manlymatt83

Lifer
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Issue:

I like a girl. See Text. We're good friends. She doesn't like me back. We used to be "buddies", now we just cuddle, but I am kinda tired of it.

Now:

She's talking about a guy she met. It kinda hurt me. I put my foot down and said no more cuddling. She asked why. I basically said, and I quote: "You aren't giving me what I want. I don't want a cuddle buddy."

Now now:

She's pissed. I think I made the right choice. She's sleeping over tonight and I'm not sleeping with her.



Comments?


Edit:
I'm not tired of being her friend. I like being her friend. But if we're going to be friends, I want to be STRICTLY friends. None of this cuddling or random making out bull ******. nd what I mean by "not getting what I want" is that I want a relationship, and she won't give that to me. And no, she isn't confusing that with sex. She knows what I meant.
 

Viperoni

Lifer
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Although I think you said it poorly, quite poorly, with some explanation I think you could get your point across properly.
 

Hyperblaze

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1) Does she know you posted her pic on the internet?
2) Move on. If you aren't interested in her as friends, which clearly seems to be the case, she has nothing to offer you. I'd even suggest just cut all communication. Doesn't seem that you'll ever get a chance with her
3) Go meet other women
 

manlymatt83

Lifer
Oct 14, 2005
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Originally posted by: Aflac
"You aren't giving me what I want."

She's rightly pissed.


I EXPLAINED I meant nothing PHYSICAL about this.

She knows I want emotional with her. I want a relationship. She won't give me that, so I don't want a cuddle buddy.
 

manlymatt83

Lifer
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Originally posted by: Viperoni
Although I think you said it poorly, quite poorly, with some explanation I think you could get your point across properly.


I EXPLAINED I meant nothing PHYSICAL about this.

She knows I want emotional with her. I want a relationship. She won't give me that, so I don't want a cuddle buddy.
 

manlymatt83

Lifer
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Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
1) Does she know you posted her pic on the internet?
2) Move on. If you aren't interested in her as friends, which clearly seems to be the case, she has nothing to offer you. I'd even suggest just cut all communication. Doesn't seem that you'll ever get a chance with her
3) Go meet other women


Well ... we've been best friends for 8 years... and we're supposed to move in together.
 

Hyperblaze

Lifer
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Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
1) Does she know you posted her pic on the internet?
2) Move on. If you aren't interested in her as friends, which clearly seems to be the case, she has nothing to offer you. I'd even suggest just cut all communication. Doesn't seem that you'll ever get a chance with her
3) Go meet other women


Well ... we've been best friends for 8 years... and we're supposed to move in together.

You've been best friends with her for 8 years and now tired of being her friend?

I'd seriously re-considering the move
 

manlymatt83

Lifer
Oct 14, 2005
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Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
1) Does she know you posted her pic on the internet?
2) Move on. If you aren't interested in her as friends, which clearly seems to be the case, she has nothing to offer you. I'd even suggest just cut all communication. Doesn't seem that you'll ever get a chance with her
3) Go meet other women


Well ... we've been best friends for 8 years... and we're supposed to move in together.

You've been best friends with her for 8 years and now tired of being her friend?

I'd seriously re-considering the move


I'm not tired of being her friend. I like being her friend. But if we're going to be friends, I want to be STRICTLY friends. None of this cuddling or random making out bull ******.
 

Hyperblaze

Lifer
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Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
1) Does she know you posted her pic on the internet?
2) Move on. If you aren't interested in her as friends, which clearly seems to be the case, she has nothing to offer you. I'd even suggest just cut all communication. Doesn't seem that you'll ever get a chance with her
3) Go meet other women


Well ... we've been best friends for 8 years... and we're supposed to move in together.

You've been best friends with her for 8 years and now tired of being her friend?

I'd seriously re-considering the move


I'm not tired of being her friend. I like being her friend. But if we're going to be friends, I want to be STRICTLY friends. None of this cuddling or random making out bull ******.

girls like to cuddle. don't you know that?

doesn't mean anything. and she DOES think of you as a friend, YOU are the one who has a problem with it.
 

manlymatt83

Lifer
Oct 14, 2005
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Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
1) Does she know you posted her pic on the internet?
2) Move on. If you aren't interested in her as friends, which clearly seems to be the case, she has nothing to offer you. I'd even suggest just cut all communication. Doesn't seem that you'll ever get a chance with her
3) Go meet other women


Well ... we've been best friends for 8 years... and we're supposed to move in together.

