YAGT - What to do?

[Megadeth]

I am with this wonderful girl and we have fallen very much in loe with each other. We are talking about marriage and the time to propose is drawing near. Here is where the problem is... We both know so much about each other and spend so much time together that there some times when we really don't have anything to talk about...

In person everything is great but over the phone can be uncomfortable at times. Sometimes we can talk for hours and hours but there are those times where there is a lot of silence and I am just lookign for something...anything to talk about and carry on a conversation about. I know she is also trying to think of something to talk about as well.

I need help with times like this... I would say that it happens enough to where I need some kind of topics or issues to talk about. Usually being my goofy self would be the best, she likes it when I can act like a complete goof and get her to chuckle a bit. Especially lately with both of us being stressed with school and work. I have been finding myself to be too serious lately and not laid back enough like I was about a month ago.


- Have wonderful GF
- Sometimes periods of silence over phone
- Need suggestions to break silence

 

[Crusty]

Talk dirty to her.

 

[KillyKillall]

what is "loe?"

During periods lik ethat, it means you're just sitting on the phone to be on the phone. Hang up and go do something.

 

[lokiju]

Don't worry about it, sometimes not saying anything at all is just fine IMO.

I'm not a big talker on the phone though as most anyone that knows me can tell.

 

[meltdown75]

when you've exhausted your conversation options, get off the phone?

 

[spaceman]

dead air.learn to be comfortable with it, you dont need to be talking all the time.

 

[bigrash]

with all the cool topics here in OT, how can you run out of stuff to talk about with your gf?

 

[shimsham]

thats normal. you can only talk about so many thing so many times before you cover it all as far as youve lived life. fret not, as time goes on, there will be new experiences to talk about. if shes not making a big deal about it, dont worry.

 

[SMOGZINN]

The two of you need a hobby together. Something that both of you are interested in that can allow you to have endless conversations, something dynamic. Normally that means a social hobby.

 

[MoPHo]

haven't you ever seen Pulp Fiction?

Mia: Don't you hate that?
Vincent: What?
Mia: Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullsh!t in order to be comfortable?
Vincent: I don't know. That's a good question.
Mia: That's when you know you've found somebody special. When you can just shut the ****** up for a minute and comfortably enjoy the silence.

 

[DivideBYZero]

Originally posted by: meltdown75
when you've exhausted your conversation options, get off the phone?

This is what you should do. Stop trying to have 3 hour conversations, you are no doubt past that stage. Deal with it.

 

[kranky]

The only reason you see this as a problem is that you won't get off the phone when the conversation is over. Save it for when you are face-to-face. Nobody can be a sparkling conversationalist for hours on end, every day. It's impossible.

If you have a LD relationship, I don't know what to tell you.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: meltdown75
when you've exhausted your conversation options, get off the phone?

QFT

 

[TheNinja]

I have some wonderful topics to talk about if you'd like to know them? Most start with a "N" and end with an "a". But if you are so deeply in loe you shouldn't need to talk about stuff all the time. Sometimes there is just nothing to talk about or your tired. I don't think it means your loe is any less strong.

 

[dawnbug]

Originally posted by: MoPHo
haven't you ever seen Pulp Fiction?

Mia: Don't you hate that?
Vincent: What?
Mia: Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullsh!t in order to be comfortable?
Vincent: I don't know. That's a good question.
Mia: That's when you know you've found somebody special. When you can just shut the ****** up for a minute and comfortably enjoy the silence.

I was totally thinking of that quote. It's so true. Comfortable silences are the best.

 

[Sentinel]

If you don't have anything to say, it's fine. Just speaking in general, if you are going to marry someone I would assume you would be comfortable with them in every sense of the word. Meaning the awkward silences wouldn't even be noticable.

 

[captains]

stop talking to her everyday. that way the next day u can talk about what each other missed the previous day

if u always had something to say/talk about then u would be a women and your gf would be a lesbo

 

[stan394]

time to get married, so you guys can just sit on the couch, watch TV, hold each other and say nothing

 

[Rapidskies]

Have a dictionary handy whenever you are on the phone. When the conversation starts to lapse open up the dictionary to a random page and talk about the first word you see. If it's porcupines then talk about porcupines, if it's barista then talk about baristas. She will be amazed by your handle on the English language.

 

[BrianH1]

dont spend as much time on the phone or with her. Distance makes the heart grow fonder. If you aren't together 100% of the time, then you can talk about the other time you are spending away from each other. Trust me on this one, I have been down this road. And BTW, if you are meant to get married, you will have lots of conversations with her during the next 50 years, so you better start thinking hard.