YAGT with Poll: Am I responsible to pay for friends with benefits

[imported_UncivilizedAMD]

My female friend with benefits and I are on a vacation trip. Yes, I am getting 100% benefits. We each paid for our own airline tickets. Question is am I responsible for all her expenses on the trip? Please keep in mind that I am an unemployed poor college student.

I am thinking no because she is not my girlfriend and she is having fun too.

We're at day 12 of our trip which is 1/3rd of the way through already and I shelled out 1100 already for both of us. She told me that I need to pay for her expenses as well. I wanted to see if she is just using me so I decided to use $200 of her money on a tour. She got extremely angry and started to scratch me and pinch me with her nails which did resulted in cuts.

So am I responsible for her expenses?

 

[Suspicious-Teach8788]

no WAY

 

[halik]

I'd probably pay, just to keep that set up going. No pay = no play in most cases.

 

[Greenman]

You should have worked that out before you went on the trip.

 

[ShotgunSteven]

"Warrior needs NOOKIE, badly! Insert coin to continue!"

 

[natep]

I would say no. Isn't the point of friends w/ benefits that your both getting what you want, and you don't want to take it any further? She doesn't want to be your girlfriend, she shouldn't want to be a pseudo-prostitute for you either.

 

[brandonb]

As the saying goes... You get what you pay for...

Thats why its better to just get in a relationship with someone and get it all the time for free. But hey. "Friends with Benefits" is a good thing. /boggle.

 

[imported_UncivilizedAMD]

Originally posted by: halik
I'd probably pay, just to keep that set up going. No pay = no play in most cases.

True, but I am in asia where play is easily accessible and cheap too.

Originally posted by: Greenman
You should have worked that out before you went on the trip.

Before we went on the trip, we were just regular friends. The benefits started a couple days into the trip.

 

[natep]

Originally posted by: UncivilizedAMD

Originally posted by: halik
I'd probably pay, just to keep that set up going. No pay = no play in most cases.

True, but I am in asia where play is easily accessible and cheap too.

Originally posted by: Greenman
You should have worked that out before you went on the trip.

Before we went on the trip, we were just regular friends. The benefits started a couple days into the trip.

Are you sure all she wants is the benefits?

 

[imported_UncivilizedAMD]

Originally posted by: natep

Originally posted by: UncivilizedAMD

Originally posted by: halik
I'd probably pay, just to keep that set up going. No pay = no play in most cases.

True, but I am in asia where play is easily accessible and cheap too.

Originally posted by: Greenman
You should have worked that out before you went on the trip.

Before we went on the trip, we were just regular friends. The benefits started a couple days into the trip.

Are you sure all she wants is the benefits?

I'm not sure what she wants. I just know that I am getting benefits and I have been asked to pay for expenses for both of us. The topic of a relationship came up but she just says i don't know.

 

[JS80]

No, not even if she WERE your gf.

 

[CKent]

Originally posted by: halik
I'd probably pay, just to keep that set up going. No pay = no play in most cases.

 

[Shadowknight]

Originally posted by: JS80
No, not even if she WERE your gf.

QFT

Also, if you have to essentially pay for her stuff on the vacation to sleep with her, you can get cheaper deals with a professional prostitute.

Seriously, if you're friends, or even dating, she should be paying for all of her own damn things, food, transportation, whatever.

 

[ForumMaster]

Originally posted by: JS80
No, not even if she WERE your gf.

QFT. /thread. get this through her head. you don't have to pay for everything even if she was your GF. and especially since she isn't, you don't have to pay a single buck for her.

 

[natep]

Why do you have access to her $200?

 

[imported_UncivilizedAMD]

Originally posted by: natep
Why do you have access to her $200?

Because I am keeping money for both of us.

 

[jiggahertz]

Originally posted by: UncivilizedAMD

Originally posted by: natep

Originally posted by: UncivilizedAMD

Originally posted by: halik
I'd probably pay, just to keep that set up going. No pay = no play in most cases.

