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[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
Has anyone asked how old Zysoclaplem is?

I'm 25.

That's what I thought...

I don't think either of them will work for you. An 18 year old is a plaything to most 25 years olds. Life experience, maturity, etc are too far apart to provide a base for anything meaningful. You should know this.

I don't play with people. 18 is old enough to have a meaningful relationship.
Just have to find an 18 year old that wants to.
So I will talk to #2 on our second date about life, love, and what it is they are looking for.

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: K1052

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
This is the email I wrote him since I cannot call him, nor arrange a time to see him face to face.

I'll come right out and say it.
I like you ****. You are sweet, funny and very very very very attractive.
But I'm not sure that I'm right for you right now, nor you right for me.
We have completely different priorities.
You don't have the time or the means to be what I need right now.
I started realizing that soon after we started talking.
I need someone who can be there when I need them, who can do things with me, go places, stay places.
And someone who is kind of ready to settle down with me after a while.
But you have already told me you are going to a college away from Tyler.
You have little control over what you can and cant do.
You have no car and no job and do not seem to plan on having one soon.
So my feelings are conflicting with each other.

Everyone told me this stuff when we started talking. I told them to shut up, they didn't know what they were talking about.

I want to know what you feelings are about this.
If you think its fair.
If you hate me for saying this.
If you understand.
If things can change then perhaps things might work out. I certainly like you enough. But I don't see things changing. So..
Anyways.

I cannot do anything this Friday. Perhaps sometime during the weekend if you want to still do something.

-Justin

Quite reasonable and logical, though be prepared for him to take it badly.

actually, it sounds like he's trying to break it off but then tells him its ok to do something this weekend?

 

[dawnbug]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
This is the email I wrote him since I cannot call him, nor arrange a time to see him face to face.

I'll come right out and say it.
I like you ****. You are sweet, funny and very very very very attractive.
But I'm not sure that I'm right for you right now, nor you right for me.
We have completely different priorities.
You don't have the time or the means to be what I need right now.
I started realizing that soon after we started talking.
I need someone who can be there when I need them, who can do things with me, go places, stay places.
And someone who is kind of ready to settle down with me after a while.
But you have already told me you are going to a college away from Tyler.
You have little control over what you can and cant do.
You have no car and no job and do not seem to plan on having one soon.
So my feelings are conflicting with each other.

Everyone told me this stuff when we started talking. I told them to shut up, they didn't know what they were talking about.

I want to know what you feelings are about this.
If you think its fair.
If you hate me for saying this.
If you understand.
If things can change then perhaps things might work out. I certainly like you enough. But I don't see things changing. So..
Anyways.

I cannot do anything this Friday. Perhaps sometime during the weekend if you want to still do something.

-Justin

You put things well. I hope he takes it well, but if he doesn't, at least you can know you're not lying to yourself by staying with him when you know it's not going to work.

Good luck with #2.

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: Tobolo
#2 Chick for the win. Also should be banned without some pics!!!

you want pics of gay guys? the lack of reading comprehension in this thread is awful...

 

[K1052]

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: K1052

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
This is the email I wrote him since I cannot call him, nor arrange a time to see him face to face.

I'll come right out and say it.
I like you ****. You are sweet, funny and very very very very attractive.
But I'm not sure that I'm right for you right now, nor you right for me.
We have completely different priorities.
You don't have the time or the means to be what I need right now.
I started realizing that soon after we started talking.
I need someone who can be there when I need them, who can do things with me, go places, stay places.
And someone who is kind of ready to settle down with me after a while.
But you have already told me you are going to a college away from Tyler.
You have little control over what you can and cant do.
You have no car and no job and do not seem to plan on having one soon.
So my feelings are conflicting with each other.

Everyone told me this stuff when we started talking. I told them to shut up, they didn't know what they were talking about.

I want to know what you feelings are about this.
If you think its fair.
If you hate me for saying this.
If you understand.
If things can change then perhaps things might work out. I certainly like you enough. But I don't see things changing. So..
Anyways.

I cannot do anything this Friday. Perhaps sometime during the weekend if you want to still do something.

-Justin

Quite reasonable and logical, though be prepared for him to take it badly.

actually, it sounds like he's trying to break it off but then tells him its ok to do something this weekend?

Sounded to me like he was breaking it off but still leaving the option of friendship open (though it rarely works out).

 

[Scarpozzi]

If #1 can't stand up for himself to his mother or sneak out of the house, lose him. When it comes down to it, most GIRLS would do that in a heartbeat if they had any balls.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: Tobolo
#2 Chick for the win. Also should be banned without some pics!!!

you want pics of gay guys? the lack of reading comprehension in this thread is awful...

They are cute though.

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: Tobolo
#2 Chick for the win. Also should be banned without some pics!!!

you want pics of gay guys? the lack of reading comprehension in this thread is awful...

They are cute though.

maybe to a gay guy, but not to a straight guy

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: Tobolo
#2 Chick for the win. Also should be banned without some pics!!!

you want pics of gay guys? the lack of reading comprehension in this thread is awful...

They are cute though.

maybe to a gay guy, but not to a straight guy

So you are an exclusive 0? I'm probably a 4 or 5 on kinsey's scale.
Even I can tell if girls are cute.

 

[Kadarin]

My advice: You're not in the wrong for dropping #1 because #1 does not have the ability to hold up his end of a mature relationship. This is nothing against his character, necessarily, it just is.

 

[Bryophyte]

You need to tell your friends to not introduce you to guys who aren't yet independent from their parents. You're too old to have to put up with that high school kind of drama. Really.

Have you figured out why it is that you are attracted to guys who are so young? Are you intimidated by guys your age? Afraid of getting sick because the older guys have had more partners?

18 year olds shouldn't be ready to settle down into a long term relationship with anyone yet. They need to learn about their likes and dislikes and meet a lot of people. You get your heart broken easily, and you're bound to find heartache with guys just out of high school. Expand your possible interests to guys who are a bit older (like 22+) and you might find someone who is in control of his own destiny and ready to settle down with you.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Well I talked to #1, and #1 agreed with everything I said. We agreed that dating was a bad idea for now, but that we would still be friends. We might hang out this weekend.

I talked to #2. We are going on our second date today.

So all seems to be well as of now.

I will not be having sex or sexual interactions with #2 at all what so ever until I am 100% sure things might work out. So we will just have fun for now learning about each other.