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[johnjohn320]

Ok, so I met someone through a mutual friend, she's a great girl, fun to talk to, pretty, etc. First night I meet her I ask for her number, she gives it to me. Fast forward a couple weeks, I ask her to prom, she says yes.

OK, I'm really starting to like this girl, and it's cool that I'm going to prom with her. But I'm also curious if anything else is gonna happen, y'know? Like, are we just going as friends or does she see this as the stepping stone to something more? I want to ask her out, but if I ask her before prom and she says no, it could make things weird (Prom is may 9). I dunno, you think I should just wait, go to prom, have a good time, and then worry about other stuff later?

 

[steve]Dude, you're gonna get laid![/steve]

 

[HappyFace]

you know someones going to ask, so um pics?! I think she wants you

 

[johnjohn320]

Originally posted by: HappyFace
you know someones going to ask, so um pics?! I think she wants you

Heh, you think she wants me because she said "yes" to prom...wow that's reliable.

 

[olds]

If you don't ask her to do something before your prom she will think you are not interested. The fact that she agreed to go to prom shows some interest. Now grow up and be a man and don't ask for dating advice here.

 

[bleeb]

whip it out...

"bust out the champaign glasses and the mofo condoms!" - tupac

 

[zippy]

Have you been going out up to this point? And I don't mean in a group, have you two been going out alone? If so, it probably couldn't hurt to ask, "So, what are we?" Then she says, "What do you mean?" even though she knows damn well, you say, "Are we friends or more?" and then the ball is in her court...until she says, "I don't know..." and trails off. Then you know you're in if she says "I don't know" and you can tell her you like her and then you have a girlfriend. If she says, "Oh, well, I'd really just like to be friends now" and not "I don't know..." then you just say, "Okay, I was just making sure. I feel the same way I just wanted to make sure we're on the same page." It's failproof my friend - just be cool about it.

However, if you two haven't ever been out alone, it's probably best to wait till after prom.

BTW, by "I want to ask her out" I assumed you meant "ask her to be bf/gf" and not "ask her out on a date." Am I correct in this assumption? If I'm not, then, like I said, wait till after prom.

 

[Storm]

Have a good time at the prom.. you're going to be with her. Worry about the "other" stuff later.

 

[johnjohn320]

Whoa, just to clarify, by "something more" I meant dating, not sex.

 

[giguana]

Originally posted by: Storm
Have a good time at the prom.. you're going to be with her. Worry about the "other" stuff later.

i agree. play it by ear. you will be able to tell by her body language at prom. if she holds you close while you dance, or puts her head on your shoulder, then she probably wants to be more than friends.

 

[MazerRackham]

Try kissing her. You will find out very quickly if she is really interested or not. DO IT!

 

[johnjohn320]

Originally posted by: MazerRackham
Try kissing her. You will find out very quickly if she is really interested or not. DO IT!

Haha, I've made that mistake before...earned me a very loooong drive home.

 

[Siddhartha]

Originally posted by: johnjohn320
Ok, so I met someone through a mutual friend, she's a great girl, fun to talk to, pretty, etc. First night I meet her I ask for her number, she gives it to me. Fast forward a couple weeks, I ask her to prom, she says yes.

OK, I'm really starting to like this girl, and it's cool that I'm going to prom with her. But I'm also curious if anything else is gonna happen, y'know? Like, are we just going as friends or does she see this as the stepping stone to something more? I want to ask her out, but if I ask her before prom and she says no, it could make things weird (Prom is may 9). I dunno, you think I should just wait, go to prom, have a good time, and then worry about other stuff later?

Have you, you know, kissed or touched each others naughty bits?

 

[MazerRackham]

Originally posted by: johnjohn320

Originally posted by: MazerRackham
Try kissing her. You will find out very quickly if she is really interested or not. DO IT!

Haha, I've made that mistake before...earned me a very loooong drive home.

Mistake? How is that a mistake? You will find out what you want to know... good or bad. Most women make their minds up right away about which guys are friends, and which guys are potential lovers. If you never do anything, believe me you'll be a "friend."

 

[johnjohn320]

Originally posted by: Dr Smooth

Originally posted by: johnjohn320
Ok, so I met someone through a mutual friend, she's a great girl, fun to talk to, pretty, etc. First night I meet her I ask for her number, she gives it to me. Fast forward a couple weeks, I ask her to prom, she says yes.

