AMCRambler
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- Jan 23, 2001
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Originally posted by: DaShen
Depending on the girl that could backfire because a lot of the times that kind of question is a question they are asking themselves at that moment. The best bet is to just make the girl emotionally feel appreciated because that is usually why they ask that question.
In this guys situation, physical intimacy went to fast and now she is questioning if it is just a physical relationship (bad move OP).
My suggestion is to say the things you appreciate about her personality and mind (maybe something about yourself that you have learned through this relationship). If you can't think of anything, it may just be a physical relationship, which is bad in the long run, mmmkay.
Then if that was acceptable, plan something to wow her that isn't physical in nature. Something that will sweep her off her feet.Hope that helps.
The relationship became physical because she wanted it to be. After the first week and a half of being together we were in bed and it almost led to sex, she said that she wanted to wait because she wanted the relationship to mean more than just sex. I told her that I would leave it completely up to her when we have sex, and if we got close I would stop it until she said yes prior to us fooling around. So I stopped it quite a few times until the point where she said before we started that she wanted to. So how should I sweep her off her feet in another way other than physical? Its getting cold in my area (snowed last night), so a nice walk probably won't quite be nice yet, sitting in front of a fire or in a hot tub would be nice at this time of year, but not sure what I should do to sweep her off her feet. I am also not great at talking about and saying my feelings so maybe I have to get past that for her.
Bryophyte is correct. She wants to know if you are just using her for sex, or are you serious about the relationship. Some people don't like shallow relatioships. You guys need to talk about what you want and expect from eachother. Dont waste this girl's time if you aren't looking for the same thing.
edit:I just read your post above. It sounds like she's been misleading you in what she really wants. Still, sitting down to talk about it would probably be good.
Find me a girl who doesn't have any insecurities, and I will marry them on the spot. The fact of the matter is all people are insecure to some extent. Of course, you can find a girl who is more secure than the average person, and they are hard to come by and quite a catch if you find them.
Originally posted by: Atlantean
Originally posted by: DaShen
Depending on the girl that could backfire because a lot of the times that kind of question is a question they are asking themselves at that moment. The best bet is to just make the girl emotionally feel appreciated because that is usually why they ask that question.
In this guys situation, physical intimacy went to fast and now she is questioning if it is just a physical relationship (bad move OP).
My suggestion is to say the things you appreciate about her personality and mind (maybe something about yourself that you have learned through this relationship). If you can't think of anything, it may just be a physical relationship, which is bad in the long run, mmmkay.
Then if that was acceptable, plan something to wow her that isn't physical in nature. Something that will sweep her off her feet.
The relationship became physical because she wanted it to be. After the first week and a half of being together we were in bed and it almost led to sex, she said that she wanted to wait because she wanted the relationship to mean more than just sex. I told her that I would leave it completely up to her when we have sex, and if we got close I would stop it until she said yes prior to us fooling around. So I stopped it quite a few times until the point where she said before we started that she wanted to. So how should I sweep her off her feet in another way other than physical? Its getting cold in my area (snowed last night), so a nice walk probably won't quite be nice yet, sitting in front of a fire or in a hot tub would be nice at this time of year, but not sure what I should do to sweep her off her feet. I am also not great at talking about and saying my feelings so maybe I have to get past that for her.
Sweeping a girl off her feet takes planning and effort dude. If you can't sweep her off her feet without getting physical, you are missing out.
"Because you got an ass that can stop time and breasts like they were peaches from the gods" She'll probably say "But do you like me for me, like if I got fat would you like me". To which you should reply "If by "me" you mean "my sweet young body" then yes I like you....and as far as if you got fat would i still like you, I of course I would, and by "of course I would" I mean "of course I wouldn't""
she is setting you up..because she wants to see if you on the same page as her..only two ways to get out of this situation would have been by asking her one of these two questions:
"well why do you think im with you baby?"
or
"ill tell you baby if you tell me first?" then proceed to answer back with he same reasons but stated differently.
"well why do you think im with you baby?"
or
"ill tell you baby if you tell me first?" then proceed to answer back with he same reasons but stated differently.
moshquerade
No Lifer
- Nov 1, 2001
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She obviously thinks you're just after sex, and you don't even see her as a real person. Do you ask her out on real dates, or do you just invite her over to your place? You should definitely ask her to do something more elaborate than you guys usually do.
If I was in your shoes, I wouldn't hold back on the "fooling around" though. If she brings up her fears again, I'd tell her, "I'm not going to lie about finding you incredibly sexy and wanting to be with you physically, but I also find you mentally stimulating and enjoy everthing else we do together."
We went on a few real dates, then started dating. I have taken her out for dinner a few times in the last week, she has come with me for dinner at my parents house (dad used to be a chef) and loves my parents. They like her as well, and have invited her for Christmas with us on the mountain (we have a huge chalet for Christmas this year). I know that she likes me, and that she finds me physically attractive... she is the one who asked for my phone number not the other way around. I like her and enjoy spending time with her, not sure what I want from the relationship, I guess with every relationship you are seeing whats out there in the dating pool and looking for someone you could spend a lifetime with.
It sounds like she's just insecure then. It sucks because if the insecurity isn't based on your actions, then your actions can't do that much to make her more secure. You're just going to have to constantly reassure her that you really like her, and hope that eventually she believes you.
If I was in a hot tub with a girl I'd known for a month and she asked me that I would have to say:
"Because I wanted something different for about...a month! I need to get home and give my wife a backrub now. Later!"
"Because I wanted something different for about...a month! I need to get home and give my wife a backrub now. Later!"
I would respond by saying: "Wow thats a great question. Why AM I with you? Convince me." Of course you must say this in a joking way, or else your just an asshole. And you must be secure with yourself to pull this off as well.
LOL
Turn it into a job interview.
"So tell me Ms. Coochie, why should we keep you aboard beyond your one month probationary period?"
so just listen to what she has to say and respond intelligently (if capable). Maybe she's just smarter than you or you suck in bed
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