Your neighbor is on a sexual offenders list, how would you deal with this situation?

[Braznor]

You just get the news your longtime friendly neighbor is now a registered sex offender. How will you deal with him/her/they?

 

[igor_kavinski]

It can be tough. Sanest option would be to break off contact because I wouldn't be comfortable knowing what else he might be capable of.

Had this issue at my company. This guy I knew (let's call him N) and had OK relations with, was sent to some labor camp to collect money in return for remittance services. They were a bunch of guys, all our employees. So they had something like $25000 in a bag. At night, a fight broke out between them. A smaller guy accused N of trying to have sex with him. N maintained that the smaller guy was trying to steal some of the money and when N caught him in the act, the shorty made this story up. Now what didn't help N's case was the fact that few other short statured employees came forward, saying that N had tried to intimidate them into having sex with them. Not aware what actually happened because the company obviously tried its best to avoid the bad publicity by keeping everything hush hush. So N got fired eventually.

I guess I shouldn't have been surprised coz he once offered to be my room mate so I wouldn't have to pay full rent and used the promise of free massages to entice me

I said, NOPE!

By the way, N was shorter than me so that's why I never got intimidated by him

 

[sandorski]

Would like more details. It can be quite broad in meaning and may not indicate danger/risk.

 

[IronWing]

Giggity?

 

[balloonshark]

The Catholic church was there long before you bought your house. You should have known better.

 

[Torn Mind]

The only way to justly treat a sex offender is to severe ties. They are not worthy of mercy or a second chance.

Because if he could manipulate someone into accessing their kids, he/she is also more than capable of manipulating you. Plus, their abilities to manipulate are used elsewhere, not just for sex offending.

I and my mother dealt with two sex offenders as tenants. Needless to say, a true appreciation of their conduct can only be grasped that the sex offending is but merely a part of an overall ability to trigger and manipulate "social cues/norms".

They can cause damages in other ways, on smaller scale. If you have no record or inspection, they'll break something and claim it's an issue.

 

[VirtualLarry]

They can cause damages in other ways, on smaller scale. If you have no record or inspection, they'll break something and claim it's an issue.

TBF, you and your grandmother seem like slum-lords with comments like that.

 

[MrSquished]

I would take the million bucks I just found in a bag and move.

 

[blackangst1]

Would like more details. It can be quite broad in meaning and may not indicate danger/risk.

This.

 

[Torn Mind]

TBF, you and your grandmother seem like slum-lords with comments like that.

Mother. She's old because she had me late, so that's how I know the Medicare experience. My grandmother died in her 90s about ten years ago.

Sex offender #1 reduced the ease at which a key could slide into the slot on the front door lock. The lock remained "functional", but he tried to claim credit for lubing up the inside and "trying" to help. Sex offender #1 did not penetrate his daughter, but he had her in the same bad as he during visitations and would put his stick down there in the area of his daughter's genitals.

His mannerisms certainly showed a politeness and understanding on how to talk to other's. Basically, nothing would indicate the bad shit he did.

There is also the suspicious matter of the toilet supply valve in the bathroom he used being broken, but that I cannot definitely pin on him or tenants after him, because there's plausible explanations any of them could have done it(two other suspicious tenants). The damage is not noticeable except when I went to do repair and couldn't shut it off with supply switch, so I had to shut the main off.



Sex offender 2. Multiple incidents that could only be classified as abnormal

1. Copper pipe that supplies a toilet develops a leak. This was way back at the start of his tenancy; there was also retired lawyer co-tenant who might have did or the two conspired together The hole is not large enough to definitively say it was a pinhole leak. But at the same time...since it is a toilet supply valve, likely recent installed since the basement should not have been finished, the development is premature. The water here is also very alkaline. It also happen on a straight section of pipe, not elbows or fittings.

