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Lifer
- Aug 10, 2001
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I've been through that alcoholic stage. It's destructive and hopefully you will find the will to overcome the desire of the bottle. It's comforting but it's a hollow comfort.
Bored...depressed...no meaning. Sounds like some involvement in a community group or anything with other people would be helpful. Doesn't have to be with people your age or anything. Just human contact. We often don't get enough of that in our electronic era...I know from first-hand experience.
Bored...depressed...no meaning. Sounds like some involvement in a community group or anything with other people would be helpful. Doesn't have to be with people your age or anything. Just human contact. We often don't get enough of that in our electronic era...I know from first-hand experience.
Well, the truth hurts man, you need to see a professional and possibly start taking some meds or something. Just don't let this thing ruin your entire life.
the worst part is its been going on so long that ive become used to the depression and boredom...i think that is a horrible thing
<< the worst part is its been going on so long that ive become used to the depression and boredom...i think that is a horrible thing >>
Yeah, it is horrible. Really man, I think you should seek some professional help.
Yes, the depression and the boredom can seem like it lasts for years on end. Have you ever looked back and considered when you were happy? I was happy during college but miserable after graduation (still am miserable). The biggest omission is the lack of meaningful social contact. I mean, I work full-time and see people all day, but it's cold/corporate. I don't get into those late-night b!tch sessions anymore because I'm too old and there's nobody around for that. College was special...tons of people your age, in the same situation, many with lots of free time, willing to do just about anything. Sigh.
Growing up sucks because many of us have a hard time adjusting from education mode (K-12, college) to the "real world". The real world is cold and dreary.
Growing up sucks because many of us have a hard time adjusting from education mode (K-12, college) to the "real world". The real world is cold and dreary.
Ivery time I wade into one of these threads there's always a spontaneous remission, but I'll give it a small effort.
You say you are bored. What does that mean. Does the world owe you stimulation? Are you so much a product of a fast paced flower to flower TV instant gratification life style that the first breakdown in your fix and you find yourself at your wits end?
You may be suffering from growing pains, the collision of unexamined assumptions about life and life itself. Nothing to get alarmed about. It happens with great frequency.
Part of the problem is that we are conditioned to feel powerless. Life is boring and that's the end of it. You have to find a means to satisfy yourself via your own resources.
Lets look a bit a boredom. It is lack of stimulation, repetition of actions without any feeling of satisfaction. Feeling, yes feeling, my favorite word. Boredom is the inability to feel, the supression of feeling. Why, because something unpleasant is haunting us, the feeling we are unwanted and unloved, that we are worthless. Better to die than to feel that, or more correctly feel that that is the truth. Well it isn't the truth. It is a lie. There is nothing wrong with you or anybody else. there is just the feeling there is.
If you are truly down and contemplating death, you can profit from professional help to help you become conscious of what is being supressed. It will turn out to be huge for you in the unconscious, but no biggy when exposed to the light. The birthday thingy is a clue that you may be feeling less important than you think you should on that day. Holidays where we were joyous as children are very tough on us in the depression department because they bring up and cause to be activated our supression powers. The act of activly supressing feelings is hell itself.
Letting go is like dying. You remember and reexperience all the ancient pain. But in that suffering there is tremendous and full life. You truly are and it only goes so deep. Beyond that you were a beautiful little child and if you cry out all your tears that's where you'll find yourself.
Once upon a time my world was black and I knew that I would never be happy. Here is a story that helped me save myself.
A man was chased over a cliff by a tiger. He clung there desparately to a root, the muscles in his arms slowly tiring. Le looked down to see another tiger below. Then he noticed a strawberry growing besides him on the cliff face. He plucked it and it tasted so good.
You say you are bored. What does that mean. Does the world owe you stimulation? Are you so much a product of a fast paced flower to flower TV instant gratification life style that the first breakdown in your fix and you find yourself at your wits end?
You may be suffering from growing pains, the collision of unexamined assumptions about life and life itself. Nothing to get alarmed about. It happens with great frequency.
Part of the problem is that we are conditioned to feel powerless. Life is boring and that's the end of it. You have to find a means to satisfy yourself via your own resources.
Lets look a bit a boredom. It is lack of stimulation, repetition of actions without any feeling of satisfaction. Feeling, yes feeling, my favorite word. Boredom is the inability to feel, the supression of feeling. Why, because something unpleasant is haunting us, the feeling we are unwanted and unloved, that we are worthless. Better to die than to feel that, or more correctly feel that that is the truth. Well it isn't the truth. It is a lie. There is nothing wrong with you or anybody else. there is just the feeling there is.
If you are truly down and contemplating death, you can profit from professional help to help you become conscious of what is being supressed. It will turn out to be huge for you in the unconscious, but no biggy when exposed to the light. The birthday thingy is a clue that you may be feeling less important than you think you should on that day. Holidays where we were joyous as children are very tough on us in the depression department because they bring up and cause to be activated our supression powers. The act of activly supressing feelings is hell itself.
Letting go is like dying. You remember and reexperience all the ancient pain. But in that suffering there is tremendous and full life. You truly are and it only goes so deep. Beyond that you were a beautiful little child and if you cry out all your tears that's where you'll find yourself.
Once upon a time my world was black and I knew that I would never be happy. Here is a story that helped me save myself.
A man was chased over a cliff by a tiger. He clung there desparately to a root, the muscles in his arms slowly tiring. Le looked down to see another tiger below. Then he noticed a strawberry growing besides him on the cliff face. He plucked it and it tasted so good.
I looked at your profile and I noticed you live in Ridgway. Well, I've been through Ridgway on the way to Niagara Falls from State College and can understand why you are bored. 
