or treat every relationship as having a future; I know I sure didn't and looking back I wouldn't change a thing.

 

[DAPUNISHER]

Originally posted by: jjones
No strings relationships are great; I spent nearly 20 years in those kind of relationships. The key is just managing them like any relationship. Don't see each other too often and go out with other girls.

People say, "Oh, eventually someone gets hurt". So what if they do, they'd get hurt in a regular relationship also. The difference is it's less painful and easier to break off when it starts out as a no strings relationship. If it gets too serious then you've only got yourself to blame.

These kind of casual relationships are not for everybody but if you want to just have some fun and not be serious, then go for it. Not everyone wants to hold out for the "perfect girl" or treat every relationship as having a future; I know I sure didn't and looking back I wouldn't change a thing.

You slut

 

No strings attached is great. The sex is even better.

 

[incallisto]

Originally posted by: hoihtah
there's no such thing as no strings attached relationships...
there's always some sort of strings attached...
they may promise never to pull on it...
but who's to say that they won't change their mind on this... say 50 years from now... or when you finally hit that $100 mil jackpot.



stick to relationships that you want to keep... save your self some time and trouble.

Good advice. Relationships with "no strings" don't exist IMHO. That's why they are called relationships. There has to be some kind of connection and the cheap way to connect something is to use string.

 

[royaldank]

Remember the old saying:

There's no free lunch.

 

[joohang]

Originally posted by: Skoorb
Yes go get stinky dinky.

 

[Koing]

I say go for it. AS long as both of you know its just 'fun'. I'd be up for that with any girl I 'liked'. If she wanted more then I'm okay to deal with that. But if shes up for just 'fun' then thats cool by me. Lifes too short. Just have as much fun as humanly possible

 

[ThaGrandCow]

I'm in one of those relationships right now and it's pretty fun. It's nice to be able to come home and make a booty call and be entertained when I'm feeling frisky

 

[RSI]

Thanks guys.. Pretty minimal nef replies so far, that's pretty good.

Well, to people who only take serious relationships, then the "fun" thing looks "evil" almost. But really it shouldn't be viewed that way. I think if both parties are for it and understand the way it is, then there should be no problems with it. It's just like a normal relationship, except you don't care about each other.

I do like her, and if she wants to have fun I'm up for it... I can't wait for the next few weekends to roll around... hehe. I love being 18 now.. best part is, she's a bit older.. not like a youngin' thing - I don't have to deal with immature BS, and I don't have to worry about 'legal issues' either. I should be getting a job any time now... so I'll be able to actually do stuff now. yay won't have to keep mooching off people..

 

[Perknose]

Well, looks like you're going for it, which would be my advice. Wisdom can involve taking what life offers you. What you should know is TANSTAFL, like a previous poster said, "There is no such thing as a free lunch". What this means is that you will eventually pay an emotional price when it comes time to part ways, unless you're made of stone, which most of us are not. But, hey, that's OK, enjoy these moments, life is for living.

Afterwards, when it's all said and done, you'll know what the rest of us are saying -- that, you, too, are not immune to the rule that EVERYTHING has it's price. IMHO, it's a price worth paying, especially at 18.

 

[RSI]

Thanks Perknose.

 

[Semidevil]

Originally posted by: RSI
hehe. If she DID want a relationship I'd be all for that, cause she's an awesome person. She doesn't seem to want to ... and I'm liking this so far.

So if she offered a relationship, then you would be all for it. Personally, I think that means that you do have some feelings for her(very thin strings). Lets say you guys do this for 3 months. She gets into a serious relationship, and needs to stop seeing you. Can you truthfully say that you won't feel anything? It's like you just lost the chance at a relationship.......

 

[RSI]

"So if she offered a relationship, then you would be all for it. Personally, I think that means that you do have some feelings for her(very thin strings). Lets say you guys do this for 3 months. She gets into a serious relationship, and needs to stop seeing you. Can you truthfully say that you won't feel anything? It's like you just lost the chance at a relationship....... "

Of course I can't say I wouldn't feel anything, that'd be lying. No human would feel nothing. It would sadden me, for sure. But doubtless it would be far less painful than previous 'emotional' trauma. The whole point is that it doesn't mean as much and hence doesn't cause as much pain. I would be able to let go easier.