YAGT: To Love or Give Up

[Kalbi]

Originally posted by: ggnl

Originally posted by: blahblah99

Originally posted by: Azurik
I have been dating my girlfriend for close to three years now (She was a freshmen in and I was a sophomore in college). Things have been for the most part, healthy and great.

We broke up recently... 100% my fault. I didn't realize how much I took her for granted until I had the potential to lose her. It was sort of a wake up call. I tried making it up to her, but she says she doesn't work want to together. I know what you guys will say... at least she's being honest and stuff. I realize this. It's just never easy to let go of someone you've been with for that long. For what did stupid Azurik do?

I didn't accept the break up and tried to get her back. Obviously (and I knew this), when someone refuses a request that like, it's just going to piss off the girl more and not want you back even more. I got this through my head yesterday. I called her up last night, and said,

"I am giving up, I'm not going to wait around when you don't want to be with me. At this point, I can't be friends with you because it's too hard for me right now. I'm sorry."

She then proceeds to cry for a while. Like an hour. She says she can't do this, not being able to talk to me and that it's going to be too hard.

This morning, she came over while I was still asleep and got into bed with me with just underwear on. Um, hello mixed signals?!?

I guess I'm not seeking advice. I'm just venting. WHY do girls say they want one thing, and when the guy finally accepts it vocally, it's turned around?

Girls are like that.. she just wants one last bang before going out.

That's not it at all.

It's a fairly common occurrance. The girl breaks up with the guy, but starts having second thoughts. However, she maintains a sense of control over the now defunct relationship as long as the guy still wants her back.

Eventually the guy stops fighting it and accepts his fate as a newly single man. Faced with the fact that the relationship might be over for good, all those reservations the girl was having suddenly come crashing down on her. In a panic, the girl tries to maintain her sense of control. The way they go about it varies. Some girls try to restart the relationship. Some girls try to keep the ex around as a cuddlebitch.

In most cases the girl's feelings for the guy don't last. Her renewed interest in the guy wanes when she is reminded of why she left him in the first place. A guy faced with this situation would be well advised to keep his emotional distance.

wow that is some deep shvt man.

 

[ggnl]

Originally posted by: Kalbi

Originally posted by: ggnl

Originally posted by: blahblah99

Originally posted by: Azurik
I have been dating my girlfriend for close to three years now (She was a freshmen in and I was a sophomore in college). Things have been for the most part, healthy and great.

We broke up recently... 100% my fault. I didn't realize how much I took her for granted until I had the potential to lose her. It was sort of a wake up call. I tried making it up to her, but she says she doesn't work want to together. I know what you guys will say... at least she's being honest and stuff. I realize this. It's just never easy to let go of someone you've been with for that long. For what did stupid Azurik do?

I didn't accept the break up and tried to get her back. Obviously (and I knew this), when someone refuses a request that like, it's just going to piss off the girl more and not want you back even more. I got this through my head yesterday. I called her up last night, and said,

"I am giving up, I'm not going to wait around when you don't want to be with me. At this point, I can't be friends with you because it's too hard for me right now. I'm sorry."

She then proceeds to cry for a while. Like an hour. She says she can't do this, not being able to talk to me and that it's going to be too hard.

This morning, she came over while I was still asleep and got into bed with me with just underwear on. Um, hello mixed signals?!?

I guess I'm not seeking advice. I'm just venting. WHY do girls say they want one thing, and when the guy finally accepts it vocally, it's turned around?

Girls are like that.. she just wants one last bang before going out.

That's not it at all.

It's a fairly common occurrance. The girl breaks up with the guy, but starts having second thoughts. However, she maintains a sense of control over the now defunct relationship as long as the guy still wants her back.

Eventually the guy stops fighting it and accepts his fate as a newly single man. Faced with the fact that the relationship might be over for good, all those reservations the girl was having suddenly come crashing down on her. In a panic, the girl tries to maintain her sense of control. The way they go about it varies. Some girls try to restart the relationship. Some girls try to keep the ex around as a cuddlebitch.

In most cases the girl's feelings for the guy don't last. Her renewed interest in the guy wanes when she is reminded of why she left him in the first place. A guy faced with this situation would be well advised to keep his emotional distance.

wow that is some deep shvt man.

There's nothing deep about it. Just letting you know why you should run like hell when an ex says she wants to stay best friends

 

[Blieb]

propose

 

[Kalbi]

Originally posted by: ggnl

Originally posted by: Kalbi

Originally posted by: ggnl

Originally posted by: blahblah99

Originally posted by: Azurik
I have been dating my girlfriend for close to three years now (She was a freshmen in and I was a sophomore in college). Things have been for the most part, healthy and great.