OK, I'm really starting to like this girl, and it's cool that I'm going to prom with her. But I'm also curious if anything else is gonna happen, y'know? Like, are we just going as friends or does she see this as the stepping stone to something more? I want to ask her out, but if I ask her before prom and she says no, it could make things weird (Prom is may 9). I dunno, you think I should just wait, go to prom, have a good time, and then worry about other stuff later?

Have you, you know, kissed or touched each others naughty bits?

Now if that had happened, do you really think I'd be posting this?

 

[nick1985]

Originally posted by: johnjohn320
Ok, so I met someone through a mutual friend, she's a great girl, fun to talk to, pretty, etc. First night I meet her I ask for her number, she gives it to me. Fast forward a couple weeks, I ask her to prom, she says yes.

OK, I'm really starting to like this girl, and it's cool that I'm going to prom with her. But I'm also curious if anything else is gonna happen, y'know? Like, are we just going as friends or does she see this as the stepping stone to something more? I want to ask her out, but if I ask her before prom and she says no, it could make things weird (Prom is may 9). I dunno, you think I should just wait, go to prom, have a good time, and then worry about other stuff later?

wow, you decribed the EXACT situation im in. thats just too weird

 

[johnjohn320]

Originally posted by: nick1985

Originally posted by: johnjohn320
Ok, so I met someone through a mutual friend, she's a great girl, fun to talk to, pretty, etc. First night I meet her I ask for her number, she gives it to me. Fast forward a couple weeks, I ask her to prom, she says yes.

OK, I'm really starting to like this girl, and it's cool that I'm going to prom with her. But I'm also curious if anything else is gonna happen, y'know? Like, are we just going as friends or does she see this as the stepping stone to something more? I want to ask her out, but if I ask her before prom and she says no, it could make things weird (Prom is may 9). I dunno, you think I should just wait, go to prom, have a good time, and then worry about other stuff later?

wow, you decribed the EXACT situation im in. thats just too weird

So how are you dealing with it?

 

[Zugzwang152]

Originally posted by: johnjohn320

Originally posted by: Dr Smooth

Originally posted by: johnjohn320
Ok, so I met someone through a mutual friend, she's a great girl, fun to talk to, pretty, etc. First night I meet her I ask for her number, she gives it to me. Fast forward a couple weeks, I ask her to prom, she says yes.

OK, I'm really starting to like this girl, and it's cool that I'm going to prom with her. But I'm also curious if anything else is gonna happen, y'know? Like, are we just going as friends or does she see this as the stepping stone to something more? I want to ask her out, but if I ask her before prom and she says no, it could make things weird (Prom is may 9). I dunno, you think I should just wait, go to prom, have a good time, and then worry about other stuff later?

Have you, you know, kissed or touched each others naughty bits?

Now if that had happened, do you really think I'd be posting this?

i was in that situation a couple years before...only I never said anything until months later and lost out quality time. My suggestion is to wait until after prom. Have fun at prom, and at the end of the night, get her alone somewhere and say something soft and touching like "You know, I really had fun tonight, you think maybe you and I could go out sometime?" or "I had a great time tonight, I'd like to get to know you more. Can I take you out to dinner blahblahblah at blahblah?". good luck and no regrets!

 

[cressida]

oh no.....

 

[hdeck]

the first night she met you she gave you her number. then she said yes to prom. if you can't see the interest you don't deserve her.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: giguana

Originally posted by: Storm
Have a good time at the prom.. you're going to be with her. Worry about the "other" stuff later.

i agree. play it by ear. you will be able to tell by her body language at prom. if she holds you close while you dance, or puts her head on your shoulder, then she probably wants to be more than friends.

Grabbing your crotch or tearing her/your clothes off on the car ride home is also a good symbol.

- M4H

 

[her209]

One the scale of 1 to 10...

 

[johnjohn320]

oh no.....

What?

the first night she met you she gave you her number. then she said yes to prom. if you can't see the interest you don't deserve her.

Oh shut up.

Heh, seriously, I can see what you're saying, but "I don't deserve her". God, shut up.


Edit: Just want to remind you, high school girls are weird. Sure, all signs point to yes, I asked for her number she gave it. I ask her to prom she accepts. But, she's a high school girl. All of these factors rolled together STILL does not mean she's interested, or so has been my experience. Point: She may not necessarily be interested, and if so, I can handle that. But I don't want to ruin our "prom experience" if she's not.

 

[her209]

Girls = Bad

 

[yobarman]

It's prom man... the prom is the day you become a man. Just ask her out and be like " i just wanna get to know you better before we go to the prom" that should at least get you one date out of it.