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YAGT??..Women of ATOT opinions needed.

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JinLien

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What is the likely hood that a couple get back together if one walk out on the other over different opinion of making dinner?
Is a relationship worth saving if we lack communication/listening skill?

The GF just walked out the door this morning with most of her things because we have a small argument regarding dinner (obviously I?m wrong by thinking this is small).

My take on things is that the problem has been compounding from many things, we have been busy with our work, I have been on the computer way too much instead of paying attention to her, we haven?t been going out much in the last 3-4 months, and I'm not very good at guessing what she is thinking/want.

 
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And I am guessing that this is the only warning you will get about your rude, uncalled for comments.

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I don't think you'll get too much useful info on here. Talk to your girl about it. Figure out if you're in the relationship because you're attached to her emotionally or if you think she's still the kind of girl you want to date.

If it was me, I wouldn't date a girl who would walk out based on dinner plans. But I'm sure that's not the heart of the issue anyways....
 
Originally posted by: JinLien
My take on things is that the problem has been compounding from many things, we have been busy with our work, I have been on the computer way too much instead of paying attention to her, we haven?t been going out much in the last 3-4 months, and I'm not very good at guessing what she is thinking/want.
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Bingo. I think you answered your own question there. (Emphasis on the highlighted part) She didn't walk out because of dinner. That was just the french fry that caused the heart attack. The damage points had been accumulating for a long time.

(Edit: I'm not a woman. Just a dude with an opinion.)
 
Originally posted by: Pablo
I don't think you'll get too much useful info on here. Talk to your girl about it. Figure out if you're in the relationship because you're attached to her emotionally or if you think she's still the kind of girl you want to date.

If it was me, I wouldn't date a girl who would walk out based on dinner plans. But I'm sure that's not the heart of the issue anyways....
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I love my GF dearly and she uses it as ammo against me during our arguments. I guest that I should pay more attention to her and stop arguing before things get to this point.

The main issue is that I didn't pay enough attention to her as stated above. However, I?m questioning her logic and behavior.

About 8-10 month ago we had an argument that she call the cops on me, because I wouldn?t stop teasing her (I went over board with the teasing. She always whines and it got on my nerves so I whine to her about the same thing for about 15 minutes).

 
Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
Originally posted by: JinLien
My take on things is that the problem has been compounding from many things, we have been busy with our work, I have been on the computer way too much instead of paying attention to her, we haven?t been going out much in the last 3-4 months, and I'm not very good at guessing what she is thinking/want.
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Bingo. I think you answered your own question there. (Emphasis on the highlighted part) She didn't walk out because of dinner. That was just the french fry that caused the heart attack. The damage points had been accumulating for a long time.
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You are right, but I feel that the GF & I spends enought time together. We talk and cuddles and have private time. I try to get her to go hiking & biking with me but excercise is out of the question for her. She doesn't like to go to parties or dancing, therefore restaurant (which we went to last weekend), movies, and shoes shopping (which I dislike) are the things we do.

She have an exam on Monday that could be one of the thing that is stressing her out, and instead of studying she wanted to go out to de-stress. Another thing is that she has completed all her RN courses last week, but still has a cert to write in June 2006 to qualify as a RN. Her schooling has wound down to an end and she still doesn?t know if she wants to work as a nurse. Her 27th birthday is in 8 days and she isn?t looking forward toward it, plus the biological clock is ticking and we hasn?t set a definite date for a wedding yet.

<--- ****** feeling.

 
Originally posted by: JinLien
Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
Originally posted by: JinLien
My take on things is that the problem has been compounding from many things, we have been busy with our work, I have been on the computer way too much instead of paying attention to her, we haven?t been going out much in the last 3-4 months, and I'm not very good at guessing what she is thinking/want.
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Bingo. I think you answered your own question there. (Emphasis on the highlighted part) She didn't walk out because of dinner. That was just the french fry that caused the heart attack. The damage points had been accumulating for a long time.
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You are right, but I feel that the GF & I spends enought time together. We talk and cuddles and have private time. I try to get her to go hiking & biking with me but excercise is out of the question for her. She doesn't like to go to parties or dancing, therefore restaurant (which we went to last weekend), movies, and shoes shopping (which I dislike) are the things we do.

