YAW(aitress)T: Waitress being too kind?

[Majesty]

Hello ATOT,

On times to times, my friend and I go to a pub to drink good (like in imported) beers. We often are served by the same waitress. She's very cute and I'd like to know her more.

1- This fall, she remembered when was the last time we came (1 month ago) and where we were in the pub.
2- Once, while at her cash register, I happened to look in her area and she winked at me.
3- She told me she was happy to see me (when I went alone last week).

I think these behaviors are much more than what her job is asking her. Being a waitress, she's got to be kind toward her clients.

So, I am asking you ATOT, are her behaviors "weird" and is it doable to ask her on a date while she's working? If you're working (or worked) in a pub, how would you like to be asked on a date?

Cliffs:
1- Often go to the same pub where a cute waitress works.
2- Her behavior seems to be more than kind toward me.
3- I wonder if I can ask her on a date and how?

**No pics and will never have, sorry... So, I guess it's banning time! **

Update 11/11/05
I went to the pub yesterday night for super and she wasn't working. Stay tuned for further updates next week or so.

 

[swtethan]

she wants tips

 

[yllus]

Come in near the end of her shift one of these days and see if she wants to do something. Even if she's too tired from working, you should hear a "but I'm free ___" in there that will give you a signal.

Edit: That is to say, don't come in alone and ask this. Come in with a bunch of mixed company (guys/girls). Then she can join in with the group and it's a little less pressure.

 

[Looney]

Southpark did an episode on this. As did Fresh Prince of Belair. And i think Saved By the Bell as well.

 

[yobarman]

I'm a waiter part-time... trust me the broads at work don't act this way to a customer unless they like them. Sure they can be friendly and such, but once winking and "happy to see you comments" are involved, its your invite to ask her out.

 

[BriGy86]

i've often wondered if it was alright to ask them out

never knew if they would be creeped out or flattered

(i don' think anyone wants to be the "creepy"person)

 

[wesman6]

What's the worst that can happen? She says no, but I doubt she will. She's dropping those friendly hints because she's interested.

 

[gigapet]

A) stop analyzing what she says or does. It should be irrelevant to your decision to approach her

B) Before you leave next time you are there, chat her up a bit and just say "Hey I gotta get outta here but give me your number so I can call you some time/so we can cointue this sometime/etc. "


Once you have the number then you can call and set up a meet. Just coming out and asking for a date right away is probably too high pressure especially since you are asking this question I am guessing your game isnt that tight.

 

[spherrod]

Originally posted by: wesman6
What's the worst that can happen? She says no, but I doubt she will. She dropping those friendly hints because she's interested.

:thumbsup:

 

[DainBramaged]

While I am not convinced that she "likes" you, that shouldn't stop you from asking her out.

 

[BDawg]

I wouldn't ask her out... but that's because my wife wouldn't appreciate it.

 

[mitmot]

Originally posted by: wesman6
What's the worst that can happen? She says no, but I doubt she will. She dropping those friendly hints because she's interested.

qft

 

[Majesty]

Thanks ATOT.

 

[DaShen]

Stop posting, talk to her more, and ask her out, then you will know for sure.

Otherwise, you will never know, she may/may not be disappointed, and you lose.

 

[sixone]

Don't ask for her number, give her yours, tell her to give you a call if she's interested in meeting in her free time. Once the ball's in her court, let her actions guide yours.

 

[BigJ]

Originally posted by: sixone
Don't ask for her number, give her yours, tell her to give you a call if she's interested in meeting in her free time. Once the ball's in her court, let her actions guide yours.

So he can agonize over waiting? At least if he asks for her number right away, he'll get a definitive yes or no to whether she's even interested.

 

[NakaNaka]

Originally posted by: sixone
Don't ask for her number, give her yours, tell her to give you a call if she's interested in meeting in her free time. Once the ball's in her court, let her actions guide yours.

No No No. Girls are wimps. You don't put the ball in her court. You keep the upper-hand. Normally I would say you ask her to grab some coffee but she probably works until really late. Could ask her if she would like to grab coffee sometime, or ask her after work if she wants to grab a quick bite. Though I don't like dinners for first dates because they are a lot of pressure. Good luck and remember, the worst thing that can happen is you do nothing and keep asking yourself "What if"

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: NakaNaka

Originally posted by: sixone
Don't ask for her number, give her yours, tell her to give you a call if she's interested in meeting in her free time. Once the ball's in her court, let her actions guide yours.

No No No. Girls are wimps. You don't put the ball in her court. You keep the upper-hand. Normally I would say you ask her to grab some coffee but she probably works until really late. Could ask her if she would like to grab coffee sometime, or ask her after work if she wants to grab a quick bite. Though I don't like dinners for first dates because they are a lot of pressure. Good luck and remember, the worst thing that can happen is you do nothing and keep asking yourself "What if"

She is at work, and if you can't respect that, then leave her alone. Her job depends on happy customers, and it's not your place to add to her workload by putting her in a no-win situation. Demanding that she take it or leave it in public is not the way to start off on the right foot.

 

[PingSpike]

The wink to me says she's not just being kind, but that there's a good chance she's interested. I'd ask her out.

 

[mercanucaribe]

Watch Office Space.

 

[Aharami]

could be that she's just milking you for tips...or could be that she's genuinely interested in you. ask her out...you have nothing to lose...

 

[Sentinel]

The only way to find out is to actually talk to her. Stuff like that is just a way of being nice. For the love of God just talk to her and ask her out sometime.

 

[dainthomas]

Originally posted by: mercanucaribe
Watch Office Space.

LOL!

Buy her some flair. If she wears it next time, you're in!

 

[iamme]

take her friendliness with a grain of salt. her pay is proportional to her friendliness, especially to men.

that said, who knows? ask her for her number and/or a cup of coffee. if she says no, just laugh it off and continue to flirt with her.

 

[randomlinh]

Originally posted by: mercanucaribe
Watch Office Space.

haha, i was thinking the same thing