yagt: ... yea i know, story inside (saga inside perhaps?) **updated! 8.11**

[TommyVercetti]

tl;dr Stevo gets banned from SA for using SA cliches outside of SA.

 

[stev0]

Originally posted by: Dr Smooth

Originally posted by: stev0

Originally posted by: Dr Smooth
She told you she has a boy friend and "boy dosent give up".

She sees you as a friend. Save her and yourself a lot problems and move on. There are a lot of other women out there who do not have boyfriends and want a relationship.

read it again ace.

she has an ex that is still hell bent on, he has obviously moved on.

read it again ace:
cliff notes for yall adhd'ers
- boy meets girl
- boy parties w/ girl often
- boy started talking to girl, hanging out with her
- boy and girl hang out quite often, boy is getting it for girl
- boy gives girl flowers on bday, girl explains she is hellbent on her ex
- boy dosent give up
- boy and girl get closer towards end of summer
- girl mentions her ex will be done with military service in oct. and plans a trip to see him
- boy feels like crying in a corner
- boy dosen't know what to do, comes here asking the great and powerful for words of wisdom
end cliff notes

tl;dr i know i know, sorry for the saga.

thanks for reading

Hey Ace

He wrote:

"boy dosent give up"

Which I read to mean he, thread's author, after being told by the woman that she still loves her ex, is still holding on.

She told you she has a boy friend and "boy dosent give up".

boy = me. she dosen't have a boyfriend atm, she has an exboyfriend atm.

 

[stev0]

Originally posted by: TommyVercetti
tl;dr Stevo gets banned from SA for using SA cliches outside of SA.

dont know what your talking about

edit: hey! wait a second, you used it too! bahha you are so banned 😛

 

[Siddhartha]

Originally posted by: stev0

Originally posted by: Dr Smooth

Originally posted by: stev0

Originally posted by: Dr Smooth
She told you she has a boy friend and "boy dosent give up".

She sees you as a friend. Save her and yourself a lot problems and move on. There are a lot of other women out there who do not have boyfriends and want a relationship.

read it again ace.

she has an ex that is still hell bent on, he has obviously moved on.

read it again ace:
cliff notes for yall adhd'ers
- boy meets girl
- boy parties w/ girl often
- boy started talking to girl, hanging out with her
- boy and girl hang out quite often, boy is getting it for girl
- boy gives girl flowers on bday, girl explains she is hellbent on her ex
- boy dosent give up
- boy and girl get closer towards end of summer
- girl mentions her ex will be done with military service in oct. and plans a trip to see him
- boy feels like crying in a corner
- boy dosen't know what to do, comes here asking the great and powerful for words of wisdom
end cliff notes

tl;dr i know i know, sorry for the saga.

thanks for reading

Hey Ace

He wrote:

"boy dosent give up"

Which I read to mean he, thread's author, after being told by the woman that she still loves her ex, is still holding on.

She told you she has a boy friend and "boy dosent give up".

boy = me. she dosen't have a boyfriend atm, she has an exboyfriend atm.

Okay, I think I see the confusion. I will edit my original post.

 

[Pliablemoose]

Sorry, I just don't know WTF to advise, I've always been up front with my intentions & if we didn't have shared goals, I moved on...

Which is what you need to do, move on. Even if you care for her, you need to detach & look around somewhere else.

Cliff notes:

You're too young to get serious
You 2 haven't slept together & she won't commit to an exculsive relationship with you

@ this point when I was your age, I'd go get drunk & steal a manhole cover to get over it... (Yeah I know... I had issues😀)

 

[EngenZerO]

I would put the move on another girl, in front of her ( to gauge her reaction, cause you seem to go to alot of parties ). If she seems pissed and comes in and interferes...I say play it out and see what happens at the end ( still continue looking for other chicks though ). If she kinds just walks away and lets ya get your game on, kick her to the curb, and continue to game teh new h0ttie, 🙂

 

[stev0]

done.

