What's that one thing that your spouse/SO does that just sends your blood pressure through the roof? What would your SO/spouse say yours is?
My Wife
My wife is all but totally incapable of accepting responsibility for her mistakes. She's a naturally forgetful person, which is out of her control, but when that forgetfulness has consequences she'll blame everyone under the moon, from me to her freakin' mother. For instance, we were recently on vacation at the beach with the in-laws. We were parked about a half mile from the beach and had a ton of crap with us, including our two small children. While at the beach, our children got real cranky so we had to leave early. We hiked the HALF MILE back to our car in 90+ degree weather with our kids and a ton of sh1t I didn't want to bring in the first place. We get back to the beach house and realize that my wife never got the keys from her mother, even after I reminded her. So we're now locked out with screaming, tired, hungry kids.
Me: "Where are the keys?"
Her: "Dammit my mom forgot to give them to me"
Me: "Uhh... no, you forgot to get them from your mom... She had no idea when we were leaving."
We went 'round and 'round on this for the next 10 minutes and the thing ended with her still pissed that her mom "forgot" to give her the keys, even though her mom isn't a freaking psychic and had no idea we were leaving.
In an un-related incident: a few days after getting back, I left to go to work for the day. My wife calls me all pissed off that I forgot to take some papers to work for our insurance.
Her: "I told you over the weekend that you needed to take that stuff in"
Me: "And I told you to remind me before I left for work, so we both forgot"
Her: "But I told you on Saturday!"
Me: "And I told you to remind me on Monday!"
Her: "But you left too quick for me to remind you!"
Me: "Did I not kiss you goodbye and say goodbye to the kids this morning?!"
Her: "Yes"
Me: "Well, I think that would have given you ample time to remind me... HAD YOU REMEMBERED!"
She couldn't even let it go with me saying "look, we both forgot... just leave it at that". When it becomes obvious that a something was indeed her responsibility (in whole or part), she starts wildly grasping at rediculous crap like "you left too quickly". That in turn just ticks me off because it's obvious that she's just playing some stupid blame game and doing whatever's possible to avoid it.
I could give a crap who's fault it is, we all make mistakes, but I'll be dipped in sh1t if you're going to rip my head off for YOUR mistake (or one that we shared).
She works for her stepfather as a legal secretary and he's always getting citations from the court because papers weren't filed on time, etc. She comes home daily ranting about how he got pissed at her, and she always has 101 excuses for why it wasn't her fault. Most of the time I just have to tune the whole rant out because even from her side of the story it's pretty obvious who's to blame. The fact is, it's HER job to fill out that paperwork and send it in. Half the time she sends it in incomplete and the other half the time it doesn't get sent in at all. Quit trying to blame the freaking janitor!!!
Whew... that's been bottled up for a while.
Me
The thing she would probably say she hates most about me is that I let the kids get away with too much, which is certainly true. My son is becoming difficult to handle at 2 1/2 because I don't reign him in at times when he really needs it. When she confronts me with it I get really defensive because I take it as her attacking my parenting skills (which I guess in a way she is, but it's necessary). At first my son's behavior was just "cute" and funny, but it's now getting to the point where he's being distructive and completely unresponsive to parental direction.
I've created a mini-monster.
My Wife
My wife is all but totally incapable of accepting responsibility for her mistakes. She's a naturally forgetful person, which is out of her control, but when that forgetfulness has consequences she'll blame everyone under the moon, from me to her freakin' mother. For instance, we were recently on vacation at the beach with the in-laws. We were parked about a half mile from the beach and had a ton of crap with us, including our two small children. While at the beach, our children got real cranky so we had to leave early. We hiked the HALF MILE back to our car in 90+ degree weather with our kids and a ton of sh1t I didn't want to bring in the first place. We get back to the beach house and realize that my wife never got the keys from her mother, even after I reminded her. So we're now locked out with screaming, tired, hungry kids.
Me: "Where are the keys?"
Her: "Dammit my mom forgot to give them to me"
Me: "Uhh... no, you forgot to get them from your mom... She had no idea when we were leaving."
We went 'round and 'round on this for the next 10 minutes and the thing ended with her still pissed that her mom "forgot" to give her the keys, even though her mom isn't a freaking psychic and had no idea we were leaving.
In an un-related incident: a few days after getting back, I left to go to work for the day. My wife calls me all pissed off that I forgot to take some papers to work for our insurance.
Her: "I told you over the weekend that you needed to take that stuff in"
Me: "And I told you to remind me before I left for work, so we both forgot"
Her: "But I told you on Saturday!"
Me: "And I told you to remind me on Monday!"
Her: "But you left too quick for me to remind you!"
Me: "Did I not kiss you goodbye and say goodbye to the kids this morning?!"
Her: "Yes"
Me: "Well, I think that would have given you ample time to remind me... HAD YOU REMEMBERED!"
She couldn't even let it go with me saying "look, we both forgot... just leave it at that". When it becomes obvious that a something was indeed her responsibility (in whole or part), she starts wildly grasping at rediculous crap like "you left too quickly". That in turn just ticks me off because it's obvious that she's just playing some stupid blame game and doing whatever's possible to avoid it.
I could give a crap who's fault it is, we all make mistakes, but I'll be dipped in sh1t if you're going to rip my head off for YOUR mistake (or one that we shared).
She works for her stepfather as a legal secretary and he's always getting citations from the court because papers weren't filed on time, etc. She comes home daily ranting about how he got pissed at her, and she always has 101 excuses for why it wasn't her fault. Most of the time I just have to tune the whole rant out because even from her side of the story it's pretty obvious who's to blame. The fact is, it's HER job to fill out that paperwork and send it in. Half the time she sends it in incomplete and the other half the time it doesn't get sent in at all. Quit trying to blame the freaking janitor!!!
Whew... that's been bottled up for a while.
Me
The thing she would probably say she hates most about me is that I let the kids get away with too much, which is certainly true. My son is becoming difficult to handle at 2 1/2 because I don't reign him in at times when he really needs it. When she confronts me with it I get really defensive because I take it as her attacking my parenting skills (which I guess in a way she is, but it's necessary). At first my son's behavior was just "cute" and funny, but it's now getting to the point where he's being distructive and completely unresponsive to parental direction.
I've created a mini-monster.