We broke up recently... 100% my fault. I didn't realize how much I took her for granted until I had the potential to lose her. It was sort of a wake up call. I tried making it up to her, but she says she doesn't work want to together. I know what you guys will say... at least she's being honest and stuff. I realize this. It's just never easy to let go of someone you've been with for that long. For what did stupid Azurik do?

I didn't accept the break up and tried to get her back. Obviously (and I knew this), when someone refuses a request that like, it's just going to piss off the girl more and not want you back even more. I got this through my head yesterday. I called her up last night, and said,

"I am giving up, I'm not going to wait around when you don't want to be with me. At this point, I can't be friends with you because it's too hard for me right now. I'm sorry."

She then proceeds to cry for a while. Like an hour. She says she can't do this, not being able to talk to me and that it's going to be too hard.

This morning, she came over while I was still asleep and got into bed with me with just underwear on. Um, hello mixed signals?!?

I guess I'm not seeking advice. I'm just venting. WHY do girls say they want one thing, and when the guy finally accepts it vocally, it's turned around?

Girls are like that.. she just wants one last bang before going out.

That's not it at all.

It's a fairly common occurrance. The girl breaks up with the guy, but starts having second thoughts. However, she maintains a sense of control over the now defunct relationship as long as the guy still wants her back.

Eventually the guy stops fighting it and accepts his fate as a newly single man. Faced with the fact that the relationship might be over for good, all those reservations the girl was having suddenly come crashing down on her. In a panic, the girl tries to maintain her sense of control. The way they go about it varies. Some girls try to restart the relationship. Some girls try to keep the ex around as a cuddlebitch.

In most cases the girl's feelings for the guy don't last. Her renewed interest in the guy wanes when she is reminded of why she left him in the first place. A guy faced with this situation would be well advised to keep his emotional distance.

wow that is some deep shvt man.

There's nothing deep about it. Just letting you know why you should run like hell when an ex says she wants to stay best friends

why not just use her for sex0r? don't spend any money on her, don't be emotional, only receive p00n until new gf arrives.

 

[miketheidiot]

Originally posted by: Kalbi

Originally posted by: ggnl

Originally posted by: Kalbi

Originally posted by: ggnl

Originally posted by: blahblah99

Originally posted by: Azurik
I have been dating my girlfriend for close to three years now (She was a freshmen in and I was a sophomore in college). Things have been for the most part, healthy and great.

We broke up recently... 100% my fault. I didn't realize how much I took her for granted until I had the potential to lose her. It was sort of a wake up call. I tried making it up to her, but she says she doesn't work want to together. I know what you guys will say... at least she's being honest and stuff. I realize this. It's just never easy to let go of someone you've been with for that long. For what did stupid Azurik do?

I didn't accept the break up and tried to get her back. Obviously (and I knew this), when someone refuses a request that like, it's just going to piss off the girl more and not want you back even more. I got this through my head yesterday. I called her up last night, and said,

"I am giving up, I'm not going to wait around when you don't want to be with me. At this point, I can't be friends with you because it's too hard for me right now. I'm sorry."

She then proceeds to cry for a while. Like an hour. She says she can't do this, not being able to talk to me and that it's going to be too hard.

This morning, she came over while I was still asleep and got into bed with me with just underwear on. Um, hello mixed signals?!?

I guess I'm not seeking advice. I'm just venting. WHY do girls say they want one thing, and when the guy finally accepts it vocally, it's turned around?

Girls are like that.. she just wants one last bang before going out.

That's not it at all.

It's a fairly common occurrance. The girl breaks up with the guy, but starts having second thoughts. However, she maintains a sense of control over the now defunct relationship as long as the guy still wants her back.

Eventually the guy stops fighting it and accepts his fate as a newly single man. Faced with the fact that the relationship might be over for good, all those reservations the girl was having suddenly come crashing down on her. In a panic, the girl tries to maintain her sense of control. The way they go about it varies. Some girls try to restart the relationship. Some girls try to keep the ex around as a cuddlebitch.

In most cases the girl's feelings for the guy don't last. Her renewed interest in the guy wanes when she is reminded of why she left him in the first place. A guy faced with this situation would be well advised to keep his emotional distance.

wow that is some deep shvt man.

There's nothing deep about it. Just letting you know why you should run like hell when an ex says she wants to stay best friends

why not just use her for sex0r? don't spend any money on her, don't be emotional, only receive p00n until new gf arrives.

