YAWT: Carpoolers

[j00fek]

just say its over with and find another ride you putz!

 

[Jikininki]

well..

i still haven't really talked to him...but I did say that he definitely needed to meet me at a certain place. And I make sure to call once I get there if I don't see him (which I know can get annoying). This week I haven't been late once...yet...and he remember to call me yesterday to tell me that he didn't need a ride today (which was so awesome to hear). The money issue is still iffy...he paid me last week..but has yet to pay me this week.

I talked to a coworker about this and she says I should just tell him my demands and I should also ask for more money ($10/wk isn't enough, she say)...but it's difficult for me. I know you guys are all telling me to grow a pair but well...it's just difficult for me, ok? AT least I've made some improvements in terms of asking him to meet me at a certain place so I can take the highway and i've avoided being late to work.

oh..and the deoderant/cologne smell thing..I think it's a certain kind of soap he uses or it's his deoderant. I really can't ask the guy to wait til he gets to work to apply his deoderant, can i? So that's just something I'm going to have to deal with..and once the weather gets even nicer I can just open the windows when I drive.

The next step is working up the courage to ask him to pay me (on time)...and asking him if he expects me to take him to work for the next 2 years. heh...i'll keep you all posted.

 

[Sukhoi]

OP is a pussy. 😀

GJ keeping us updated though.

 

[kranky]

I understand that it's difficult. However, it must be done. I repeat what I said earlier: once you do it you will feel so much better about yourself and you'll find similar situations to be easier in the future.

 

[MrColin]

Tell him to just drive without a licence like everyone else does that gets a DUI.

 

[ahurtt]

Wow 2 years . . .What state are you in? Is this his first offense? I'm guessing not. That seems an unusually tough sentence for a first time DUI offense. If it's not his first offense he most likely has an alcohol problem. And if that's the case, then by catering to him and not putting your foot down, you are being an enabler. Maybe he wears so much stinky cologne to cover up the smell of the alcohol seeping out of his pores from his drinking the night before. Bottom line, you are being WAY too nice and probably not doing this guy any favors by coddling him and catering to him like this. You need to be sensitive but firm and put your foot down. You are doing HIM a FAVOR and you need to make sure he understands that in no uncertain terms and that things are going to be done on your terms or not at all. 'Nuff said.

 

[ahurtt]

Originally posted by: MrColin
Tell him to just drive without a licence like everyone else does that gets a DUI.

Or like everyone else who sneaks across our borders illegally. Hey, it's ok for them it should be ok for us too, right? We don' need no steeenkin' license!

 

[eelw]

I could care less for the gas money, but you're doing him the favour. He will meet you at the predetermined location and time. If he can't do that, yeah, screw him.

 

[imported_Mike]

Originally posted by: Jikininki
well..

i still haven't really talked to him...but I did say that he definitely needed to meet me at a certain place. And I make sure to call once I get there if I don't see him (which I know can get annoying). This week I haven't been late once...yet...and he remember to call me yesterday to tell me that he didn't need a ride today (which was so awesome to hear). The money issue is still iffy...he paid me last week..but has yet to pay me this week.

I talked to a coworker about this and she says I should just tell him my demands and I should also ask for more money ($10/wk isn't enough, she say)...but it's difficult for me. I know you guys are all telling me to grow a pair but well...it's just difficult for me, ok? AT least I've made some improvements in terms of asking him to meet me at a certain place so I can take the highway and i've avoided being late to work.

oh..and the deoderant/cologne smell thing..I think it's a certain kind of soap he uses or it's his deoderant. I really can't ask the guy to wait til he gets to work to apply his deoderant, can i? So that's just something I'm going to have to deal with..and once the weather gets even nicer I can just open the windows when I drive.

The next step is working up the courage to ask him to pay me (on time)...and asking him if he expects me to take him to work for the next 2 years. heh...i'll keep you all posted.

How big of a place do you work at? Just tell him you were fired and can't continue to drive him.

 

[iRONic]

Originally posted by: Jikininki
I know you guys are all telling me to grow a pair but well...it's just difficult for me, ok?

Learn to live with being a doormat for the rest of your life. There's nobody to blame but yourself.

 

[TuxDave]

Even if he paid me for gas on time and always showed up on the corner on time, I wouldn't have the patience to do that for 2 years. Isn't there any form of public transportation that he could use? Bus+Bike combo?

 

[GasX]

Change your name to Door Mat and the problem is solved!

 

[rezinn]

If it was me I would keep driving if he was not at the designated corner at 7:30. It's not your responsability to pick him up, especially if he is not cooperating when you are doing him a favor. If, on the other hand, there was traffic and he allowed you to use the carpool lane, it might be a different situation.

 

[yowolabi]

Originally posted by: Jikininki

Originally posted by: kranky
This is easy...

"Bob, whenever you are late meeting me in the mornings that makes me late for work and I like to be on time for work. In the future, I'm not going to wait for you. At 7:30 I'm going to be on my way. I don't want you to be stuck without a ride, but you need to be on time every day from now on. Understand?" That solves your pay problem as well as wondering if he forgot to tell you he's not going to work on a certain day.

Every Monday, ask for the $10 gas for the week. That solves his "forgetfulness" problem.

Ask him if he could wait to apply cologne until you get to work because you are sensitive to perfumes and colognes and it makes you ill.

Whether he gets mad or not, is not something you can control. You are within your rights to take appropriate action, and if he doesn't like it, he's within his rights to find alternative transportation. You aren't being unreasonable.

That sounds soooo easy and awesome....in my head. I'm one of those who avoids confrotations like the plague...epecially when it's someone I do'nt really know.

But would it be rude to maybe write him an email then? This way I can avoid talking to him in person and give him time to process my requests? Ehh..

Write the email if it's easier for you. You don't owe him anything. Also make the following change.

Bob, whenever you are late meeting me in the mornings that makes me late for work and I like to be on time for work. In the future, I'm not going to wait for you. At 7:30 I'm going to be at the corner that we agreed upon. If you are not at that corner by that time, i'm going to be on my way. I don't want you to be stuck without a ride, but you need to be on time every day from now on. Understand?"

 

[Cattlegod]

stop being a puss and kick this guys ass.


edit: after reading the whole thread and your replies... i must say, you are the biggest puss on the face of this planet. because of this, you should not charge him and wait for him at the corner as long as he wants you to because you sir, are the biggest puss on the planet.