Yes its a girl thread...well sort of...

[SaigonK]

So I go to this bar for happy hour every once in awhile, and there is a girl who works there and she is pretty cute.
All the people I go with (not just guys) think that she is interested in me or likes me or something.....

So here are the issues I see:

1. I just dont have any guts after the divorce thing has been going on...how the hell do you get over that?
2. I think she is really cute, she has a nice personality (or what I know of it) but she seems young. I am a wonderful 34, but I think she might only be 21 or maybe younger.....would anyone even bother?
3. Should I be this nervous? I mean really now..i am not in high school or hell college for that matter...should I just go and ask her out or just let nature take its course?


Helpful opinions appreciated...thread crap somewhere else if you cant answer normally.

 

[pyonir]

They are called tips. Some women flirt a little for them.

 

[SaigonK]

Originally posted by: pyonir
They are called tips. Some women flirt a little for them.

I would say the same thing, if it werent for the fact that a few girls i work with (well like 4 or 5 of them) said they think she is interested, just the way they say she acts near me, looks at me, etc.

They apparently notice that she makes a point to come talk to us when i am around, and that she seems to always try and stand near me.....I honestly never noticed it....

 

[Bryophyte]

My opinion: wait to date until you're divorced or at least beyond the bitterness stage. Concentrate your energy on your kids for now.

 

[SaigonK]

Originally posted by: Bryophyte
My opinion: wait to date until you're divorced or at least beyond the bitterness stage. Concentrate your energy on your kids for now.

Some good advice there, thanks!
I dont think I am bitter by the way, she can move on if she wants.

 

Seperation sex with other chicks is the greatest. It was the best thing about my divorce.

 

[Bryophyte]

Originally posted by: SaigonK

Originally posted by: Bryophyte
My opinion: wait to date until you're divorced or at least beyond the bitterness stage. Concentrate your energy on your kids for now.

Some good advice there, thanks!
I dont think I am bitter by the way, she can move on if she wants.

Just think of it from the kids' perspective: it's hard enough to adjust to the divorce without having the new people starting to come and go from their parents' lives. Your wife would be doing the kids a favor if she would just wait awhile to date, too.

Good luck with everything! Divorce can't be any fun.

 

[her209]

You are just a babe magnet. Do you by any chance you Axe Body spray?

 

[SaigonK]

Originally posted by: Bryophyte

Originally posted by: SaigonK

Originally posted by: Bryophyte My opinion: wait to date until you're divorced or at least beyond the bitterness stage. Concentrate your energy on your kids for now.

Some good advice there, thanks! I dont think I am bitter by the way, she can move on if she wants.

Just think of it from the kids' perspective: it's hard enough to adjust to the divorce without having the new people starting to come and go from their parents' lives. Your wife would be doing the kids a favor if she would just wait awhile to date, too. Good luck with everything! Divorce can't be any fun.

Thanks, but I dont intend to bring her home or introduce her to the kids.....this would just probably be a dinner or two.
I would mention my situation of course, and if things work out they do, if they dont oh well.

 

[SaigonK]

Originally posted by: her209
You are just a babe magnet. Do you by any chance you Axe Body spray?

Riiiiiiiiiiight.......

 

[GT1999]

Trust what your girlfriends are saying and directly talk to the girl and ask her out.

Done and done.

By the way, grats in advance.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Next time you see her, you could always be upfront with her and go "I'm 34. Are you interested?" and see how she reacts.

 

[GT1999]

Originally posted by: FFMCobalt
Next time you see her, you could always be upfront with her and go "I'm 34. Are you interested?" and see how she reacts.

Oi, gutsy and very confortational.. you may want to work in a conversation before hand. But then again some girls may like the ballsy move FFM just stated. Pick one and just do it.

 

[Looney]

You're 34 years old, and you think a 21 y/o is attracted to you? Not saying it's not possible, because there are some women out there who like to have a bf/husband that's more paternal, but more than likely she's just nice because of the tip.

But only one way to know for sure, is ask.

 

[z0mb13]

do the australian hold!!

 

[SaigonK]

Originally posted by: Hardcore
You're 34 years old, and you think a 21 y/o is attracted to you? Not saying it's not possible, because there are some women out there who like to have a bf/husband that's more paternal, but more than likely she's just nice because of the tip. But only one way to know for sure, is ask.

Kind of what I was getting at...I barely have her for a waitress.....always have one of the other 10 girls that work there...I think i will just try and smooth up to her next time I am there and see where it goes....

 

[Kadarin]

Here's the only real problem I see: How can you realistically date someone when you still live with your estranged and soon to be divorced wife? How do you explain that to the cute 21 year old bartender?

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Here's the only real problem I see: How can you realistically date someone when you still live with your estranged and soon to be divorced wife? How do you explain that to the cute 21 year old bartender?

"Hi. I'm on the rebound. I'm still living with my wife. Wanna fvck?" Lots of women would go for a man like that. They're the kind of women that you don't see again after the next morning.

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: FFMCobalt

Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Here's the only real problem I see: How can you realistically date someone when you still live with your estranged and soon to be divorced wife? How do you explain that to the cute 21 year old bartender?

"Hi. I'm on the rebound. I'm still living with my wife. Wanna fvck?" Lots of women would go for a man like that. They're the kind of women that you don't see again after the next morning.

What's wrong with one night stands?

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: her209

Originally posted by: FFMCobalt

Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Here's the only real problem I see: How can you realistically date someone when you still live with your estranged and soon to be divorced wife? How do you explain that to the cute 21 year old bartender?

"Hi. I'm on the rebound. I'm still living with my wife. Wanna fvck?" Lots of women would go for a man like that. They're the kind of women that you don't see again after the next morning.

What's wrong with one night stands?

To you, probably nothing.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: FFMCobalt

Originally posted by: her209

Originally posted by: FFMCobalt

Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Here's the only real problem I see: How can you realistically date someone when you still live with your estranged and soon to be divorced wife? How do you explain that to the cute 21 year old bartender?

"Hi. I'm on the rebound. I'm still living with my wife. Wanna fvck?" Lots of women would go for a man like that. They're the kind of women that you don't see again after the next morning.

What's wrong with one night stands?

To you, probably nothing.

There IS nothing wrong with them, so long as intentions are clear on both sides, and expectations are met.