:thumbsup:

 

[nageov3t]

well, as long as she hasn't gained 15 pounds.....

 

[Muadib]

This morning, she came over while I was still asleep and got into bed with me with just underwear on. Um, hello mixed signals?!?

How's that mixed signals? She came with a huge piece offering, after realizing that you are probably the best she's gonna get in life. I'm sure she thought about it, and came to the conclusion that rich boys like you don't come around everyday. She realized you weren't playing, and not giving you another shot could be the biggest mistake of her life. Question is, did you take her up on it?

 

[iliopsoas]

Originally posted by: ggnl


That's not it at all.

It's a fairly common occurrance. The girl breaks up with the guy, but starts having second thoughts. However, she maintains a sense of control over the now defunct relationship as long as the guy still wants her back.

Eventually the guy stops fighting it and accepts his fate as a newly single man. Faced with the fact that the relationship might be over for good, all those reservations the girl was having suddenly come crashing down on her. In a panic, the girl tries to maintain her sense of control. The way they go about it varies. Some girls try to restart the relationship. Some girls try to keep the ex around as a cuddlebitch.

In most cases the girl's feelings for the guy don't last. Her renewed interest in the guy wanes when she is reminded of why she left him in the first place. A guy faced with this situation would be well advised to keep his emotional distance.

DING DING DING!!

You nailed it. I've been in this situation before as the cuddlebitch, crutch, whatever you want to call it.

Stay away from these psychob*tches. If you feel like it, f*ck em. But keep your emotional distance.

 

[Kalbi]

Originally posted by: Muadib

This morning, she came over while I was still asleep and got into bed with me with just underwear on. Um, hello mixed signals?!?

How's that mixed signals? She came with a huge piece offering, after realizing that you are probably the best she's gonna get in life. I'm sure she thought about it, and came to the conclusion that rich boys like you don't come around everyday. She realized you weren't playing, and not giving you another shot could be the biggest mistake of her life. Question is, did you take her up on it?

i really hope he poked her from behind then threw her ass out

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: Kalbi

Originally posted by: ggnl

Originally posted by: blahblah99

Originally posted by: Azurik
I have been dating my girlfriend for close to three years now (She was a freshmen in and I was a sophomore in college). Things have been for the most part, healthy and great.

We broke up recently... 100% my fault. I didn't realize how much I took her for granted until I had the potential to lose her. It was sort of a wake up call. I tried making it up to her, but she says she doesn't work want to together. I know what you guys will say... at least she's being honest and stuff. I realize this. It's just never easy to let go of someone you've been with for that long. For what did stupid Azurik do?

I didn't accept the break up and tried to get her back. Obviously (and I knew this), when someone refuses a request that like, it's just going to piss off the girl more and not want you back even more. I got this through my head yesterday. I called her up last night, and said,

"I am giving up, I'm not going to wait around when you don't want to be with me. At this point, I can't be friends with you because it's too hard for me right now. I'm sorry."

She then proceeds to cry for a while. Like an hour. She says she can't do this, not being able to talk to me and that it's going to be too hard.

This morning, she came over while I was still asleep and got into bed with me with just underwear on. Um, hello mixed signals?!?

I guess I'm not seeking advice. I'm just venting. WHY do girls say they want one thing, and when the guy finally accepts it vocally, it's turned around?

Girls are like that.. she just wants one last bang before going out.

That's not it at all.

It's a fairly common occurrance. The girl breaks up with the guy, but starts having second thoughts. However, she maintains a sense of control over the now defunct relationship as long as the guy still wants her back.

Eventually the guy stops fighting it and accepts his fate as a newly single man. Faced with the fact that the relationship might be over for good, all those reservations the girl was having suddenly come crashing down on her. In a panic, the girl tries to maintain her sense of control. The way they go about it varies. Some girls try to restart the relationship. Some girls try to keep the ex around as a cuddlebitch.

In most cases the girl's feelings for the guy don't last. Her renewed interest in the guy wanes when she is reminded of why she left him in the first place. A guy faced with this situation would be well advised to keep his emotional distance.

wow that is some deep shvt man.

Clearly, this guy has been through it a few times.. And it's very true.

 

[ruffilb]

YAGT: To Love or Give Up

Solution? Ask her!

