Yet another girl thread!

[smp]

Hah!
Except this time I don't know how to SHAKE her!!!
She's nice. She's pretty. She has a great body. She reads the same things I do. We have lots of stuff in common. I am physically attracted to her.
So anyways, we were hitting it off in the start, but I lost interest pretty quick. My interest wasn't all that strong in the first place, I was simply curious and thought I might take a chance. So I did, I hang out with her, we did kissy kissy dating stuff that girls love (we even went into one of those maze thingys .. WOW!) .. and like, whatever, I'm not feeling it so I tell her. Now she won't leave me alone.
Dear ATOT,
What do I do?
How do you tell someone you don't like them, without hurting them too much. She has told me a few times that "she likes me too much".
The feelings aren't mutual and I've pretty much told her that, yet she is not the quitting type. She told me that I should get to know her better and that she deserves a chance. Well, I'm a sucker and I was all, "Okay, I guess we can hang out" .. so now she insists I call her all the damn time, yadda yadda yadda.
I'm seriously not this much of an assh0le either, just that it's late and I'm rushing this post so that I can get to bed.
I didn't even sleep with her! I didn't want to because then it'd be even harder to get out. Please don't start sh!t talking me about not doin' her.... I'm not 15, I've been there, done that .. enough times to be responsible about it now.

 

[CraigRT]

Originally posted by: smp
Hah!
Except this time I don't know how to SHAKE her!!!
She's nice. She's pretty. She has a great body. She reads the same things I do. We have lots of stuff in common. I am physically attracted to her.
So anyways, we were hitting it off in the start, but I lost interest pretty quick. My interest wasn't all that strong in the first place, I was simply curious and thought I might take a chance. So I did, I hang out with her, we did kissy kissy dating stuff that girls love (we even went into one of those maze thingys .. WOW!) .. and like, whatever, I'm not feeling it so I tell her. Now she won't leave me alone.
Dear ATOT,
What do I do?
How do you tell someone you don't like them, without hurting them too much. She has told me a few times that "she likes me too much".
The feelings aren't mutual and I've pretty much told her that, yet she is not the quitting type. She told me that I should get to know her better and that she deserves a chance. Well, I'm a sucker and I was all, "Okay, I guess we can hang out" .. so now she insists I call her all the damn time, yadda yadda yadda.
I'm seriously not this much of an assh0le either, just that it's late and I'm rushing this post so that I can get to bed.
I didn't even sleep with her! I didn't want to because then it'd be even harder to get out. Please don't start sh!t talking me about not doin' her.... I'm not 15, I've been there, done that .. enough times to be responsible about it now.

someone please answer this poor guy as I am having the same problem too....

 

[Deeko]

Have a nice long chat with her. Tell her that it isn't going to work, ya know, the usual.

That probably doesn't help you.

 

[LOLyourFace]

Leave her alone, I'd be very flattered if I were you.

 

[HappyPuppy]

She's a controlling, needy b!tch. Run as fast as you can and as far as you can.

 

[Shytestorm]

In my experience, the best thing you can do is what Deeko said. Talk to her. She will appreciate honesty much more than BS. Good luck.

 

[Deeko]

I give it 4 more posts before someone says the ATOT standard....

 

[CraigRT]

Originally posted by: Deeko
Have a nice long chat with her. Tell her that it isn't going to work, ya know, the usual.

That probably doesn't help you.

I can't see that helping him any.. (and me for that matter)

sorry smp, i am kinda borrowing your thread a bit...

 

[Deeko]

Originally posted by: Yield

Originally posted by: Deeko
Have a nice long chat with her. Tell her that it isn't going to work, ya know, the usual.

That probably doesn't help you.

I can't see that helping him any.. (and me for that matter)

sorry smp, i am kinda borrowing your thread a bit...

What would you like us to say? That's what you should do. Rather than avoiding her, trying not to hurt her feelings, you have to have a conversation with her, tell her it isn't going to work between you, that you don't dislike her, it just doesn't feel right. There isn't much else you can do, unless you want to hurt her feelings. Which I would not recommend.

edit: if she really is in to you, its going to hurt her no matter what. You just gotta try to make it as little pain as possible.

