Originally posted by: alkemyst
Originally posted by: ajayjuneja
Hey Everyone,
So I just turned 26 this week, and I've realized that all the recent women I've been interested in are slightly over 30. I have yet to meet a gal under 30 (other than a handful of longtime friends) who have their heads on straight! Heck, even my old high school sweetheart (who's still a good friend, but friend only) who's the same age as me didn't get her head on straight till this year (and voila, it happened only 3 months before she got engaged, funny funny).
So where are they hiding? Starting a company probably jumped me up a few notches on my maturity expectations... and I'm having a lot of trouble meeting sane women under 30 now!
And yet, no problem meeting sane ones just slightly over 30... should I just go for them or keep searching?
I dated a lot of women 30+ when I divorced at 24 or so. I was never looking for a religious women, a next wife, bearer of my kids, etc so take what I say based on that.
I still think the mid-30's woman is the hottest. A bit of age around the eyes, loves sex and is uninhibited to talk about it, they understand sex, knows how to cook and take care of a house, knows it not always a game...etc. However, just being 30ish doesnt mean this. They had to be dating and sexual. Get a woman that was in a couple broken relationships/marriages....sex is the last thing she thinks.
As I am now 35, I have pushed my age into their 40's...Gong Li is a good example of what a woman in their 40's can be. She is not supermodel quality, but sexual and beautiful (she is not the only example of this, just recent movies and articles I have seen...personally her smile is wierd but intriguing to me). Sharon Stone is another example....Sigourney Weaver(sp?) is another fine example of a sexual, and non-game playing woman. These are all superficial though, in bed these women may have games.
That said, in my mid 20's and early 30's/late 20's between two relationships I did date what I could classify as 18-21ish, 23-26, and the 28-30somethings.
At the youngest end, they were the craziest. I had a hard time fitting in but did at times and others said I would talk to them later. I am very social, so despite their friends prejudices on me...they related....still it wasn't fun trying to fit in all the time. I had already did this with my life. These women were the most flirty, but getting them to do stuff in bed that required penetration was hard...pun intended. Some were insane and it was fun and confusing.
23-26 was mixed bag...a lot hanging on to their teens, many older thinkers reaching beyond their means....some were really fun though still most were a bit flighty. They were serious in building their own life and still knew work was not their life.
I met one I traveled 200miles a weekend to see, after meeting her in my local hangout while she was on vacation. It was great...I met a lot of women on vacations, but most lived out of state.
The travelling ended up sucking and I finally broke it off over her slurping soup one night at a special date spot she picked and saved for me...I understand now.
I was traveling through one day several months after and called her, we hooked up for the last time. It was amazing until she sort of hurt me a bit and said "that was for not telling me you couldn't handle the distance...next time be honest. I could understand that, it was hard on me too...don't be a fvking ahole and say you don't like how I eat my soup!".
She really won this, as the day before I painted two rooms in her house and did some chores for her. We were just sitting on the couch...I was hoping we'd end up in bed, but was planning on spending the night in her guest room where she put my bag. She institigated it though after watching 2 movies platonicly. We ended up on her floor play wrestling until she got me excited and called me on it. I told her I better go to bed. She agreed and then came into my room an hour or so later.
The women late 20-30's are a unique bunch, you have those looking to repair messed up pasts. A lot have been married and/or have kids...not a big deal unless they are looking for a new dad. I found this was rare in those I dated.
They know sex will happen eventually...they accept that if they are still dating you. They know how to tell you what they dont like or do like without either one of you feeling perverted. They know what the important things are in a relationship and know a relationship is not based on what happens in bed on the first few dates.
In general though, age is not important to me. I don't even ask it. I can 'guess' on a woman's age mostly. I had a 12 year old telling me she was 15 when I was 16...her two friends were 16 and 17. Nothing happened. My first wife was not 16 actually when I first was 'with' her at 18...didn't find that out until the next year I was invited to her sweet 16 party. My current wife I thought was younger than me....most told me she's too young for me. She is almost exactly 10 years older than me.
The only reason to want a younger woman is child-bearing years in my opinion.
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