YAR(oommate)T: His girlfriend spends basically every night at our place.

[HAL9000]

It's not fun but you have to do what I did, me and my girlfriend had to sit down with one of our old room mates and tell him his girlfriend could only stay the night at weekends as she was cooking in our kitchen, washing her stuff in the washing machine, using the shower etc not paying anything not contributing to the house, it basically meant we had one uninvited house guest that didn't pay rent.

Unfair. There wasn't enough space for her aswell.

 

[Elganja]

Deal with it. You have a roommate... what do you expect?
Get your own place if you don't like being inconvenienced.

this

 

[Crusty]

FWIW I kicked out my old roommate because she was doing the same thing your current roommate is doing. Always had her BF over and gave him a key to my house without asking or clearing it with me.

 

[JulesMaximus]

You are right in your own place. You live with a roommate, not alone. You shouldn't be walking around in boxers. What if your roommate's family stopped by early in the morning off to some event or something else. It isn't your own place, you don't have that right.

Now... I lived in a similar situation with two other guys. Me and guy2 confronted guy3 about girlfriend3 pretty much living in the house. All 6 of us were good friends, but girlfriends1&2 knew not to overstay their welcome.

Within a week we all had separate housing. Be careful where this may lead. We are all still friends now though. Guy3 is now married to girlfriend3 and me and guy2 are married to new chicks. heh.

Agreed. You are never going to convince a guy to side with you over his girlfriend. I was in this situation and it almost ruined our friendship (I was the roommate with the GF staying over).

 

[Saint Nick]

Tell her she can ride your shaft raw or get the hell out.

 

[Numenorean]

This thread has been posted before....wtf? Like seriously the same exact thing.

 

[NetWareHead]

Deal with it. You have a roommate... what do you expect?
Get your own place if you don't like being inconvenienced.

Bullshit. While having a roommate means one doesn't get 100% of the privacy and convenience that one is used to when living alone, it hardly means the OP should have to bend over in front of the roommate.

First off, I'd be pissed off if she has the key and doubly pissed off if she is overstaying her welcome. The OP shouldn't feel trapped or uncomfortable in his own home or have to deal with her hogging the bathroom for instance. Man up and say something OP!

 

[Raduque]

Anyways teh frustrating thing was that I went with all the girls to their places because... ding ding ding my roommates girlfriend was over here and that woulda been awkward.

What? Bullshit. The correct way to handle it would've been to say

"Hey, it's gonna get noisy up in here, so you might wanna turn up the TV or something."

And then proceed to make that bitch wail like she was being fucked by God. The GF will be so uncomfortable, she'd probably leave on her own. Do it enough times, and I bet she would stop coming over and staying for so long.

 

[Skillet49]

I can see you being bothered by her having a key, if she does, but I think you're making more of an issue out of it than there really is. There is no reason why you have to play "host" when she is over. She is there to see her bf, not you. When I was in college and over at my fiance's apartment, I did not expect any of them to be a host to me. They usually did their own thing when I was over or maybe we would all eat dinner together or watch a movie or something, but I honestly probably cleaned their apartment more than his roommates did. When I was living with a roommate the next year, we ate dinner at my place pretty much everyday because his roommates never cleaned the kitchen up and it would literally take us an hour to clean it before we could even start cooking. But we usually split the rest of the time between our two places.

If she had her own place, it would be different. Her parents may have some rule about them not sleeping in the same bed together or something like that. Their house. Their rules. Maybe she can't afford to get her own place right now. I think that it is well within your right to ask that if she is there so often, to help with utilities a bit and clean up the place some with the intentions that everyone does it. But if they are in her bedroom, I don't see why it affects you so much.

And if you want to bring a girl home to have sex, do it. I guarantee they have had sex in his room while you are home.

 

[nageov3t]

This thread has been posted before....wtf? Like seriously the same exact thing.

I'd imagine it's a pretty common and awkward scenario.

most guys would be so enamored of sex that they wouldn't stop to think about how they may be impacting those around them.

I was in a similar situation when my old roommate... things were great for years, then he started going out with this girl. after they'd been dating for a few weeks, she was suddenly in the apartment 6-7 days/week and contributing nothing to rent/utilities/cleaning/cooking. to make matters worse, they had ridiculously loud sex all the time, and typically in the middle of the afternoon.

it got so bad that I didn't even feel comfortable inviting friends/family over because of how awkward is was when we'd be hanging out in the living room and the entire apartment would start shaking.

eventually, they both had to GTFO and I've been living by myself since.

 

[sunzt]

Fail thread without pics of hot gf.

 

[Numenorean]

I'd imagine it's a pretty common and awkward scenario.

most guys would be so enamored of sex that they wouldn't stop to think about how they may be impacting those around them.

