You and your co-worker work hard on a project, but only you are getting a bonus/reward

[JEDI]

The project is assigned to you. You ask your co-worker to help you. He's been a big help. In all your reports, you give him credit for stuff he's done.

After the project is completed, upper mgmt decides to give you a $1000 bonus. you argue with them that your co-worker should also get some type of reward. they disagree.

You offer your co-worker half. He refuses, saying that if the company doesn;t think he deserved it, he doesn't want it.

You feel bad. What do you do?

 

[Kelvrick]

I voted take it and cash it.

Take the bonus, take the guy out everything paid. Keep hanging out with him until you find out something he wants, buy it for him. Should even out.

 

[cliftonite]

Originally posted by: Kelvrick
I voted take it and cash it.

Take the bonus, take the guy out everything paid. Keep hanging out with him until you find out something he wants, buy it for him. Should even out.

 

[shimsham]

Originally posted by: Kelvrick
I voted take it and cash it.

Take the bonus, take the guy out everything paid. Keep hanging out with him until you find out something he wants, buy it for him. Should even out.

 

[RaynorWolfcastle]

Originally posted by: JEDI
The project is assigned to you. You ask your co-worker to help you. He's been a big help. In all your reports, you give him credit for stuff he's done.

After the project is completed, upper mgmt decides to give you a $1000 bonus. you argue with them that your co-worker should also get some type of reward. they disagree.

You offer your co-worker half. He refuses, saying that if the company doesn;t think he deserved it, he doesn't want it.

You feel bad. What do you do?

Cash the check and get him something. At the very least take him out to lunch or supper at a decent restaurant ay your expense.

 

[her209]

Cash money it. Take your bud to a strip joint.

 

[PoPPeR]

keep it for yourself, then ask him again for help on your next project

jokes aside, yeah what everyone else said sounded good

 

[SuperTool]

Cash it, then give him a check for half. Let him decide if he wants to cash it or not

 

[notfred]

If he already refused half the bonus, keep it.

 

[whaleskinrug]

buy him a moderate gift (~$50) and thank him *once* more in a card. the dinner/lunch idea is also good.

 

[PeeluckyDuckee]

But if you think from the standpoint of the fellow who didn't get the bonus, he'd feel that you were just sympathizing (correct terminology?) with him. I think you standing up for the fellow and helping management see that would be the more effective and appreciative thing to do. At this point, to him it's not about the money, but being recognized for his work and his credits.

 

[Ameesh]

well according to some people on this board, you should buy him some chocolates and a smoking jacket and present them to him in a non homosexual way.

 

[CTrain]

I vote for the strip bar thingy..

 

[alkemyst]

well you shouldn't have told your coworker about your bonus.

Chances are it was not just the project that got you the bonus either.

When I was doing banking, I was the only non-salaried employee to get a bonus ...ever..., did I think there were other good employees there? sure....but the trend was that I did the job and didn't really bitch about working late, having to go to the mall that day to pick up two suits, clothes, a overnight bag to get on a plane for 2 days within 3-4hours.

I later became the only non-attorney to go on the road alone for deals too.

We got into a pissing match though about moving me into a salary level where it would equal my current hourly + overtime (jumping two levels basically) since I didn't have my degree (3 classes short of a Biology/Chemistry/Zoology degree)...however I had about 15 years of banking experience at that time...

so I told them they had 60 days to find a replacement and two months later I went back to school full-time to get that degree.

 

[bunker]

Your bosses will probably be pissed that you told your co-worker about it (if they know that is). You probably shouldn't have told him about it in the first place and just offered to take him out for all the help he gave.

Hindsight being 20/20, cash the check and take him out to lunch a few times at the very least.

 

[PeeluckyDuckee]

I agree, this decisioning should've been done before hand. If you can get management to split 50/50 great, if not, then either refuse the bonus or keep it quietly to yourself. Now the relationship between him and his company has somewhat deteriorated.

The saying of "what he doesn't know won't hurt him" is sometimes true. I was told something yesterday that hurt me deeply inside. If I had a choice, I rather I was never told about it.

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: PeeluckyDuckee
But if you think from the standpoint of the fellow who didn't get the bonus, he'd feel that you were just sympathizing (correct terminology?) with him. I think you standing up for the fellow and helping management see that would be the more effective and appreciative thing to do. At this point, to him it's not about the money, but being recognized for his work and his credits.

i couldnt have said it better myself.

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: PeeluckyDuckee
I agree, this decisioning should've been done before hand. If you can get management to split 50/50 great, if not, then either refuse the bonus or keep it quietly to yourself. Now the relationship between him and his company has somewhat deteriorated.

The saying of "what he doesn't know won't hurt him" is sometimes true. I was told something yesterday that hurt me deeply inside. If I had a choice, I rather I was never told about it.

sorry..i find it unethical..along the lines of backstabbing a friend if i did that

 

[PeeluckyDuckee]

You telling him didn't really do anything positive for him though. I do understand that you would like to let him know how you feel and that in your eye's he's a valued co-worker.

 

[Krakerjak]

Your co-worker is an idiot for refusing $500 cash it yourself, no regrets

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: Krakerjak
Your co-worker is an idiot for refusing $500 cash it yourself, no regrets

nope..it's called pride + respect. when you're making >$50k, 500 isnt worth selling for.

 

[m2kewl]

definitely buy him couple rounds of :beer:s

 

[DurocShark]

a 50% split will really be like $300... YOU are the one paying the income taxes on that grand.

I like the strip bar idea. You can explain to your coworker that YOU feel he deserved a bonus, so YOU will be taking him out. Management can suck wind (between the two of you, that is).

 

[bsobel]

While the project is freshest in your mind, the bonus is most likely an overall reflection of what the company thinks of your performance. As such, I don't think you need to do anything other than cash it.
Bill

 

[guyver01]

maybe he got a BIGGER bonus, and doesn't want you to feel bad?