True, but I am in asia where play is easily accessible and cheap too.

Originally posted by: Greenman
You should have worked that out before you went on the trip.

Before we went on the trip, we were just regular friends. The benefits started a couple days into the trip.

Are you sure all she wants is the benefits?

I'm not sure what she wants. I just know that I am getting benefits and I have been asked to pay for expenses for both of us. The topic of a relationship came up but she just says i don't know.

I think Greenman meant you should have worked out who was paying for expenses before the trip. The fact that you guys started banging on the trip doesn't change anything.

 

[CKent]

Originally posted by: brandonb
As the saying goes... You get what you pay for...

Thats why its better to just get in a relationship with someone and get it all the time for free. But hey. "Friends with Benefits" is a good thing. /boggle.

You ever buy your S/O flowers? Jewelery? What exactly did you think you were doing?

 

[torpid]

Uh... manipulative she devil alert. Just friends before vacation, suddenly she gives you benefits and wants you to pay for stuff. Nevermind the whole, pay for sex = prostitute angle...

First let's think about what will happen when you get home. I have a feeling she's going to stop with the benefits, or worse, continue with them and demand that you pay for everything.

Second, I don't recall ever being in a relationship where a girl demanded that I pay for things. I might have paid for them because I wanted to, but never would I tolerate a girl demanding that I pay for her. I'm not a sugar daddy and I don't want to go out with someone who is for all intents and purposes a hooker.

 

[GuitarDaddy]

Sounds like she didn't have enough money for the trip, and figured out an easy way to pay for it. And you are trying to foil her plan.

Sounds like you both need to come to grips with the reality of the situation and set a fixed price for said benifets. Even if you don't want to admit it, this is a pro/client relationship.

 

[hjo3]

Why are you going on a vacation while unemployed? Doesn't seem like the smartest thing to do.

 

[Spineshank]

This thread is gonna go places..

 

[imported_UncivilizedAMD]

Originally posted by: jiggahertz

Originally posted by: UncivilizedAMD

Originally posted by: natep

Originally posted by: UncivilizedAMD

Originally posted by: halik
I'd probably pay, just to keep that set up going. No pay = no play in most cases.

True, but I am in asia where play is easily accessible and cheap too.

Originally posted by: Greenman
You should have worked that out before you went on the trip.

Before we went on the trip, we were just regular friends. The benefits started a couple days into the trip.

Are you sure all she wants is the benefits?

I'm not sure what she wants. I just know that I am getting benefits and I have been asked to pay for expenses for both of us. The topic of a relationship came up but she just says i don't know.

I think Greenman meant you should have worked out who was paying for expenses before the trip. The fact that you guys started banging on the trip doesn't change anything.

Well when we were friends, it would be u pay for your stuff and I pay for mine and that is the common rule. Now that the benefits roll in, then the common rule would say a guy pays for his gf. But this girl is just a friends with benefits as of right now, so that's why I am stuck between what rule to follow.

 

[imported_UncivilizedAMD]

Originally posted by: GuitarDaddy
Sounds like she didn't have enough money for the trip, and figured out an easy way to pay for it. And you are trying to foil her plan.

Sounds like you both need to come to grips with the reality of the situation and set a fixed price for said benifets. Even if you don't want to admit it, this is a pro/client relationship.

She does have enough money for the trip, since I know exactly how much money she bought along which is more than enough imo and the amount of money in her bank account.

 

[jiggahertz]

Originally posted by: UncivilizedAMD

Well when we were friends, it would be u pay for your stuff and I pay for mine and that is the common rule. Now that the benefits roll in, then the common rule would say a guy pays for his gf. But this girl is just a friends with benefits as of right now, so that's why I am stuck between what rule to follow.

You guys are still friends, yes? I don't see how you two guys hooking up changes anything. Even if you're going with a GF I don't think 100% of the expenses should ever fall on one person.