2. Someone pounded a hole in the drywall downstairs and then spackled it back up, basically ruining a section where the paint job was smooth. It could have been him or two other tenants whom he got friendly with. I have video of the before and after since a inspection was done merely a week prior where the wall was good

3. Shutting down electricity to the central A/C and other places to the house...thereby creating a situation.

4. A/C malfunctioning in the frequency of yearly despite having a new control board and new motor+cap installed. Clearly, the aim was to do whatever it takes to spin a story that the A/C was in a state where warranty of habitability was violated, be it from damaging the equipment or cutting power off to it. It's very hard to inspect cut off power or show someone shorted up points on a control board. But new control boards should not be failing every year when the unit also was barely used because it didn't have power.

5. Gutters riveted together mysteriously separate despite being shielded on one side by brick and not having trees within 200 feet of the townhouse.

As for the nature of the crime of offender Number 2. He befriended someone at work and apparently made representation to friend's mom he was homeless and need a place to rent. Eventually, over the course of 1.5 years, he would abuse the family's daughter unnoticed. BUT, he had a brazen streak, where he exposed himself to kids in local stores, prompting police calls. Eventually, the family's mom recognized him in media communications, and then told authorities whatever she knew. THEN they investigated the family daughter. So he got 10 years.

But the salient fact is that he managed to keep his activities unnoticed for 1.5 years and would have probably had even more time to abuse had he not been so brazen in front of people in retail stores.

 

[MrBailey]

If sexual offender = molested a child, raped someone, exposes themselves, etc then they are history. Disassociate quickly.

If sexual offender = got caught peeing in parking lot (to avoid uromysitisis), then laugh it off, share some beers...and keep an eye on my car.

 

[JM Aggie08]

Ask them to babysit, clearly.

 

[bba-tcg]

Would need more information as to the nature of the crime(s) first. Here, they notify you if someone is on that type of list, and briefly, why.

 

[BoomerD]

Pepper the neighborhood with signs similar to this:

 

[soulcougher73]

Did he pee in a public alley outside a bar one night? That'll get you on the list.

 

[MtnMan]

Did he pee in a public alley outside a bar one night? That'll get you on the list.

This!
There are many on the sexual offenders list that absolutely should not be there. The guy caught pissing behind a car or dumpster, the 18-year-old boy that has sex with his almost 18-year-old girlfriend.

Of course, there are others that should have PERV tattooed on their forehead.

Seriously, how many of us would have ended up on the list during our high school dating years, where she was 100% willing, and even initiated the act?

 

[Red Squirrel]

It's a really touchy subject and without knowing details I'd rather just stay out of it. I would act like I don't even know but also not exactly try to make friends with him either. If I had kids I'd make sure they're never alone near/with him.

 

[skyking]

Unlike every other response in here, I would want to keep tabs on this person. Bad shit happens in the dark. Keep shining a light.

 

[A///]

this is why nextdoor exists. Anytime I move somewhere new or buy a new house I'll check out the lay of the land. Speak with the neighbors, and then look up any offender in the area.

 

[lxskllr]

I purposely avoid NextDoor. Aside from probably being spyware of some kind(I haven't actually looked), it's also probably full of gossiping bitches. If I want to know what's going, I'll open my eyes. I don't care what my neighbors think.

 

[Red Squirrel]

I checked nextdoor as I was curious, it's basically Facebook but with less people. I never go on it.

 

[MtnMan]

this is why nextdoor exists. Anytime I move somewhere new or buy a new house I'll check out the lay of the land. Speak with the neighbors, and then look up any offender in the area.

Nextdoor is just a playground for all the Karens in the hood.

 

[Shmee]

IMO I think sex crime laws are kinda silly, for reasons already mentioned. I would continue as normal, maybe ask him the nature of the conviction and his story, and go from there.

 

[igor_kavinski]

maybe ask him the nature of the conviction and his story, and go from there.

That may not always be helpful, especially if the person is very adept at shadiness. Like the guy I mentioned, I got his end of the story from him and I was convinced that he was innocent. So I went to the managing director to try to acquit him. And the background on the guy he gave me, made it clear that the guy had many past complaints against him and this was going to be the final straw because now no other employee was willing to work with him.

 

[Muse]

I'd be nervous and watchful, what else can you do? Not worried for me, but my neighbors. Lots of kids in the area and there's a park across the street, that alone would make me suspicious.