Maybe you just need a little change of environment. Maybe life in a big city would do you good. Well, I'm not mandating that you move but I always wondered how I would be able to cope in a small town in the middle of nowhere. I'm not sure I could handle it.
Do you live with other people? Where are they now?
Maybe you just need a little change of environment. Maybe life in a big city would do you good. Well, I'm not mandating that you move but I always wondered how I would be able to cope in a small town in the middle of nowhere. I'm not sure I could handle it.Do you live with other people? Where are they now?
<< U guys ever have the feeling that ur just wasting time till u die?...that maybe youde accomplish more by being dead than alive??...that your all alone??......well i have all those feelings right now...im constantly bored and depressed and killing myself would really be the most productive thing ive done....i cant take this anymore >>
You are most likely just chemically imbalanced due to the effects of winter... in other words depressed.. many people get it and most of the time it'll go away if you know how to deal with it properly.. if not there are many drugs out there for it..
Edit: Winter sucks for anybody.. I was heavily depressed last week and bored but I got out, shopped, walked through the park (freezing my ass off too
), watched movies, lit stuff on fire (cigars you fools), and hung around with friends.. if you don't have any of these you can always buy a nice humming flourescent light to keep you company and the natural light (white) tubes are clinically proven to prevent depression to a certain degree in the Winter.. either way I wish good luck to you man cuz I have those thoughts occasionally and inevitably and they suck but they go away sooner or later..ide give anything to leave right now...i want a one way ticket to Europe and thats it...no coming back
<< is there like a limit to how much tylenol/advil u can take? >>
Yes. Maybe instead of intermittently posting suicidal thoughts throughout this thread, you should carefully read everyone's replies.
Do make an effort to read the long ones too -- there's quite a lot of wisdom in them.
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<< ide give anything to leave right now...i want a one way ticket to Europe and thats it...no coming back >>
Ah, excellent. By the looks of it, your small town is smothering you. Just be sure that you pick a country in whose language you're fluent, else that'll be more reason for depression and boredom.
Long walks, long drives...done that. It can be good therapy because the repetitive nature of putting one foot forward after another produces a lulling clockwork effect that can stabilize your mental state.
Perhaps you need a good genuine cry, just because. It can release so much pent-up tension and frustration. Cathartic. Sometime it's best when you are listening to music. My favorite emotional-release track is "Viõrar Vel Til Loftárasa" by Sigur Ros. Got that? It's the 7th track on their second album "Ágætis Byrjun". When I hear music like this, life appears to be the only choice because only then can I feel...death is completely devoid of feeling, eternally.
Perhaps you need a good genuine cry, just because. It can release so much pent-up tension and frustration. Cathartic. Sometime it's best when you are listening to music. My favorite emotional-release track is "Viõrar Vel Til Loftárasa" by Sigur Ros. Got that? It's the 7th track on their second album "Ágætis Byrjun". When I hear music like this, life appears to be the only choice because only then can I feel...death is completely devoid of feeling, eternally.
kami
Lifer
- Oct 9, 1999
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Man you seem to be totally ignoring some of the good advice people are giving you.
How old are you?
I felt like this when I was around 15-16 (i'm almost 20 now) but it stopped when I changed my attitude. If you can't manage this on your own, you need to get some help. A professional can help find the source of your depression...I think it's more than simply being "bored," but if that is a case pick up some new hobbies for god's sake! Something that does not deal with the computer. Anything! preferrably that involves interaction with other people.
How old are you?
I felt like this when I was around 15-16 (i'm almost 20 now) but it stopped when I changed my attitude. If you can't manage this on your own, you need to get some help. A professional can help find the source of your depression...I think it's more than simply being "bored," but if that is a case pick up some new hobbies for god's sake! Something that does not deal with the computer. Anything! preferrably that involves interaction with other people.
<< Yeah, everyone has a purpose. Go out and walk down the street in your town. Find a homeless dude and make a point of bringing him a meal once a week. Just a big mac from Mcdonalds or something. You will feel much better about yourself.
Paul >>
Very good suggestion and if you don't like to help real live people and like staying at your computer go help people in the forums when they have questions and the I WANNA thread in hot deals.. makes you feel like you have a purpose in a way..
My friend got like this last year.
I finally convinced him he needed to break the cycle. He bought a fun little convertable and spent the nect 40 days traveling around the country. He had a great time being solo, and he is now doing fine.
I advise you take a long relaxing vacation as well
. I finally convinced him he needed to break the cycle. He bought a fun little convertable and spent the nect 40 days traveling around the country. He had a great time being solo, and he is now doing fine.
I advise you take a long relaxing vacation as well
I have no purpose.....when I'm home for 3 weeks for winter break. Once I get back to school, I won't have so much free time.
the last "hobby" i tried was trying to learn PHP...i couldnt grasp it..i cant learn like that..i wanted to learn it so i could make just enough money to get a plane ticket and a new life
That's OK, there's better things than PHP...like ASP.NET! And if you didn't grasp PHP, don't assume that you can't do it, but maybe that it's not the best first step for you. I started programming in Basic, then Pascal, then VB, then ASP. It just doesn't happen overnight. Don't write yourself off so quickly.
And if you didn't grasp PHP, don't assume that you can't do it, but maybe that it's not the best first step for you. I started programming in Basic, then Pascal, then VB, then ASP. It just doesn't happen overnight. Don't write yourself off so quickly.no, but it's true. none of us have a purpose, imho, that's why you just go and have fun until you die.
im only 16...and now i know all the "your a kid youll grow out of" sh!t will come....time is not something i have...i want a ticket now but they charge $1300 for a one way ticket to ITaly
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