 

[ajayjuneja]

Originally posted by: sandmanwake
See it's like this. She breaks up with you. You still pine for her. She believes it's the for the best that she doesn't take you back, but there's also some doubt and confusion as there's bound to be for anyone who's put in any sort of effort into a relationship and then have the relationship end. Along with the doubt and confustion, deep down, there's also a sense of security and maybe a bit of control and power also in that she is able to let you go at her own pace and yet have the option at any time to take you back if she wanted to. Then, you tell her that she's right and you two should completely end your relationship and not even talk any more. Gone is that sense of control and security she had before. Also, maybe she hasn't had enough time to completely get over you. Now, there's more confusion and so she tries to get back some sense of security by perhaps mistakenly trying to get back into a relationship with you even if deep down, she may know it's not for the best. While confused, most people tend to go for what's familiar and safe. Guys and girls do this.

By the way, change your damn sig.

^ What he said. Happened to me 2 years ago. I had a vibe of wanting to break up in April 03, I didn't listen to it, then in July 03, *she* initiated a break up and I accepted it at first and reacted angrily a week later. A snowball of mixed messages then ensued for 3 months after.

On the plus side, I learned big time from that mistake

 

[MartyMcFly3]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
more importantly...wtf this this all about:

Tuesday, February 18, 2003
This site has been shut down due to terms of use violations

The owner of the credit card used to purchase Premium services for this Xanga account has filed a complaint of *credit card fraud*. We have notified the authorities, refunded the credit card owner and terminated the account. A full investigation is currently under way.

Noticed this as well...

 

[Ilmater]

You talking about yourself in the third person is about as annoying as having bamboo chutes shoved under my nails.

Well, that might be over-dramatic, but still it's annoying.

 

[bleeb]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
dont talk about breaking up anymore. just go with the flow and see what happens. you will quickly learn if she wants you or is playing games.

but... whatever you do.. dont get into a situation where she dumps you and still wants to keep you around, as a friend. tht is bullsh!t.

 

[GasX]

Originally posted by: Kalbi

Originally posted by: ggnl

Originally posted by: blahblah99

Originally posted by: Azurik
I have been dating my girlfriend for close to three years now (She was a freshmen in and I was a sophomore in college). Things have been for the most part, healthy and great.

We broke up recently... 100% my fault. I didn't realize how much I took her for granted until I had the potential to lose her. It was sort of a wake up call. I tried making it up to her, but she says she doesn't work want to together. I know what you guys will say... at least she's being honest and stuff. I realize this. It's just never easy to let go of someone you've been with for that long. For what did stupid Azurik do?

I didn't accept the break up and tried to get her back. Obviously (and I knew this), when someone refuses a request that like, it's just going to piss off the girl more and not want you back even more. I got this through my head yesterday. I called her up last night, and said,

"I am giving up, I'm not going to wait around when you don't want to be with me. At this point, I can't be friends with you because it's too hard for me right now. I'm sorry."

She then proceeds to cry for a while. Like an hour. She says she can't do this, not being able to talk to me and that it's going to be too hard.

This morning, she came over while I was still asleep and got into bed with me with just underwear on. Um, hello mixed signals?!?

I guess I'm not seeking advice. I'm just venting. WHY do girls say they want one thing, and when the guy finally accepts it vocally, it's turned around?

Girls are like that.. she just wants one last bang before going out.

That's not it at all.

It's a fairly common occurrance. The girl breaks up with the guy, but starts having second thoughts. However, she maintains a sense of control over the now defunct relationship as long as the guy still wants her back.

Eventually the guy stops fighting it and accepts his fate as a newly single man. Faced with the fact that the relationship might be over for good, all those reservations the girl was having suddenly come crashing down on her. In a panic, the girl tries to maintain her sense of control. The way they go about it varies. Some girls try to restart the relationship. Some girls try to keep the ex around as a cuddlebitch.

In most cases the girl's feelings for the guy don't last. Her renewed interest in the guy wanes when she is reminded of why she left him in the first place. A guy faced with this situation would be well advised to keep his emotional distance.

wow that is some deep shvt man.

This situation in a long term college age relationship is as inevitable as midterms...

ggnl hit the nail squarely on the head with this one.

So did Seinfeld when he said "the first break-up never takes"

Prediction: You too will get back together and in a few weeks or months things will be just like they were before the last break-up and you will break-up again - this time for good.

 

[Byte]

Originally posted by: Azurik
WHY do girls say they want one thing, and when the guy finally accepts it vocally, it's turned around?

I take it its your first relationship with a girl?

 

[Toasthead]

chicks are whacked in the head...thats all there is to it

 

[Azurik]

Originally posted by: Byte

Originally posted by: Azurik
WHY do girls say they want one thing, and when the guy finally accepts it vocally, it's turned around?

I take it its your first relationship with a girl?

No, it isn't. It's my first relationship when this has happened.