YAGT: When is the best time to ask a girl out...

pcnerd37

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I have a friend who I have wanted to go out with for about 3 years now, but never have been able to because she has was usually involved with someone. She has been going out with a friend of mine for a little over a year but he broke up with her on Tuesday. Im going to hang out with her on Tuesday, but i dont know if it is a good time to ask her out when she will only have been broken up with him for a week.

Should i wait longer before asking her out? Is there an approximate time to let her get over the person she just broke up with before asking her out?

Any help and advice is appreciated!
 

shortylickens

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I have no freaking clue.
I have played the patient game and been ticked off when I see her on a date with another guy.
I have been too quick and pissed her off.

I just cant win.

My advice: Go early, then at least you have a shot.
 
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girls are unpredictable... there are ones who will immediately go into another relationship after a break up... there are those who start a relationship before a breakup.. and there are those who takes months to get over a breakup....

you should be able to judge which one she is by her personality and character
 

Kadarin

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You'll just have to gauge her attitude toward you when you hang out with her. One problem is that her now ex b/f is a friend of yours... that's kind of tacky, and you're likely to lose him as a friend over this if you do it.
 

pcnerd37

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Originally posted by: shortylickens
I have no freaking clue.
I have played the patient game and been ticked off when I see her on a date with another guy.
I have been too quick and pissed her off.

I just cant win.

My advice: Go early, then at least you have a shot.

Thats my problem, my timing always sucks, thats why im looking for advice this time.
 

GasX

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To the OP: Here is a simple technique for reaching your goal:

1. let her cry on your shoulder
2. push her head into your lap
3. ...
4. profit!
 
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forget it buddy, 3 years and no move?? by now she thinks of you no more but a brother. this tuesday she just wants a shoulder to cry on, not sticking tounges down each others throats. i say you bail out on her before your time hearing her sobbering and b****ing
 

pcnerd37

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Originally posted by: leggomyeggroll
forget it buddy, 3 years and no move?? by now she thinks of you no more but a brother. this tuesday she just wants a shoulder to cry on, not sticking tounges down each others throats. i say you bail out on her before your time hearing her sobbering and b****ing

She is one of my best friends, im going to be there for her rather I ask her out or not.
Being stuck in the Friend zone is the thing im most afraid of since i havent done or said anything in the 3 years that ive known her.
 

pcnerd37

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Originally posted by: chuckywang
1) I didn't read your post.
2) I don't have a sh!t about you.
3) Post pics of the girl!!!!

If you dont, then dont waste your time responding.
 

neutralizer

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You do realize that ATOT is one of the worst place to get YAGT advice just because pretty much everyone will give you a bogus answer.
 

Mrvile

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If you need to ask here then stop now you have no chance.


Haha sorry I had to say that but yeah I know what you mean I've been friends with this girl for three years and I've always wanted to ask her out but now we're such good friends it would be kinda weird. So I gave it up.
 
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Originally posted by: SampSon
you are a crutch.

qft

honestly dude...if you've been friends with her for 3 years you moved into teddy bear territory a loooong time ago...and chicks don't fvck their teddy bears ;)
 

neutralizer

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Originally posted by: quakefiend420
Originally posted by: SampSon
you are a crutch.

qft

honestly dude...if you've been friends with her for 3 years you moved into teddy bear territory a loooong time ago...and chicks don't fvck their teddy bears ;)

i couldn't help but laugh at that. that's great sig material.
 
Aug 26, 2004
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Originally posted by: neutralizer
Originally posted by: quakefiend420
Originally posted by: SampSon
you are a crutch.

qft

honestly dude...if you've been friends with her for 3 years you moved into teddy bear territory a loooong time ago...and chicks don't fvck their teddy bears ;)

i couldn't help but laugh at that. that's great sig material.

heh, that would be the first time i ever made it in someones sig, i think...
 

irwincur

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Get her drunk.

Most girls will do anything when they are drunk. Including showing their t!ts to guys with video cameras and cash.
 

pcnerd37

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Originally posted by: irwincur
Get her drunk.

Most girls will do anything when they are drunk. Including showing their t!ts to guys with video cameras and cash.

Im trying to help her, not get her drunk so i can help myself. Neither of us drinks, so that isnt even an option anyway.