 

[smp]

Originally posted by: Shytestorm
In my experience, the best thing you can do is what Deeko said. Talk to her. She will appreciate honesty much more than BS. Good luck.

You don't even know that half!!!!
I was so honest with her that she liked me MORE!!!
Really, I was too .. I layed it right down. I said that in the beginning, you're supposed to like someone so much that you're head is all in the clouds and butterflies are floating around and birds are flying around your head... "it's not like that for me" I told her. She basically said, "too bad, I like you too much and I ain't letting you go that easy"
I don't call her anymore etc.
The other day at work I come in and there is this hot chocolate sitting on my desk (we went out for hot chocolate one day... HOW CUTE) .. and there is a note .. of course I'm such a fvcking inconsiderate bastard I don't even notice it, thinking that someone just put it down there .. later on in the day she asks me how it was .. I was all .. how was what? Hot chocolate???? ... "OH YEAH!" .. I didn't drink it, I didn't know it was for me .. "I left you a note" .. "oh"
Well, she felt really dumb after that and I felt really fvcking bad about it too .. her note was like heartbreaking too .. something along the lines of, "I was having my coffee and I was thinking about you"
Thing is .. I can't figure out why I don't just go for it .. she's just about right, yet I don't feel it. She's a good girl honestly, I should like her .. but I don't. Maybe it's cause she's religious. I'm more accustomed to rabid sluts to be completely honest.

 

[CraigRT]

Originally posted by: Deeko

Originally posted by: Yield

Originally posted by: Deeko
Have a nice long chat with her. Tell her that it isn't going to work, ya know, the usual.

That probably doesn't help you.

I can't see that helping him any.. (and me for that matter)

sorry smp, i am kinda borrowing your thread a bit...

What would you like us to say? That's what you should do. Rather than avoiding her, trying not to hurt her feelings, you have to have a conversation with her, tell her it isn't going to work between you, that you don't dislike her, it just doesn't feel right. There isn't much else you can do, unless you want to hurt her feelings. Which I would not recommend.

edit: if she really is in to you, its going to hurt her no matter what. You just gotta try to make it as little pain as possible.

what would i like you to say? LOL, dude you just said it likely won't help us any. i actually HAVE talked with the girl and still, stuff goes on in her mind... It's uber ghey. heh.. sux.

 

[HappyPuppy]

Originally posted by: smp

Originally posted by: Shytestorm
In my experience, the best thing you can do is what Deeko said. Talk to her. She will appreciate honesty much more than BS. Good luck.

You don't even know that half!!!!
I was so honest with her that she liked me MORE!!!
Really, I was too .. I layed it right down. I said that in the beginning, you're supposed to like someone so much that you're head is all in the clouds and butterflies are floating around and birds are flying around your head... "it's not like that for me" I told her. She basically said, "too bad, I like you too much and I ain't letting you go that easy"
I don't call her anymore etc.
The other day at work I come in and there is this hot chocolate sitting on my desk (we went out for hot chocolate one day... HOW CUTE) .. and there is a note .. of course I'm such a fvcking inconsiderate bastard I don't even notice it, thinking that someone just put it down there .. later on in the day she asks me how it was .. I was all .. how was what? Hot chocolate???? ... "OH YEAH!" .. I didn't drink it, I didn't know it was for me .. "I left you a note" .. "oh"
Well, she felt really dumb after that and I felt really fvcking bad about it too .. her note was like heartbreaking too .. something along the lines of, "I was having my coffee and I was thinking about you"
Thing is .. I can't figure out why I don't just go for it .. she's just about right, yet I don't feel it. She's a good girl honestly, I should like her .. but I don't. Maybe it's cause she's religious. I'm more accustomed to rabid sluts to be completely honest.

She's stalking you. Run for your life.

 

[smp]

Originally posted by: Yield

Originally posted by: Deeko Have a nice long chat with her. Tell her that it isn't going to work, ya know, the usual. That probably doesn't help you.

I can't see that helping him any.. (and me for that matter) sorry smp, i am kinda borrowing your thread a bit...

No problem .. we are brothers in arms .. or something
Highjack away!