You've been best friends with her for 8 years and now tired of being her friend?

I'd seriously re-considering the move


I'm not tired of being her friend. I like being her friend. But if we're going to be friends, I want to be STRICTLY friends. None of this cuddling or random making out bull ******.

girls like to cuddle. don't you know that?

doesn't mean anything. and she DOES think of you as a friend, YOU are the one who has a problem with it.


Thats the thing. I lead myself on with the cuddling. So I don't wanna do it anymore.
 

Hyperblaze

Lifer
May 31, 2001
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Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
1) Does she know you posted her pic on the internet?
2) Move on. If you aren't interested in her as friends, which clearly seems to be the case, she has nothing to offer you. I'd even suggest just cut all communication. Doesn't seem that you'll ever get a chance with her
3) Go meet other women


Well ... we've been best friends for 8 years... and we're supposed to move in together.

You've been best friends with her for 8 years and now tired of being her friend?

I'd seriously re-considering the move


I'm not tired of being her friend. I like being her friend. But if we're going to be friends, I want to be STRICTLY friends. None of this cuddling or random making out bull ******.

girls like to cuddle. don't you know that?

doesn't mean anything. and she DOES think of you as a friend, YOU are the one who has a problem with it.


Thats the thing. I lead myself on with the cuddling. So I don't wanna do it anymore.

Welcome to making her feel extremely uncomfortable around you.

 

manlymatt83

Lifer
Oct 14, 2005
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Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
1) Does she know you posted her pic on the internet?
2) Move on. If you aren't interested in her as friends, which clearly seems to be the case, she has nothing to offer you. I'd even suggest just cut all communication. Doesn't seem that you'll ever get a chance with her
3) Go meet other women


Well ... we've been best friends for 8 years... and we're supposed to move in together.

You've been best friends with her for 8 years and now tired of being her friend?

I'd seriously re-considering the move


I'm not tired of being her friend. I like being her friend. But if we're going to be friends, I want to be STRICTLY friends. None of this cuddling or random making out bull ******.

girls like to cuddle. don't you know that?

doesn't mean anything. and she DOES think of you as a friend, YOU are the one who has a problem with it.


Thats the thing. I lead myself on with the cuddling. So I don't wanna do it anymore.

Welcome to making her feel extremely uncomfortable around you.


Who the hell cares. I don't wanna lead myself on. Can you blame me?

Every one here always says "stop letting girls take advantage"... so once I do, I still get bickered at. So what am I doing wrong?
 

Hyperblaze

Lifer
May 31, 2001
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Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
1) Does she know you posted her pic on the internet?
2) Move on. If you aren't interested in her as friends, which clearly seems to be the case, she has nothing to offer you. I'd even suggest just cut all communication. Doesn't seem that you'll ever get a chance with her
3) Go meet other women


Well ... we've been best friends for 8 years... and we're supposed to move in together.

You've been best friends with her for 8 years and now tired of being her friend?

I'd seriously re-considering the move


I'm not tired of being her friend. I like being her friend. But if we're going to be friends, I want to be STRICTLY friends. None of this cuddling or random making out bull ******.

girls like to cuddle. don't you know that?

doesn't mean anything. and she DOES think of you as a friend, YOU are the one who has a problem with it.


Thats the thing. I lead myself on with the cuddling. So I don't wanna do it anymore.

Welcome to making her feel extremely uncomfortable around you.


Who the hell cares. I don't wanna lead myself on. Can you blame me?

Every one here always says "stop letting girls take advantage"... so once I do, I still get bickered at. So what am I doing wrong?

It's a double edge sword. she is moving in with you. You just told her that she can't be herself around someone who's been her "best friend" for 8 years. WTF is she supposed to think? Wouldn't be so bad if you two weren't going to live together.

It's going to be interesting for you two living together, I wonder how long it's going to last.
 

manlymatt83

Lifer
Oct 14, 2005
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She's always said that if I can't move in with her, if my feelings are too strong, to tell her, and she'll find another place to live. Then she denies my feelings when I tell her I care... typical girl: "Oh you don't like me!" or "Why do you like me? I'm ugly." --- ****** like that... typical girl games of course.

Should I call it off? Will it just be inhibiting me? Will it finally show her how serious I care?