YAGT: when to call?

[apac]

Friday night I went out with a bunch of friends and met this girl (friend of a friend) and seemed to really hit it off. I guess she'd seen my friend and I at the gym earlier and checked us out, which is my only explanation for the immediate eye contact & flirting I got from her. Long story short, her and I and our friends ran around to a couple bars, and then she hugged me and gave me her phone # before grabbing a cab.

I think we had a great time and am definitely going to give her a call and invite her out for coffee or drinks. Now, normally I'd say fvck it and just call whenever I felt like it (probably tonight), but I haven't been in the dating scene for a while now and I'm second guessing my instincts . How serious should I take the typical "3 day rule" in this case? I'm 21 and she's 24.

update since I forgot no one reads the thread, only the OP:
04/29/2007 05:35 PM
Called and left a voicemail about an hour ago. Wish me luck !

 

[thereds]

Where are the pics?

 

[MmmSkyscraper]

Mike: So how long do I wait to call?
Trent: A day.
Mike: Tomorrow.
Sue: Tomorrow, then a day.
Trent: Yeah.
Mike: So two days?
Trent: Yeah, I guess you could call it that, two days.
Sue: Definitely, two days is like industry standard.
Trent: You know I used to wait two days to call anybody, but now it's like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money. What do you think?
Sue: Yeah, but two's enough not to look anxious.
Trent: But I think three days is kind of money. You know because you...
Mike: Yeah, but you know what, maybe I'll wait 3 weeks. How's that? And tell her I was cleaning out my wallet and I just happened to run into her number.
Charles: Then ask her where you met her.
Mike: Yeah, I'll ask her where I met her. I don't remember. What does she look like? And then I'll asked if we fvcked. Is that... would that be... T, would that be the money?
Trent: You know what? Ha ha ha Mike, laugh all you want but if you call too soon you might scare off a nice baby who's ready to party.
Mike: Well how long are you guys gonna wait to call your babies?
Trent, Sue: Six days.

 

[apac]

Argh, no pics yet Some to come if I get a date though .

 

[typerlover]

Best way to avoid this is to just say right when she gives you her number that you will call her up tomorrow or in a couple of days.

Since that has already passed, just call her and tell her "i didn't feel like going by the 3day rule so I figured I would do it right now."

 

[yllus]

The next day if you honestly had a good time. There's game playing, and then there's game playing. Don't do the latter.

 

[RichUK]

Call her up straight away and start beating off while panting loudly down the phone.

 

[dirtboy]

If you're interested in seeing her again, why must you wait 3 days? If you want to see her, call her. Unless you're 12 and grounded from the phone for 3 days. Sheesh.

 

[Mo0o]

if you're really afraid of coming on too strong you can always just text her.

 

[Mojoed]

The whole "3 day rule" thing is stupid. If you like someone, call them when you feel like it without over-analyzing things. If someone ever judged me negatively because I called them a day early or whatever, then that just saves me the time and effort of ever calling that person again.

I guess I'm just not one that plays games.

 

[dawnbug]

Call her whenever you feel like it.

And let us know how it goes.

 

[pcnerd37]

I subscribe to the 2 day rule myself. Anything longer than that and you are risking her thinking you aren't interested.

 

[cherrytwist]

Six days.

edit: After re-reading your post, I recommend ten days.

Now, normally I'd say fvck it and just call whenever I felt like it (probably tonight),

You're an eager beaver, aren't you?

but I haven't been in the dating scene for a while now and I'm second guessing my instincts

At the very least, jerk off several times and wait a few days so you can think about something besides sex when (if?) you see her again.

 

[drum]

call her sooner rather than later

 

[spidey07]

I'd call today and setup a tues/wed date.

Cocktails and appetizers.

 

[Rogodin2]

It's sunday night and you're bored, call her tonight.

Rogo

 

[apac]

Called and left a voicemail about an hour ago. Wish me luck !

 

[apac]

Originally posted by: Mojoed
The whole "3 day rule" thing is stupid. If you like someone, call them when you feel like it without over-analyzing things. If someone ever judged me negatively because I called them a day early or whatever, then that just saves me the time and effort of ever calling that person again.

I guess I'm just not one that plays games.

Heh, that's EXACTLY how I feel about it, but since it's the guy that does the calling sometimes you gotta play by their rules.

 

[cherrytwist]

Originally posted by: apac

Originally posted by: Mojoed
The whole "3 day rule" thing is stupid. If you like someone, call them when you feel like it without over-analyzing things. If someone ever judged me negatively because I called them a day early or whatever, then that just saves me the time and effort of ever calling that person again.

I guess I'm just not one that plays games.

Heh, that's EXACTLY how I feel about it, but since it's the guy that does the calling sometimes you gotta play by their rules.

Uhhh...didn't she make the first move by giving you her number?

It's always a game, some know when they're being played, some don't.

 

[apac]

Originally posted by: cherrytwist

Originally posted by: apac

Originally posted by: Mojoed
The whole "3 day rule" thing is stupid. If you like someone, call them when you feel like it without over-analyzing things. If someone ever judged me negatively because I called them a day early or whatever, then that just saves me the time and effort of ever calling that person again.

I guess I'm just not one that plays games.

Heh, that's EXACTLY how I feel about it, but since it's the guy that does the calling sometimes you gotta play by their rules.

Uhhh...didn't she make the first move by giving you her number?

It's always a game, some know when they're being played, some don't.

Sorta, when she hugged me I said "So can I give you a call sometime?" and she said sure my number is .... . I never claimed to be good at this, only that I'm not so chicken that I'd let the opportunity pass me by (lesson learned a long time ago) .

 

[pcnerd37]

Originally posted by: spidey07
I'd call today and setup a tues/wed date.

Cocktails and appetizers.

Wednesday is pitty night.

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: pcnerd37

Originally posted by: spidey07
I'd call today and setup a tues/wed date.

Cocktails and appetizers.

Wednesday is pitty night.

No. You show her she isn't good enough for weekend material yet. Middle of the week is perfect. Then she goes nuts wondering why you aren't asking her for a weekend.

That sets the hook and then as she's wondering what is going on you reel 'er in.

 

[KarenMarie]

this thread makes me laugh.

I might be a bit too old to answer correctly on the games rule of when it is appropriate to call. I think that when you want to call, just call. There is a big difference between eager and desperate. If there is time rule in this game, then what is worse... calling immediately and appearing eager, or waiting a few days and coming across desperate.

Just call her when you are ready and appear confident... then leave the decision on how soon you get together up to her.

Don't make it harder than it needs to be.

 

[Alphathree33]

Ignore KarenMarie. Do NOT let her decide how/when you get together. KarenMarie is, AFAIK, a girl, and therefore has never tried to pick up a girl before (unless she's a lesbian. =))

The amount of time isn't that important.

What IS important is that:
1) When you call, you are light hearted but have a specific plan in mind. ("Drinks at 7pm. Tonight. Bob's Bar." NOT "Uh, so, what do you feel like doing?")

2) If she tries to dick you around (you make plans, she cancels because "her dog is sick"), you tell her "oh, sorry to hear that, talk to you later then. *click*" DO NOT accommodate her bullshit. And she WILL pull bullshit on you if she's hot.

Follow these two simple rules, plus smell good, lead, and escalate confidently and you'll get laid.

Beyond that, you enter into the mysterious realm called "managing longer-term relationships with hot girls," which is an ongoing area of research with me. =)

 

[toolboxolio]

She gave a man her phone number.

She's expecting a man to call her.

BE A MAN. She doesn't want a woman calling her.