I told her .. "I do like you, but it just doesn't feel right, something is keeping me back and that in itself is a sign for me"
So the "I do like you" part is keeping her hopes up .. she is almost forcing me to hurt her feelings .. trust me, I talked to her for a good hour or more, and we were only seeing each other a week! Like, an hour worth of breakup talk, that's like .. a year long relationship right there man.

 

[gotsmack]

just tell her

"look, there comes a point in every relationship where you realize that the person you're dating is or is not the person you see your self spending the rest of your life with. I'm sorry but it's the truth and it wouldn't be fair to either of us if I just let this drag on."

and if she asks how you are sure just say

"Feelings are abstract, like art. You just know, its instinct"

and then she might say something like "what of you're wrong?" say

"Instinct is never wrong"

 

[CraigRT]

Maybe it's cause she's religious

LMAO that'd do it for me too.. that gets the big THUMBS DOWN!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Deeko]

Well, you have 3 paths.

1) If you think you should give her a chance, give her a chance
2) Continue what you already did, calmly telling her it isn't going to work.
3) Tell her flat out, leave me alone, I don't want to go out with you.

Not much else you can do.

 

[Sealy]

Yes talk to her! I would much rather be told the truth, no matter how much it hurt than to always be grasping at what might be. After all it sounds like she's getting in deep with you, so best end it before it goes any further. That means no contact what so ever with her! Clean break. She'll get over it we all do!

 

[CraigRT]

I am attempting path#2 (again)


I am not the A-hole I need to be to tell her to get lost. It's not that I hate her.. I just don't want her wanting me.. she needs to move on.

 

[Deeko]

what would i like you to say? LOL, dude you just said it likely won't help us any. i actually HAVE talked with the girl and still, stuff goes on in her mind... It's uber ghey. heh.. sux.

It doesn't help you because that's what you should do, but apparently isn't working. Read my above post.

 

[smp]

Originally posted by: Yield
I am attempting path#2 (again) I am not the A-hole I need to be to tell her to get lost. It's not that I hate her.. I just don't want her wanting me.. she needs to move on.

Me too! :\

I am not an assh0le .. no really ..




no really

 

[CraigRT]

Whatever, I am confident this girl will eventually get it thru her skull.
her roommate (my friend - that's how we met) told her what the dealyo was (i talked to him) and apparently she didn't "understand"

... lol........

 

[smp]

Oh yeah .. and it's not so easy to just stop seeing her .. cause guess what? She is always there in the computer lab where I work!!! Always doing her work, which is fine, but then we must talk and stuff .. and it's cramping my styles with the other young ladies cause they think that I'm all taken and crap. I was starting to enjoy this whole "single" thing ..

no I'm not a dog .. haven't gotten laid in months, just funny mood tonight
I have been a dog though. I am a graduate at an art school .. I work in the computer lab now .. I get to help cute girls all day

"how do I print?"

"I got a printer at home baby! Why don't you come over after class ..... "
hah!
j/k

 

[Deeko]

Path 2 is the best choice IMO. I also wouldn't want to be an a$$ and choose 3. But if they are persistant as you say, there may come to a point where you can't take it anymore and have to give in to either 1 or 3. Hope it doesn't come to that. Good luck!

 

[CraigRT]

Originally posted by: smp
Oh yeah .. and it's not so easy to just stop seeing her .. cause guess what? She is always there in the computer lab where I work!!! Always doing her work, which is fine, but then we must talk and stuff .. and it's cramping my styles with the other young ladies cause they think that I'm all taken and crap. I was starting to enjoy this whole "single" thing ..

no I'm not a dog .. haven't gotten laid in months, just funny mood tonight
I have been a dog though. I am a graduate at an art school .. I work in the computer lab now .. I get to help cute girls all day

"how do I print?"

"I got a printer at home baby! Why don't you come over after class ..... "
hah!
j/k

hahahah dude i was seriously LOL after reading that....
"and its cramping my styles with the other young ladies"

hahahah........

 

[CraigRT]

Originally posted by: Deeko
Path 2 is the best choice IMO. I also wouldn't want to be an a$$ and choose 3. But if they are persistant as you say, there may come to a point where you can't take it anymore and have to give in to either 1 or 3. Hope it doesn't come to that. Good luck!

I agree.
but after a few rotations of #2 things will be fine I am sure.. hahahah