She have an exam on Monday that could be one of the thing that is stressing her out, and instead of studying she wanted to go out to de-stress. Another thing is that she has completed all her RN courses last week, but still has a cert to write in June 2006 to qualify as a RN. Her schooling has wound down to an end and she still doesn?t know if she wants to work as a nurse. Her 27th birthday is in 8 days and she isn?t looking forward toward it, plus the biological clock is ticking and we hasn?t set a definite date for a wedding yet.

<--- ****** feeling.
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So she won't even consider doing anything you like, but you crack like a dry twig when it comes to doing stuff she likes, even though you hate it? She called the cops on you for teasing? :Q

No offense dude, but she sounds like a head case - one with your balls in her purse, at that. Maybe she's better off gone. Just my .02.
 
Originally posted by: Black88GTA
Originally posted by: JinLien
Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
Originally posted by: JinLien
My take on things is that the problem has been compounding from many things, we have been busy with our work, I have been on the computer way too much instead of paying attention to her, we haven?t been going out much in the last 3-4 months, and I'm not very good at guessing what she is thinking/want.
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Bingo. I think you answered your own question there. (Emphasis on the highlighted part) She didn't walk out because of dinner. That was just the french fry that caused the heart attack. The damage points had been accumulating for a long time.
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You are right, but I feel that the GF & I spends enought time together. We talk and cuddles and have private time. I try to get her to go hiking & biking with me but excercise is out of the question for her. She doesn't like to go to parties or dancing, therefore restaurant (which we went to last weekend), movies, and shoes shopping (which I dislike) are the things we do.

She have an exam on Monday that could be one of the thing that is stressing her out, and instead of studying she wanted to go out to de-stress. Another thing is that she has completed all her RN courses last week, but still has a cert to write in June 2006 to qualify as a RN. Her schooling has wound down to an end and she still doesn?t know if she wants to work as a nurse. Her 27th birthday is in 8 days and she isn?t looking forward toward it, plus the biological clock is ticking and we hasn?t set a definite date for a wedding yet.

<--- ****** feeling.
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So she won't even consider doing anything you like, but you crack like a dry twig when it comes to doing stuff she likes, even though you hate it? She called the cops on you for teasing? :Q

No offense dude, but she sounds like a head case - one with your balls in her purse, at that. Maybe she's better off gone. Just my .02.
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DING!DING!DING! We have a winner!!!!
 
Originally posted by: AccruedExpenditure
What happened with this,.
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She came home the next evening, and told me that she is moving out. I apologize to her for 2 hours (because women are always right), and we had great sex for about 2 hours as post damage control.

A couple of days later I had a talk with her, and I told her she shouldn?t play head games because one day I might let her go due to the childish behavior. She didn?t like the talk, but agree that she will try harder at not playing head games.

 
In the end, if you have to dance around these head games, then it is not a good relationship. Do what you will and someone willl fit your life or not.
 
Originally posted by: JinLien
Originally posted by: AccruedExpenditure
What happened with this,.
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She came home the next evening, and told me that she is moving out. I apologize to her for 2 hours (because women are always right), and we had great sex for about 2 hours as post damage control.

A couple of days later I had a talk with her, and I told her she shouldn?t play head games because one day I might let her go due to the childish behavior. She didn?t like the talk, but agree that she will try harder at not playing head games.
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That's the problem. Women are not always right...and neither are men. You did better when you stood up for yourself and told her you wouldn't let her play those games. But there's a lot more problems, and I don't think it will work out. You two seem to two very different people.

Three words: Move on. Quick.
 
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