YAGT: Why do they always ask you what you're thinking?

[huesmann]

What's up with that?

 

[BigKev]

Here's a long shot: because they want to know!

 

[Amorphus]

Never be honest with them... ever.

 

[McCarthy]

Originally posted by: ISO
Here's a long shot: because they want to know!

Way to go, kill the thread before it gets going.

 

[hdeck]

girls like to talk. if you say what you're thinking this gives them an opportunity to talk.

 

[PunDogg]

you said "they" oh my god, are "they" coming to take me away
/runs away screaming

Dogg

 

[huesmann]

What if you don't fcuking wanna talk?

 

[olds]

They're chicks. They can't think for themselves.

 

[GalvanizedYankee]

Because many young women fish for compliments. So give her one.

"I was just thinking how well you fill out that sweater", & take it from there man!..

 

[kranky]

They are in the mood for a fight, and need you to put the bullets in the gun for them.

 

[olds]

Originally posted by: kranky
They are in the mood for a fight, and need you to put the bullets in the gun for them.

ROFLMAO

 

[Amorphus]

Originally posted by: galvanizedyankee
Because many young women fish for compliments. So give her one.

"I was just thinking how well you fill out that sweater", & take it from there man!..

"aww, thanks!" *blush*
"yeah, speaking of which, I could really go for a pear now..."

 

[Aquaman]

tell her you can't explain in and that you can show her on the internet what you are thinking. Then show her this

Cheers,
Aquaman

 

[DXM]

Originally posted by: kranky
They are in the mood for a fight, and need you to put the bullets in the gun for them.

What an observant statement.

 

[oniq]

Because they can't read your mind, and if they could they would.

 

[FrustratedUser]

Originally posted by: galvanizedyankee
Because many young women fish for compliments. So give her one.

"I was just thinking how well you fill out that sweater", & take it from there man!..

Those words can and will be taken the wrong way ---> j00 = SOL

 

[Deeko]

my ex used to ask that all the time, and I really hated that question, my thoughts are my own, so I would answer with a quick "about how much I love you"...gets you out of that bind quite nicely!

edit: change it up though..sometimes say "about how beautiful you are" or something like that.

 

[AreaCode707]

Partially because they think about you when they're with you more than you think about them, quite likely. Try it some time. When you're hanging out with your gf, ask "what are you thinking about?" They're much less likely than a guy to say (honestly) "nothing" or "oh, (some unrelated thing that happened in the past day or something they're thinking of buying or some problem, etc)" They're much more likely to bring up a feeling about you or the relationship or something. It's a constant process in a girl's head, and it's rather incomprehensible to them that it's not in yours.

To start avoiding this question, offer the information when you ARE thinking about her or the relationship in some way. If she's hearing it more often, she may stop asking you what you're thinking in hopes that the answer is about her.

It's not a self-centered thing so much as it is just a difference in how m/f brains work and the girl's inability to realize that you're not thinking the same type of things that she is, usually.

 

[Belethgaladwen]

Maybe because they think it might produce even an ounce of vulnerability.
Or maybe they're just curious.

 

[Siddhartha]

Originally posted by: huesmann
What's up with that?

It was really important to a lot of women I have known that she and I talked. It also shows she cares about you.

 

[Kadarin]

In my experience, women are never truly interested in what you're thinking; when they ask, it's their way of trying to connect with what, if anything, that you're feeling. And they're hoping to get some insight on how you're feeling about them.

 

[Konigin]

Because they want to know if you can.

 

[StormRider]

Tell her you're thinking about what you're gonna have for lunch.

 

LMAO, StormRider!

Hey Huesmann, they do? I'm not sure I would make such hasty generalisation. If you're experiencing that, then I think it's likely for any of these reasons:

(In all cases, she feels like she's in an awkward position.)

I) Maybe she has a secret to tell or something difficult to ask, but she's nervous. She asks you to get a feel of your mood.

II) You're a boring person. Once again, she feels awkward. She wants to get some conversation going. Of course what her conversation entails could be about her day or your day, feelings, etc.

III) She might just ask that in an awkward moment . . . maybe, for instance, she feels you're staring at her and would like to know why; hence, she asks what you're thinking. It presumes that you have her in mind, whether good or bad thoughts.