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[Zysoclaplem]

I was seeing a guy for about a week and 1/2. Everything seemed to be going well, he genuinely seemed to like me, and I like him as well. We talked on the phone frequently, texted alot. He bought me flowers, spent the night at each other's place. It was sweet.
So we finally went a bit further than kissing. After that we cuddle up and fall asleep.
I get up and go to school the next morning, leave a key for him to lock the apartment when he leaves (we were at my place) and leave it under the mat. And he did. All seems well.
Well all of a sudden he won't return my calls or text messages. I know he is fine and everything is alright because I talk to his sister online.
It's been two days and I haven't heard from him.
Should I take a hint?

 

[dabuddha]

Did you get your key back?

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: dabuddha
Did you get your key back?

Yes...lol.

 

[MisterJackson]

Maybe he thought things were getting serious too quickly???

I dunno, this is my first time giving "gay love life" advice, except when I post in reply to MX2times.

 

[Syrch]

I'm not trying to be rude at all b/c i certainly don't judge..but you are both guys in this relationship is what im gathering? If thats the case maybe hes just scared right now?

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: MisterJackson
Maybe he thought things were getting serious too quickly???

I dunno, this is my first time giving "gay love life" advice, except when I post in reply to MX2times.

Okay. So ignore the person you are dating? That doesnt make sense.

 

[leftyman]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
I was seeing a guy for about a week and 1/2. Everything seemed to be going well, he genuinely seemed to like me, and I like him as well. We talked on the phone frequently, texted alot. He bought me flowers, spent the night at each other's place. It was sweet.
So we finally went a bit further than kissing. After that we cuddle up and fall asleep.
I get up and go to school the next morning, leave a key for him to lock the apartment when he leaves (we were at my place) and leave it under the mat. And he did. All seems well.
Well all of a sudden he won't return my calls or text messages. I know he is fine and everything is alright because I talk to his sister online.
It's been two days and I haven't heard from him.
Should I take a hint?

stop meeting men in bath house's

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: Syrch
I'm not trying to be rude at all b/c i certainly don't judge..but you are both guys in this relationship is what im gathering? If thats the case maybe hes just scared right now?

No reason for him to be scared. It isnt his first relationship.

 

[dabuddha]

Maybe he wasn't "satisfied" and that's why he's avoiding you.

 

[Syrch]

okay well now I got my answer...

Did he seem weirded out the night you guys cuddled before you went to bed? Did it seem like something was wrong?

 

[Syrch]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Syrch
I'm not trying to be rude at all b/c i certainly don't judge..but you are both guys in this relationship is what im gathering? If thats the case maybe hes just scared right now?

No reason for him to be scared. It isnt his first relationship.

Okay so he is open about his sexual preference than?

 

[hjo3]

Two days isn't a hint -- he might just be busy. Or maybe he doesn't want to come off as clingy or something. Go a couple more days without calling or texting him, then try again. Once he's had a chance to think about things maybe he'll be less jerky. Don't press his sister for details -- she might tell him and it could send the wrong message.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: Syrch
okay well now I got my answer...

Did he seem weirded out the night you guys cuddled before you went to bed? Did it seem like something was wrong?

No. Seemed fine.

 

[DougK62]

So one and a half weeks of dating and you're upset about 2 days? Just relax. You haven't been together that long. Maybe he's just been really busy. Don't be clingy.

 

[Looney]

Did you give him a reach around?

Have you tried asking his sister if he knows what's up? Were you his first gay experience? If so, he could be scared/confused/angry at himself, etc. Give him time. If not, and he's experienced, then it sounds like all he wanted was a one night stand.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: dabuddha
Maybe he wasn't "satisfied" and that's why he's avoiding you.

That could be true but if anything I should be the one unsatisfied but I wasn't.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: Syrch

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Syrch
I'm not trying to be rude at all b/c i certainly don't judge..but you are both guys in this relationship is what im gathering? If thats the case maybe hes just scared right now?

No reason for him to be scared. It isnt his first relationship.

Okay so he is open about his sexual preference than?

Yes.

 

[Syrch]

id give it another day or two and see what happens..you don't wnt to seem to clingy either

 

[hjo3]

Originally posted by: Looney
Did you give him a reach around?

That's uncalled for.

Were you his first gay experience? If so, he could be scared/confused/angry at himself, etc. Give him time. If not, and he's experienced, then it sounds like all he wanted was a one night stand.

I seriously doubt it -- he bought him flowers and they went out for a whole week and a half before the deed. Believe me, it's easy for gay guys to find one night stands if they want them.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: hjo3
Two days isn't a hint -- he might just be busy. Or maybe he doesn't want to come off as clingy or something. Go a couple more days without calling or texting him, then try again. Once he's had a chance to think about things maybe he'll be less jerky. Don't press his sister for details -- she might tell him and it could send the wrong message.

Okay I will do that.
The least he could do is send me a message saying see ya this weekend or busy, ill text ya later. Those arent clingy. But they at least let me know he is interested still.
I dont know whether to feel used or whether just to sit tight.

 

[hjo3]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: hjo3
Two days isn't a hint -- he might just be busy. Or maybe he doesn't want to come off as clingy or something. Go a couple more days without calling or texting him, then try again. Once he's had a chance to think about things maybe he'll be less jerky. Don't press his sister for details -- she might tell him and it could send the wrong message.

Okay I will do that.
The least he could do is send me a message saying see ya this weekend or busy, ill text ya later. Those arent clingy. But they at least let me know he is interested still.
I dont know whether to feel used or whether just to sit tight.

Yeah, seems he's being kind of a jerk... but he's been good up till now, right? I'd give him the benefit of the doubt for a couple more days.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: DougK62
So one and a half weeks of dating and you're upset about 2 days? Just relax. You haven't been together that long. Maybe he's just been really busy. Don't be clingy.

I am not so much clingy as I was worried. Every day since we first met we have talked. Most of the time him calling me. Or texting me. It's unusual that he stopped. And that throws me off.

 

[Looney]

Originally posted by: hjo3

Originally posted by: Looney
Did you give him a reach around?

That's uncalled for.

Oh please. Everybody gets ribbing here when they post a YAGT thread, whether it's a straight or gay thread.

 

[George P Burdell]

Ball's in his court. If he calls back, fine. Otherwise, move on.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: Looney

Originally posted by: hjo3

Originally posted by: Looney
Did you give him a reach around?

That's uncalled for.

Oh please. Everybody gets ribbing here when they post a YAGT thread, whether it's a straight or gay thread.

lol I dont mind I get it whether its a YAGT or not....lol.