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YAGT: Woman = teh suck

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Handsom3D3vil

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Alright, I?m a little new here but here it goes.

Background:
I?ve been seeing this girl for a year and a half now and about a year ago I moved to Chicago while she stayed in Saint Louis with her family. Well about 6 months ago she moved to Arizona with her family. So basically we never really see each other anymore and she planned on coming to school here, but her dad has ?issues? with me and forbade it.

Story:
I go to school year round in Chicago so there is no summer vacation for me, but I get a week off in August between semesters. She had originally planned to go to Saint Louis to visit her friends and I was going to come down and visit her and my family. She was flying in on the 25th of July and I had planned to drive in the same day. Well last night I found that Muse was going to be in town on the 27th, last time they came to play I missed it because of her, and I already bought tickets to see them. Well I told her about this and asked her if she wanted to me to go or not. She told me it was fine and it would work out with her.

Well last night about 3 in the morning she called me and was crying about how I broke her heart and how I was ?taking her from granted? by not coming in the same time she was to see her. The whole point of this trip was for her to see her friends and I was coming because I had the time. So basically some yelling ensued by both parties, I had worked a 10 hour shift and had to be up at 6 the next morning so I was tired and upset, she told me we were going on ?break?, and ended up with an ?I hate you!? and her hanging up. Somewhere along the lines she told me to call her back when I was done being selfish. Do you think I should?

Cliffs:
  • Girlfriend of 18 months
    First time seeing each other in 2 months
    Wanted to see a concert that I missed last time due to her issues
    Concert would make me come in two days later
    She claims I broke her heart, because she was coming to see, but not really
    Told me she hated me
    Told me to call back when I was done being selfish

Should I call it or move on?
 
Yes, learn you must. Yup you dropped the ball on this one. Sounds like this is a great time to start seeing girls in Chicago.
 
Originally posted by: sm8000
She, for one, has some growing up to do.
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I was thinking about calling her and telling her that. Think that would be a smart move? I really don't see her coming up here and I'm already eyeing some new girls. I just suck at ending things like these. :frown:
 
Originally posted by: Handsom3D3vil
Originally posted by: sm8000
She, for one, has some growing up to do.
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I was thinking about calling her and telling her that. Think that would be a smart move? I really don't see her coming up here and I'm already eyeing some new girls. I just suck at ending things like these. :frown:
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there is nothing to end. Its over. Don't call, don't answer her calls, end of story. go mack the new girls.
 
Originally posted by: Gnrslash4life
I wouldnt call back.
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No, call back, that way both of you know it is over. Just tell her that the long distance relationship is not working out and it is not fair to both of you. Don't tell her that she needs to grow up (if you tell her that, YOU need to grow up). Remember, anger is the way of the dark side.
 
Originally posted by: jhayx7
Originally posted by: Gnrslash4life
I wouldnt call back.
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No, call back, that way both of you know it is over. Just tell her that the long distance relationship is not working out and it is not fair to both of you. Don't tell her that she needs to grow up (if you tell her that, YOU need to grow up). Remember, anger is the way of the dark side.
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Its eaiser if he just waits to see if she calls.
 
Originally posted by: Gnrslash4life
Originally posted by: jhayx7
Originally posted by: Gnrslash4life
I wouldnt call back.
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No, call back, that way both of you know it is over. Just tell her that the long distance relationship is not working out and it is not fair to both of you. Don't tell her that she needs to grow up (if you tell her that, YOU need to grow up). Remember, anger is the way of the dark side.
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Its eaiser if he just waits to see if she calls.
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His preference. I always like to initiate the call so I could get it over with and move on. Quicker the better.
 
Originally posted by: jlbenedict
The Anandtech mods should rename the "Off Topic" forum to "Girls/Women - Why Anandtech Geeks Will Never Understand"
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They should just make a separate YAGT section on this forum.
 
Yeah, long distance relationships are lame. You may like this girl, but it's better for both of you if you split. Besides, getting on the bad side of the parents isn't going to help you down the road even if you worked things out.

She said she was fine with it and then bawled on the phone about how she's not fine with it? That's irritating
 
Originally posted by: jhayx7
Originally posted by: Gnrslash4life
I wouldnt call back.
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No, call back, that way both of you know it is over. Just tell her that the long distance relationship is not working out and it is not fair to both of you. Don't tell her that she needs to grow up (if you tell her that, YOU need to grow up). Remember, anger is the way of the dark side.
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Thanks for the advice jhayx7. I'm not to good with words and it makes me somewhat classy. But now for some reason I have the Imperial March stuck in my head.
 
wow, sounds identical to my situation last year

long distance relationship is suck, although she was a great girl, couldn't make it work
 
Originally posted by: Eeezee
Yeah, long distance relationships are lame. You may like this girl, but it's better for both of you if you split. Besides, getting on the bad side of the parents isn't going to help you down the road even if you worked things out.
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The reason her dad has issues with me is because I couldn't fly down there to see them. I'm in college on my own with many bills to pay. I figured it would be the more mature choice to go to school and work rather then use money I don't have to fly down there. Her dad is pretty much trying to turn me againist her, but I guess it is starting to work now.

 
It is selfish to wait around in Chicago to see a band instead of going down to see her on your week off. Plus, you are blowing off your family for two days. I can understand that she would be pissed.

The question you should ask yourself is "Even if I fix this, will this relationship go anywhere?". She lives in Arizona. Her dad won't let her go to school in Chicago, ergo she can't be close to you. You get very little time off, so you can only see her every few months (less?). Will the current situation end any time soon? If you can never be close (in proximity), or if it will take 3-5 years for it to happen, is it worth the investment *now*?

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