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my g/f lives about an 1.5hrs away. she left for college while we 'weren't together' (we were together before, then broke up, she left, now we're back together.


Basically seeing each other is really difficult... I have a 9-5, and school during the week; but didn't take any fri night/weekend classes so we would have time....


BUT... she works on weekends. Normally fri night and saturday day, or fri night and sunday day... which means very little time to see each other. If I drive to see her, I end up sitting around for 12 hours throughout the weekend while she's at work.



We talked last night about it... basically she says she 'wants to keep a job because it's just the right thing to do'.... she works 15-20hrs a week and has 16-18hrs of classes. She doesn't need to work... her dad gives her plenty of $$ if she needs it




on one hand, I'm glad she likes to work, on the other... wtf... does she want a relationship or not? things are hard enough as it is.
 
Long distant relationships suck. You should each leave the relationship on good terms, because (as whitnessed on these forums), it's just going to go downhill.
 
so basically you think that just because her dad can give her money, he has to?

I find it good that she has a job to pay for her stuff. It helps develop responsibilites.

edit: the worst part about it is that you don't want her to work because you want to spend more time with her and you want her dad to pay for her living expenses....

very selfish.

ps: how old are you?
 
Originally posted by: armatron
my g/f lives about an 1.5hrs away. she left for college while we 'weren't together' (we were together before, then broke up, she left, now we're back together.


Basically seeing each other is really difficult... I have a 9-5, and school during the week; but didn't take any fri night/weekend classes so we would have time....


BUT... she works on weekends. Normally fri night and saturday day, or fri night and sunday day... which means very little time to see each other. If I drive to see her, I end up sitting around for 12 hours throughout the weekend while she's at work.



We talked last night about it... basically she says she 'wants to keep a job because it's just the right thing to do'.... she works 15-20hrs a week and has 16-18hrs of classes. She doesn't need to work... her dad gives her plenty of $$ if she needs it




on one hand, I'm glad she likes to work, on the other... wtf... does she want a relationship or not? things are hard enough as it is.
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Life just hit you like a brick in the face.
 
Originally posted by: armatron
my g/f lives about an 1.5hrs away. she left for college while we 'weren't together' (we were together before, then broke up, she left, now we're back together.


Basically seeing each other is really difficult... I have a 9-5, and school during the week; but didn't take any fri night/weekend classes so we would have time....


BUT... she works on weekends. Normally fri night and saturday day, or fri night and sunday day... which means very little time to see each other. If I drive to see her, I end up sitting around for 12 hours throughout the weekend while she's at work.



We talked last night about it... basically she says she 'wants to keep a job because it's just the right thing to do'.... she works 15-20hrs a week and has 16-18hrs of classes. She doesn't need to work... her dad gives her plenty of $$ if she needs it




on one hand, I'm glad she likes to work, on the other... wtf... does she want a relationship or not? things are hard enough as it is.
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It doesnt get easier it gets harder.... You're seeing her alot now... as life moves past college it gets even harder to see the one you love. My GF is in med school about 1.25 hours away. When she's on q4 call.. she works 30+ hour shifts a couple times a week... that in addition to her regular 8-10 hour day. I work about 50+ hours a week. AND this is the easy part.

By june, she'll be in her residency program, working 80+ hours a week. And I don't even know where she's gonna end up doing it... could be several places far away that would require me moving to be with her.

Life is hard my friend... but you have to want her to be motivated and excited about doing these things. She has to have a busy life of her own.... otherwise you smother each other. Your GF sounds like a good catch.... hang on for dear life... appreciate that you miss her, and accept that she's a go-getter, and be proud of her.

-Max
 
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
so basically you think that just because her dad can give her money, he has to?

I find it good that she has a job to pay for her stuff. It helps develop responsibilites.
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wtf? did you even read my thread?

I said she doesn't have to work, because her dad GIVES her money. I didn't say he "HAS to give her money so she doesn't have to work"
 
Originally posted by: armatron
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
so basically you think that just because her dad can give her money, he has to?

I find it good that she has a job to pay for her stuff. It helps develop responsibilites.
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wtf? did you even read my thread?

I said she doesn't have to work, because her dad GIVES her money. I didn't say he "HAS to give her money so she doesn't have to work"
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yes I did read your thread. It's the interpretation that I got which made me reply the way I did.

I completely agree with her for her reason to work. Sucks to be you if you can't understand.
 
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: armatron
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
so basically you think that just because her dad can give her money, he has to?

I find it good that she has a job to pay for her stuff. It helps develop responsibilites.
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wtf? did you even read my thread?

I said she doesn't have to work, because her dad GIVES her money. I didn't say he "HAS to give her money so she doesn't have to work"
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yes I did read your thread. It's the interpretation that I got which made me reply the way I did.

I completely agree with her for her reason to work. Sucks to be you if you can't understand.
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I don't want her to quit her job. It would be nice if she didn't work EVERY weekend, maybe took every other weekend off. she feels like it's too much to ask

 
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