 

[EngenZerO]

Originally posted by: stev0

Originally posted by: EngenZerO
I would put the move on another girl, in front of her ( to gauge her reaction, cause you seem to go to alot of parties ). If she seems pissed and comes in and interferes...I say play it out and see what happens at the end ( still continue looking for other chicks though ). If she kinds just walks away and lets ya get your game on, kick her to the curb, and continue to game teh new h0ttie, 🙂

this has already been done. i wasen't really putting the moves on her, but some girl came up to me and was all over me at a party we were having at my apt one night. she didn't say anything at the time, but before she left it was all "WTF was that all about? do you like her? do you want to fvck her?" sort of thing

also happened about a month ago when i got back from a job, she asked what i did all week (she was gone on work too) and i explained that i spent the week screwing and that i'm getting pretty damn good at it. he face went from happy and smiling to pissed off and frowning and she said "Who were you fvcking" in a very serious tone. the truth is, and i told her, that i had been laying subfloor (durock) that week 😛 and ran about 30,000 screws. needless to say, i didn't use that joke again.

sometimes she'll act like one of those hs girls, the ones that constantly dig in your pockets and play with all your stuff that you have in there, other nights i'll come over and sit down and the next thing i know she's on my lap with her arms around me just sitting there.

imho, it seems like she is just as confused as i am... or not? maybe... who the hell knows, im going to start drinking as soon as i get out of the shower, so in like 30 min 🙂

hot damn...you are in a precarious situation my friend. this girl has some major issues. she does like ya, but she is still in love with another man. like ya said she is keeping ya around like a toy. personally, i would play this move. tell her that you have a date this weekend and that you are going out without her (play the same card again). when she goves off, start telling her about the mixed feelings she is giving ya, and that you can't wait for her to make her mind up ( this is where you are either gonna bite the bullet or have a new g.f. ). tell her you want a relationship with her but you can't wait for her to get over her old flame. you want the respect and love of a women, and not want to be considered someones lap dog. your a human with emotions and you cant be burdened with someones sick idea of being a part-time bf. if she starts crying...feed her this line. I will cancel my date this week, blah, blah, so that I can spend time with you. Lets starts over clean slate blah blah, I love ya blah blah. If she hangs up...fvck her...go to parties and hang out with other chicks...move on...you dont issues like this with a women.

in the end you will either have a g.f. or have her kicked to the curb...good luck

 

[imported_Papi]

Originally posted by: stev0

Originally posted by: EngenZerO
I would put the move on another girl, in front of her ( to gauge her reaction, cause you seem to go to alot of parties ). If she seems pissed and comes in and interferes...I say play it out and see what happens at the end ( still continue looking for other chicks though ). If she kinds just walks away and lets ya get your game on, kick her to the curb, and continue to game teh new h0ttie, 🙂

this has already been done. i wasen't really putting the moves on her, but some girl came up to me and was all over me at a party we were having at my apt one night. she didn't say anything at the time, but before she left it was all "WTF was that all about? do you like her? do you want to fvck her?" sort of thing

also happened about a month ago when i got back from a job, she asked what i did all week (she was gone on work too) and i explained that i spent the week screwing and that i'm getting pretty damn good at it. he face went from happy and smiling to pissed off and frowning and she said "Who were you fvcking" in a very serious tone. the truth is, and i told her, that i had been laying subfloor (durock) that week 😛 and ran about 30,000 screws. needless to say, i didn't use that joke again.

sometimes she'll act like one of those hs girls, the ones that constantly dig in your pockets and play with all your stuff that you have in there, other nights i'll come over and sit down and the next thing i know she's on my lap with her arms around me just sitting there.

imho, it seems like she is just as confused as i am... or not? maybe... who the hell knows, im going to start drinking as soon as i get out of the shower, so in like 30 min 🙂

you have computer in the shower? Holy!

 

[gigapet]

her ex is going to come back from army training and snap your neck like a ninja totally flipping out for no reason.

 

[EngenZerO]

Originally posted by: gigapet
her ex is going to come back from army training and snap your neck like a ninja totally flipping out for no reason.

LOL...

 

[clamum]

Update!! Heh 🙂

 

[stev0]

update: 8.11
took a while, we didn't finish talking till about 5am (this morning) and i had to be on the road by 6.. so it's been sort of a long day.

went over there right after she got done with work (normal deal, she calls on her way home, i meet her there) went up, hung out with her roomies for a while, had a few drinks (mainly to loosen myself up 😛) while we were out on the deck i mentioned to her that i need to talk to her, about things. went to her bedroom, layed down and started out.

