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YART: Roomate letting his girlfriend ...

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shikhan

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Okay, I just need a little space to rant. This may be long so that's your warning.

Last year, me and my roomate, Jon, were in a two bedroom apartment. We got along great and our only complaint was that the apartment was a bit small. So we got a three bedroom apartment because we knew that in two years, Jon's brother would live with us there. So for the current year, we have jon's friend, lets call him charles, room with us. Now, i have met charles breifly when he came to pick up jon once in a while, but never really talked to him too much. From what i knew of him, i knew that i could at least live with him. So thats all great.

During move in, charles had his girlfriend with him, call her Angela. My mom was nice enough to drive down to help us move in since she has a really large van that we needed to uses to move items from the storage shed that me, jon, Charles, and Angela split over the summer. Me, my mom, jon start moving everyone's stuff to the apartment. C and A only take their stuff and then, in the middle of moving in, they decided to break their bed in and locked the door and f*&ked. It wasn't loud, but considering how much me and jon knocked on their door to get them to help move stuff in it was obvious. And my mother was over at that. Furthermore, on move in day, Angela had the nerve to boss my mom around and tell her to take things upstairs and told me I had too much stuff. Fine, criticism i dont care about. Don't boss my mom around if you don't pay rent.

Still, i let it slide. I dont want to run the entire year. I knew it wouldn't be a pretty year, but at least there wouldn't have to be straight out confilct. Angela pretty much lives over here and to be honest, i dont have too many problems with that. The only time I have problems is if she tells me to do something, which she's done twice. I slightly chewed her out then because she has no right to tell me what to do in my apartment where she doesnt pay rent or utilities but stay's here most of the day (including those times when Charles is not here). Just about a couple weeks ago, we were robbed (only small things, a few textbooks, walkman, disks, and a wallet - very odd robbery but i'm not going into that) because someone left the door unlocked at night. Me and jon always lock the door behind us and we usually check at night before we goto sleep because sometimes Angela comes in at night (doing laundry, going out for food, or whatever) and since she doesn't have a copy of the keys, leaves it unlocked. We don't know it was her but I suspect her. Whatever, the theft didn't get over $50. We all taked about it and now everyone must lock the door when coming in or leaving. THis means if i have friends coming over, i'm responsible for locking the door. Its a fairly basic rule.

Today, they did something unforgivable. Normally, i'm a laid back person, so is jon. We let all the small things slide. Apparently, Charles decided to return home for thanksgiving break. Without notifing either me or jon, apparently Charles and Angela decided it would be okay if Angela stayed here until she has to go home on Thrusday. Now mind you, she has her own apartment somewhere in this town. Also, she left the door unlocked today and i noticed it when i came back from my friends house. It has to be her because jon has gone home and so has Charles (without informing me or jon). I know i locked the door when i left because i have friends who saw me.

This pissed me off (and jon when i called him to inform him). I am kicking Angela out of the apartment when I leave tomorrow to go home. However, she obviously has Charles's keys. Which means even if I kick her out ( and i told her today to leave by noon tomorrow), she could come back in. Neither me nor jon are comfortable with this, but its the situation i'm stuck in. I've asked my gf who lives a building away to check a couple times a day if the doors unlocked or if anyone answers the door (and check the lights at night). If she finds anyone home besides me, jon or Charles, or see's lights on, i've told her to call me. I am currently thinking i will call the cops if such a situation occurs, but i'm not sure. I need to talk to jon about that. But seriously, would it be wrong of me to call the cops to report a possible robbery/breaking and entering/somthing if such a situation occurs and it was Angela using Charles's keys to get back into the apartment?

I hate doing stuff like this but i dont feel like getting all the more expensive electronics and other items getting stolen because Angela forgot to lock the door or something. If its me, jon, or Charles who forget, i'll get pissed but at least the three of us pay rent. She doesn't live here. She doesn't pay rent. Can i do something to prevent her from returning to the apartment until one of us three are back?


[edit] - Clarifications asked for
It is a year long contract, renewed allready for me, Jon and his brother for next year.

We cannot change the locks as it is not ours to change.

Me, jon and Charles are on the lease.


Clif notes:
3 people on the lease, me, jon and Charles
Charles's gf, Angela, stay's over almost 24/7 which me and jon don't really mind
Its thanksgiving break, Charles let Angela stay over while he goes home for the week
Me and jon are also going home for the week which leaves Angela here alone
Angela has Charles's keys
I cannot relock the doors myself, landlord must do that
Only me and Angela are in the apartment now, i'm leaving tomorrow afternoon
I've told her to leave tomorrow by 12 and not come back into the apartment w/o me, jon or Cchales being home first
Angela can still come back since she has charles's keys
We jsut got robbed (lightly) and Angela has a tendency to forget to lock the door
This presents a problem

Current solution:
have my gf check the apartment and if she finds someone in the apartment, including Angela notify me. But what steps can i take if Angela is in the apartment again?