I was in a similar situation when my old roommate... things were great for years, then he started going out with this girl. after they'd been dating for a few weeks, she was suddenly in the apartment 6-7 days/week and contributing nothing to rent/utilities/cleaning/cooking. to make matters worse, they had ridiculously loud sex all the time, and typically in the middle of the afternoon.

it got so bad that I didn't even feel comfortable inviting friends/family over because of how awkward is was when we'd be hanging out in the living room and the entire apartment would start shaking.

eventually, they both had to GTFO and I've been living by myself since.

No but it is like the same wording and situation and....damn I swear it's the exact same thing. Either that or I have some sort of ability to see the future posts of ATOT before they are posted.

 

[gothamhunter]

I'm too curious as to why he got banned.

 

[Kev]

Option 1 - Cum on her face when she's sleeping on the couch one night. Pretend the next day to have no idea what they are talking about.

Option 2 - Kill your roomate. Cut his body up into small pieces and stuff in fridge. When she comes home that night tell her her boyfriend left her a present in the fridge.

Option 3 - Lock all the doors one night, pour gasoline everywhere and light a match.

Option 4 - Talk to your room mate calmly and let him know it's nothing personal but it's starting to feel like you are living with 2 room mates now and that was not in the original agreement. Let him know you are really busy with school work at the moment and while it's true that she spends lots of time in his room it's still distracting.

Option 5 - Sneak into his room and sabotage all his condoms. When she gets pregnant tell her that her boyfriend confided in you one drunken night that he carries the genes for some horrible childhood birth defect.

Option 6 - Print out fake clinic documents in her name showing tests for HIV, Herpes, gonorrhoea and syphilis. Leave them out in the open somewhere.

Option 7 - Get them both addicted to meth. The trick is to lace their food with it slowly over many weeks. Then let them go cold turkey. Constantly tell them, hey you aren't looking to good, you okay?

note to self: don't mess with locutus

 

[SP33Demon]

Ask her if she thinks it ain't gay, if it's in a 3-way with you. /cues up SNL J.Timberlake skit

http://www.bobsblitz.com/2011/05/3-way-aint-gay-golden-rule-video.html

/helicopterdick /thread

 

[Red Squirrel]

Put mouse traps everywhere and have various products visible, say there's a huge rat infestation. If you can find a couple dead rats occasionally leave one in a mouse trap for when they walk in.

Overall, just make them think there is a huge rat issue in the house or maybe something else like roaches. They'll leave.

 

[Theb]

I fucked 3 different girls last weekend, I'd say I'm doing just fine thanks.

Why didn't you use all 5?

 

[Jaepheth]

You should have covered this scenario in your roommate agreement

 

[mattpegher]

Tell your roommate that if she is going to spend more than x amount of time, you will need to find a new roommate. Are you both on the lease, if so you may need to find a new place. If you are on the lease and he is not then, he goes.

Personnally, I hate roommates. All through med school, I had to have a few, some were worse than others. But all tend to take away some of the freedoms of having your own place by yourself.

The worse was the time, a buddy and I were sharing a two room apartment when the hospital put a girl in the second bedroom. One night he and she hooked up, and refused to go into her room. So there I am in one bed while they are in the other bed in the same room. I should have piped up and jumped in or told them to go to the other room, but I figured I pretend to be asleep so my buddy could get some. I guess it was partly due to the fact that she really wasn't that attractive, and I'm not sure I wanted to tag team.

Actually, the worse was probably the first roomy in school, he tried to bang every girl in the class, and when two of them found out about the other, (not realizing, the hook ups, with a few other girls), they went at it at the place, and I got a bit of flak for not telling anyone.

 

[Skillet49]

I'm too curious as to why he got banned.

http://forums.anandtech.com/showthread.php?p=32101998&highlight=#post32101998

 

[rcpratt]

http://forums.anandtech.com/showthread.php?p=32101998&highlight=#post32101998

Ah, weak.

 

[Saint Nick]

Ah, weak.

No kidding. There are far more brutal things to get banned for. I got banned for a month for posting alkemyst's real name, even though he posts it on his website and uses it in his AIM, essentially giving up his expectation of online privacy, but okay.

Using the word "wise and beautiful woman" works, too.

 

[911paramedic]

Back when I was in my early 20's my roommate would walk out of his room (knowing my gf was there) in his boxers sporting morning wood.

I corrected his behavior, but things like that seem to work. Or go with the nudity thing.

Never forget leaving a log in the toilet or pissing with the seat down, women hate that.

 

[TheNinja]

I swear there was a thread just like this a few months back. Anyway, it's a tough situation and I don't know the answer.

 

[Glitchny]

I really don't see the problem unless she is eating your food and running up your utility bills etc. Maybe I'm strange.

I lived with a friend for 2 years and his GF was there all the time, almost every night, and we had 0 issues about it. She spent most of the time in his room but the 3 of us would hang out a bunch. Or if he was out she and I would play games or watch tv etc, generally wasn't an issue with her being there.

She would do studying etc at our place and I'd usually end up helping if I wasn't busy, and if I wanted privacy I'd just shut my door.

Unless the girl is crazy, messy, obnoxious, or taking over the apt I don't see the problem.