i explained pretty much everything i was feeling, to the best of my ability with about 1/3 of a liter of jim beam in me 😛😀 i told her all those times that i had to come in to town for work were really to see her, she didn't say much, that she was really flatterd then just got closer and squeezed my arm a bit. i told her how the time we spend is pretty much what i look forward to during the week, with about the same reaction. i told her that out of my entire day... i probably spend 80% of the time thinking about her.. all while i was saying this she had a rather large smile on her face and started to blush a bit 😛 we talked about that for a while, she pretty much said that she knew what i was thinking :Q how she could see it in my eyes when i smilied at her (mushy i know 😛) more stuff like that.

there was a bit of slience, somewhat enjoying the moment, how much of a relief that was, and the fact that she was still squeezing my arm pretty good 😛 🙂 after that i asked about B (the ex-bf ranger, not in training btw, but active duty in iraq) she said that he always says the he wants to marry her, everytime he has said that to her she says that he is coming back on too strong and needs to back off a whole lot. she didnt really have an answer, her words were something to "well your definatly more than a friend (looks at me, smiles) i love how you can make me laugh anytime, even when i'm having the shi*est days, but i just dont know right now" she went on to say how everyone tells her that she is crazy for wanting with get back with B and maybe they are right 🙂D!) but she wants to go down there and see him before she gets involved with another person. i told her what her roomie had said, how she explained to me that she was just keeping me warm till she was ready to cook, J agreed that, that was probably the easiest way to explain our relationship. i asked her again later, about me and her ever being us, again she said she didn't really know, the she looked at me and smiled to which i replied "well it wasen't a no, and it wasen't a yes... so that is like a 'if B is a big loser when i see him i'm going to come back and fvck stev0's brains out' maybe" .. she laughed, gave one of those evil (in a good way 🙂 ) looks smilied and was like "yea.. maybe"

we talked about a hole bunch more after that, how she appreciated that i didn't come on really strong and didn't just go for the pink, so more things like that were said, then thanked me for talking to her about all this, because she was just as confused, and still is, as i was, or am... or something 😛

we layed there for like a half an hour to 45 min, didn't really say anything, just hugging/cuddling, the entire time she had a big smile on her face. i told her i need to be on the road in an hour and need to go home and pack, we both got up, walked to the door of her apt, as i was leaving she grabbed onto me and hugged for another 5 min or so, then said goodnight.

 

[Yax]

interesting. I could explain to you, but it'll take too much time so the thing you should do (and trust me on this one) is hit it with her ASAP. You might not want to when she returns or she might not want to anymore once she returns, either way, if you do it now you'd be the better for it. Good luck.

Oh, yeah, she's probably wondering why you don't have the duck to do her even after all her signs. She's probably getting tired of waiting and starting to feel like you belong in the friend zone, but that's another story.

 

[stev0]

Originally posted by: cheapbidder01
interesting. I could explain to you, but it'll take too much time so the thing you should do (and trust me on this one) is hit it with her ASAP. You might not want to when she returns or she might not want to anymore once she returns, either way, if you do it now you'd be the better for it. Good luck.

Oh, yeah, she's probably wondering why you don't have the duck to do her even after all her signs. She's probably getting tired of waiting and starting to feel like you belong in the friend zone, but that's another story.

no no no, we went over that. she's only been with two other people and really has a hold on who she doinks, i myself have only been with one girl, it is was fairly recently.

i told her i didn't want to become the next D, a friend of hers that expressed his love for her and ended up being one of those 'i think of you as my brother i'm so close to you and love you and you got the shaft' guys, she assured me that i was no where near that area.

she is coming out to the lakes on thursday to hang out (she has the day off, i'll be taking the afternoon off) so maybe that is my time to shine 😛

 

[Anghang]

best of luck dude....i really hope it all works out for ya cuz i can semi-relate...and tho i hate situations like this, at least going thru the motions doing what you know needs to be done will eventually get you to a better position (no pun intended, well maybe...😛)

 

[kermalou]

have you banged this chick yet or not?

 

[stev0]

Originally posted by: kermalou
have you banged this chick yet or not?

hi, if you would've actually read any of the posts, you would see that i said very clearly there has been no sex, just fooling around.

go away now, your worthless comments add nothing but filth to my otherwise sanitary thread.

 

[Yax]

Originally posted by: stev0

Originally posted by: cheapbidder01
interesting. I could explain to you, but it'll take too much time so the thing you should do (and trust me on this one) is hit it with her ASAP. You might not want to when she returns or she might not want to anymore once she returns, either way, if you do it now you'd be the better for it. Good luck.

