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When a girl has been going out with the same guy for some time (over 2 years), but they've broken up numerous times and things like that but are together right now, is it a bad idea to send her candy for valentines day? I respect the fact that she thinks he's good for her, although i've heard otherwise from his friends who think he treats her like crap, but that's not my business. I'm not trying to be a knight in shining armor, but I didn't send her like 50$ candy either. Its a program our school has for 50 cents you basically send her a valentine lollipop type of thing. The guy is a year ahead of us so he does'nt goto our school anymore, I just wanna know if she'll think i'm a nice person for sending her one (i sent a lot of friends one), or if she'll think i'm trying to invade in her life since she's involved.
 
That's just inviting drama. Unless you know she has similar feelings for you, and even then you should wait till they've "broken up". Even then, you could just be a filler till she gets back with him again.
 
If you have feelings for her you should go for it. However, there's a big chance you'll get hurt. So weigh it carefully before you make your decission.
 
No, no, no! Do not interfere with someone else's relationships, regardless if you think it will fail or isn't going well or isn't right! Major major no no!
 
yeah we did that crap in the 6th grade
what are you, like 12?
anyway, do what you would want someone to do to you in that guy's position
 
Originally posted by: mEarles
yeah we did that crap in the 6th grade
what are you, like 12?
anyway, do what you would want someone to do to you in that guy's position
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Yeah, I remember doing that in middle school. I don't think you should interfere with their relationship even if things are rough with them. Wait till she says its over for good and then make your move. Like BD said, put yourself in the guys position. You probably wouldn't like it if another guy was trying to hit on your girl.
 
"I respect the fact that she thinks he's good for her, although i've heard otherwise from his friends who think he treats her like crap, but that's not my business."

Oh, talk about respect! Where is it?

The first thing I always hear from guys who snatch another person's significant other is, "he abuses her." Then the consequent statement of justification.

Is this the same chick that you spent the little allowance you had for a gift during Christmas and got really broke?

If so, then why ask us this question when you've done so in the past?

If it is not she, then here's my view anyway: It's okay to give someone a gift. What matters is your intent. If you give her a gift because of your feelings toward her, yet you do know that she's taken, then it is unethical in my view. If he treats her like crap (the familiar unfounded argument), then help her out because she's a friend, not because your pants are in control of you.

Hence, if the candy is some act of courtesy, then no problem. But if it's 'cuz of your feelings toward her, then it is your duty to decide if your conscience rules.
 
do it and also send flowers then come back and tell us what happens...all the other good threads have died out so we need more drama.....do it..do it now!!!!
 
Originally posted by: Deeko
No, no, no! Do not interfere with someone else's relationships, regardless if you think it will fail or isn't going well or isn't right! Major major no no!
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It's a tough thing to do...but ya gotta let people learn on their own.

I also agree that it would just be inviting drama. That is, unless you're like, "Happy Valentines Day! Your Friend, PoPPer" in the card. But don't sign it "Love" or something that people can read too much into.
 
First, i'm a senior. These are just fundraisers for each grade level that they use to raise some money. Second, i'm doing this just as a friend. I didn't even sign it, I put from <my name>. Either way, i'll write back in 10 hours after school to update u 🙂
 
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