[edit 2]
changed A to anglea and C to charles (not their real names)
 
Change your locks and be done with it. All it takes is a trip to Home Depot and 5-10 minutes.
 
i skimmed it but it sounds like all you have to do is get the lock changed and have a few people perma banned from the house.
 
Changing the locks sounds good. $2 says you don't have the balls to do it though. 😀

edit: bah, just saw the edit that says you can't do it.

edit2: I know at my complex, unless they are on the lease, I have to inform my manager if someone is staying with me for more than a few days. Try telling the manager about her.
 
If you tell her she's not allowed in the apartment, but she enters anyway you have every right to call the cops. Better yet, take the key from her so she can't enter.
 
This is why you collect a deposit. Can't you contact the college and ask them to change the locks? Another thing you can do is go into the room at 2 am when she's sleeping and lay down on the bed. When she says "WTF" just say "it's my room, if you don't like it leave"
 
I read it, here's the Cliffs Notes:

Him, J, C, C's gf A in one apartment. A bosses ppl around. While moving in, C and A, do their thing.

A leaves the door open because she doesn't have the keys to apartment. Apartment gets robbed.

New rule: lock the door, its responsibility. A continues to leave door unlocked. Him wants to kick A out, but she has a set of keys. J and C are out and Him has to get out too. A might go into the apartment with her set of keys and leave it unlocked, vulnerable to being robbed again. What should he do?
 
I wasn't able to read the entire rant because I can't stand someone referred to as "C"

Can't you make it a real fictituous name like Chad or Chuck?
 
Several years back 2 friends and I rented 4 bedroom house. Shortly after moving in RM#1 started spending most of his time at his GF's house. My GF was away at college and RM#2 was unattached. RM#1 decided that he'd live at GF full-time and decided to sublet his part of the lease. RM#2 and I interviewed people and got a new RM. Shortly afterward his GF spent one night. No biggie. Then it was a weekend. Still no biggie. Then an entire week. Hmmmm. Shortly afterward she was there 24/7. She was okay at first and we didn't complain, but she soon came to view it as her place and comments that at first were "Gee, you guys are messy" soon turned into "Pick up your damn socks!" We had a gentlemans agreement on the lease, the new guy was paying, but didn't have a true contract. So we told him the GF goes or he goes. He went.

If the new roommate with the GF is on the lease you're in trouble. If the lease is in your name and he's paying you directly you might still be in trouble depending on the laws in your state. Ask him to leave, but I suggest you don't follow the very bad advice offered here and change the locks. That could get you into some serious legal trouble for locking the guy out of his place of residence, and it might get you into trouble with your landlord. Hopefully if you ask/order him to leave he will. If he refuses contact a lawyer before doing anything to force him out.
 
If you can't change the locks, then you need to contact someone on campus who can. They should do it for you.
 
Tell both C and A that A is not welcome there when nobody else is there. If that's a problem, talk to the landlord about it... C isn't allowed to give keys to anybody he wants and let them into what is YOUR apartment too.
 
I think you need to use algebra to solve this problem:

you + Jon + C = apartment
apartment = A / (you + Jon - C)

therefore:

you + Jon + C = A / (you + Jon - C)
A = (you + Jon + C) (you + Jon - C)
A = you^2 + (you * Jon) - (you * C) + (you * Jon) + Jon^2 - (Jon * C) + (you * C) + (C * Jon) - C^2
A = you^2 + 2(you * Jon) + Jon^2 - C^2

Check my math, but I think it means that in other words, A's in control of the situation and you're fuked unless you put your foot down.
 
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
I think you need to use algebra to solve this problem:

you + Jon + C = apartment
apartment = A / (you + Jon - C)

therefore:

you + Jon + C = A / (you + Jon - C)
A = (you + Jon + C) (you + Jon - C)
A = you^2 + (you * Jon) - (you * C) + (you * Jon) + Jon^2 - (Jon * C) + (you * C) + (C * Jon) - C^2
A = you^2 + 2(you * Jon) + Jon^2 - C^2

Check my math, but I think it means that in other words, A's in control of the situation and you're fuked unless you put your foot down.
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I'm not sure which is sadder: That you went through the trouble of typing that up, or that I went through it and checked the math.
 
Originally posted by: Heisenberg
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
I think you need to use algebra to solve this problem:

you + Jon + C = apartment
apartment = A / (you + Jon - C)

therefore:

you + Jon + C = A / (you + Jon - C)
A = (you + Jon + C) (you + Jon - C)
A = you^2 + (you * Jon) - (you * C) + (you * Jon) + Jon^2 - (Jon * C) + (you * C) + (C * Jon) - C^2
A = you^2 + 2(you * Jon) + Jon^2 - C^2

Check my math, but I think it means that in other words, A's in control of the situation and you're fuked unless you put your foot down.
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I'm not sure which is sadder: That you went through the trouble of typing that up, or that I went through it and checked the math.
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Both. By the way, it's right.
 
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