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I have been together with my gf for a month already. She broke up with her ex last summer cuz his parents didn't want him to have a gf in college (chinese parents and he is a senior). They were together for 6 months and he still bugs her. He calls my gf everyday, bring flowers to her, visits her, etc. I want her to solve this problem as the only way for me to handle this is with violence which I want to avoid. I told her to cut loose any contact with him. Don't let him get into her apt, ignore his calls, etc. She says she cannot do this cuz she is everything he has. Apperently this dude has no friends, his family hates him cuz he "upsetted" his parents for a girl and knows nothing besides whats in textbooks. I do believe her when she says she just wants to be friends with her ex. She sees him as "family" who she wants to sort of take care of. Why was she with a guy like that? The dude was basically her slave, lap puppy, etc. Zero self esteem, no backbone, no cojones. He treated her like a queen. They broke up cuz of this and cuz of his parents.
Now the dude comes back saying that his parents finally gave him permission to be with her. Today I was dropping her off at her apt. and we kissed...then I see her ex (first time I see him) outside!! WTF???? My girl tells me to stay out of this and I say ok....then they head back to the apt together!!! I park my car and I go to her apt. I was ready to get it on but my gf tells me to not do anything to him. They talk and he leaves. He seems like an inoffensive guy who just doesn't know what to do since she was basically his everything.
I really don't know what to say or do... I tell my gf that fvcking the guy off is the only way to do it although is hard since they both go to UCLA. Another thing is that she is too nice to him IMO. I tell her to raise hell when he calls (like 4 times when I was there between 10pm-12am), but she says she simply can't. The guy cries on the phone and says how depressed he is, etc.....I can understand is something hard to do but I think thats the only way
I have been together with my gf for a month already. She broke up with her ex last summer cuz his parents didn't want him to have a gf in college (chinese parents and he is a senior). They were together for 6 months and he still bugs her. He calls my gf everyday, bring flowers to her, visits her, etc. I want her to solve this problem as the only way for me to handle this is with violence which I want to avoid. I told her to cut loose any contact with him. Don't let him get into her apt, ignore his calls, etc. She says she cannot do this cuz she is everything he has. Apperently this dude has no friends, his family hates him cuz he "upsetted" his parents for a girl and knows nothing besides whats in textbooks. I do believe her when she says she just wants to be friends with her ex. She sees him as "family" who she wants to sort of take care of. Why was she with a guy like that? The dude was basically her slave, lap puppy, etc. Zero self esteem, no backbone, no cojones. He treated her like a queen. They broke up cuz of this and cuz of his parents.
Now the dude comes back saying that his parents finally gave him permission to be with her. Today I was dropping her off at her apt. and we kissed...then I see her ex (first time I see him) outside!! WTF???? My girl tells me to stay out of this and I say ok....then they head back to the apt together!!! I park my car and I go to her apt. I was ready to get it on but my gf tells me to not do anything to him. They talk and he leaves. He seems like an inoffensive guy who just doesn't know what to do since she was basically his everything.
I really don't know what to say or do... I tell my gf that fvcking the guy off is the only way to do it although is hard since they both go to UCLA. Another thing is that she is too nice to him IMO. I tell her to raise hell when he calls (like 4 times when I was there between 10pm-12am), but she says she simply can't. The guy cries on the phone and says how depressed he is, etc.....I can understand is something hard to do but I think thats the only way
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