Oh, yeah, she's probably wondering why you don't have the duck to do her even after all her signs. She's probably getting tired of waiting and starting to feel like you belong in the friend zone, but that's another story.

no no no, we went over that. she's only been with two other people and really has a hold on who she doinks, i myself have only been with one girl, it is was fairly recently.

i told her i didn't want to become the next D, a friend of hers that expressed his love for her and ended up being one of those 'i think of you as my brother i'm so close to you and love you and you got the shaft' guys, she assured me that i was no where near that area.

she is coming out to the lakes on thursday to hang out (she has the day off, i'll be taking the afternoon off) so maybe that is my time to shine 😛

Girls always reduce the number. 2 is like around 10. Make sure you shine before her trip to see B or you may be writing another YAGT for help figuring out how you got into the friend zone.

 

[stev0]

Originally posted by: cheapbidder01

Originally posted by: stev0

Originally posted by: cheapbidder01
interesting. I could explain to you, but it'll take too much time so the thing you should do (and trust me on this one) is hit it with her ASAP. You might not want to when she returns or she might not want to anymore once she returns, either way, if you do it now you'd be the better for it. Good luck.

Oh, yeah, she's probably wondering why you don't have the duck to do her even after all her signs. She's probably getting tired of waiting and starting to feel like you belong in the friend zone, but that's another story.

no no no, we went over that. she's only been with two other people and really has a hold on who she doinks, i myself have only been with one girl, it is was fairly recently.

i told her i didn't want to become the next D, a friend of hers that expressed his love for her and ended up being one of those 'i think of you as my brother i'm so close to you and love you and you got the shaft' guys, she assured me that i was no where near that area.

she is coming out to the lakes on thursday to hang out (she has the day off, i'll be taking the afternoon off) so maybe that is my time to shine 😛

Girls always reduce the number. 2 is like around 10. Make sure you shine before her trip to see B or you may be writing another YAGT for help figuring out how you got into the friend zone.

yea i know, i've heard that before, for some reason i don't think that is the case. you can usually tell by the person if he/she is giving a lower number.. idk

yea i'm defintly going to try my best for the next few weeks

 

[alphatarget1]

a ranger? he could kick your ass 😛

j/k, best of luck to you and hope everything turns out fine.

 

[stev0]

Originally posted by: alphatarget1
a ranger? he could kick your ass 😛

j/k, best of luck to you and hope everything turns out fine.

oh yea... he could, im sure he would too if he found out what was going on 😛

thanks 🙂

 

[Storm]

Originally posted by: stev0

Originally posted by: alphatarget1
a ranger? he could kick your ass 😛

j/k, best of luck to you and hope everything turns out fine.

oh yea... he could, im sure he would too if he found out what was going on 😛

thanks 🙂

He's a psycho if goes ballistic if he finds you are dating his former gf, when he's out banging hookers like you stated?

 

[EngenZerO]

Originally posted by: stev0
update: 8.11
took a while, we didn't finish talking till about 5am (this morning) and i had to be on the road by 6.. so it's been sort of a long day.

went over there right after she got done with work (normal deal, she calls on her way home, i meet her there) went up, hung out with her roomies for a while, had a few drinks (mainly to loosen myself up 😛) while we were out on the deck i mentioned to her that i need to talk to her, about things. went to her bedroom, layed down and started out.

i explained pretty much everything i was feeling, to the best of my ability with about 1/3 of a liter of jim beam in me 😛😀 i told her all those times that i had to come in to town for work were really to see her, she didn't say much, that she was really flatterd then just got closer and squeezed my arm a bit. i told her how the time we spend is pretty much what i look forward to during the week, with about the same reaction. i told her that out of my entire day... i probably spend 80% of the time thinking about her.. all while i was saying this she had a rather large smile on her face and started to blush a bit 😛 we talked about that for a while, she pretty much said that she knew what i was thinking :Q how she could see it in my eyes when i smilied at her (mushy i know 😛) more stuff like that.

there was a bit of slience, somewhat enjoying the moment, how much of a relief that was, and the fact that she was still squeezing my arm pretty good 😛 🙂 after that i asked about B (the ex-bf ranger, not in training btw, but active duty in iraq) she said that he always says the he wants to marry her, everytime he has said that to her she says that he is coming back on too strong and needs to back off a whole lot. she didnt really have an answer, her words were something to "well your definatly more than a friend (looks at me, smiles) i love how you can make me laugh anytime, even when i'm having the shi*est days, but i just dont know right now" she went on to say how everyone tells her that she is crazy for wanting with get back with B and maybe they are right 🙂D!) but she wants to go down there and see him before she gets involved with another person. i told her what her roomie had said, how she explained to me that she was just keeping me warm till she was ready to cook, J agreed that, that was probably the easiest way to explain our relationship. i asked her again later, about me and her ever being us, again she said she didn't really know, the she looked at me and smiled to which i replied "well it wasen't a no, and it wasen't a yes... so that is like a 'if B is a big loser when i see him i'm going to come back and fvck stev0's brains out' maybe" .. she laughed, gave one of those evil (in a good way 🙂 ) looks smilied and was like "yea.. maybe"

we talked about a hole bunch more after that, how she appreciated that i didn't come on really strong and didn't just go for the pink, so more things like that were said, then thanked me for talking to her about all this, because she was just as confused, and still is, as i was, or am... or something 😛

we layed there for like a half an hour to 45 min, didn't really say anything, just hugging/cuddling, the entire time she had a big smile on her face. i told her i need to be on the road in an hour and need to go home and pack, we both got up, walked to the door of her apt, as i was leaving she grabbed onto me and hugged for another 5 min or so, then said goodnight.

yer still number two one her list, :/. dunno, I say if ya like her what could her to wait a bit longer...she may come around. if not, to the curb.

 

[stev0]

Originally posted by: EngenZerO

Originally posted by: stev0
update: 8.11
took a while, we didn't finish talking till about 5am (this morning) and i had to be on the road by 6.. so it's been sort of a long day.

went over there right after she got done with work (normal deal, she calls on her way home, i meet her there) went up, hung out with her roomies for a while, had a few drinks (mainly to loosen myself up 😛) while we were out on the deck i mentioned to her that i need to talk to her, about things. went to her bedroom, layed down and started out.

i explained pretty much everything i was feeling, to the best of my ability with about 1/3 of a liter of jim beam in me 😛😀 i told her all those times that i had to come in to town for work were really to see her, she didn't say much, that she was really flatterd then just got closer and squeezed my arm a bit. i told her how the time we spend is pretty much what i look forward to during the week, with about the same reaction. i told her that out of my entire day... i probably spend 80% of the time thinking about her.. all while i was saying this she had a rather large smile on her face and started to blush a bit 😛 we talked about that for a while, she pretty much said that she knew what i was thinking :Q how she could see it in my eyes when i smilied at her (mushy i know 😛) more stuff like that.

there was a bit of slience, somewhat enjoying the moment, how much of a relief that was, and the fact that she was still squeezing my arm pretty good 😛 🙂 after that i asked about B (the ex-bf ranger, not in training btw, but active duty in iraq) she said that he always says the he wants to marry her, everytime he has said that to her she says that he is coming back on too strong and needs to back off a whole lot. she didnt really have an answer, her words were something to "well your definatly more than a friend (looks at me, smiles) i love how you can make me laugh anytime, even when i'm having the shi*est days, but i just dont know right now" she went on to say how everyone tells her that she is crazy for wanting with get back with B and maybe they are right 🙂D!) but she wants to go down there and see him before she gets involved with another person. i told her what her roomie had said, how she explained to me that she was just keeping me warm till she was ready to cook, J agreed that, that was probably the easiest way to explain our relationship. i asked her again later, about me and her ever being us, again she said she didn't really know, the she looked at me and smiled to which i replied "well it wasen't a no, and it wasen't a yes... so that is like a 'if B is a big loser when i see him i'm going to come back and fvck stev0's brains out' maybe" .. she laughed, gave one of those evil (in a good way 🙂 ) looks smilied and was like "yea.. maybe"

we talked about a hole bunch more after that, how she appreciated that i didn't come on really strong and didn't just go for the pink, so more things like that were said, then thanked me for talking to her about all this, because she was just as confused, and still is, as i was, or am... or something 😛

we layed there for like a half an hour to 45 min, didn't really say anything, just hugging/cuddling, the entire time she had a big smile on her face. i told her i need to be on the road in an hour and need to go home and pack, we both got up, walked to the door of her apt, as i was leaving she grabbed onto me and hugged for another 5 min or so, then said goodnight.

yer still number two one her list, :/. dunno, I say if ya like her what could her to wait a bit longer...she may come around. if not, to the curb.

... ok.. might be a bit late on this one.