Whoever said that girls weren't that girls didnt care that much about a guy's appearances was wrong.
It's been said that girls don't care as much about appearances as guys do (in the opposite gender) and that a girl just wants a guy who is a good friend to them, talks to them, and is there for them. It was said you could be an average looking man and get a hot looking woman if you were a good gentleman to her.
Whoever said that was wrong. All the girls that I find really attractive are not that interested in return towards me, infact any girl that I find reasonably attractive doesnt show any signs of interest in return.
How the heck am I supposed to get an attractive wife? What do I lack? I have money, I'm pretty smart, I'm pretty bold, I talk to girls, I try not to act desperate, I've been told that I'm not that bad looking. (I was told that I was average looking by one girl)
It's ironic, awhile ago I used to look a lot better, back when I lifted regularly, deprived myself of carbs, and ran my butt off every single morning. I did that for a summer and it sucked, the lowest I got was 9% bodyfat. But I used to get a few looks, whistles, and more attention back then, and now I dont seem to get any at all. Back then I had another hangup that was stopping me from getting a hot girl (I had social anxiety) now most of that is gone, but I still can't seem to get a girl!
Now that I'm in college, and more busy, its harder to stay in as good shape. I try to eat healthy (which is hard with cafeteria food) and I manage to do cardio 5 days a week, but lifting has been something I havent been able to make myself do for about a year now (it just really sucks). I'm not fat or anything, I just dont have an impressive build anymore, and probably not that much of an attractive face, i dunno the face is kinda hard to measure.
Next year, I'm thinking about living off campus and on my own. (so i can finally eat healthy for once, and not have cafeteria deserts, or the deserts back at my house, to tempt me) the only problem is that if i live off campus I'll not be as socially linked to everything, which also might disadvantage me in the chick-pickup game.
My goal is not to get laid, I really dont care to do that before I meet the woman that I know I'm going to spend the rest of my life with. I just want a girlfriend, something I have never had before. I am 20 years old and have just not had one. in highschool it was because i didnt know how to socialize and i didnt look good enough, then it was the social anxiety, and now its because my looks have faded, and no girls seem to be showing signs of interest.
So, should I drop the standards and get a woman who is not as attractive,
or should I just not bother getting a woman because it wouldnt be worth it if I'm not attracted to her,
Or should I raise my own status to get a hotter girl (I think I would need to raise more than my appearances though, because I know that girls are pretty picky creatures) they want it all: the man with a super eventful life, popular, a good group of friends, tons of hobbies and interests and talents and awards and status and abilities, smoothness in conversation and building relationships like none other, the money, and of course lets not forget that he has to look good at whatever the cost -cuz i think whoever made up that myth that girls dont care about that, i think was lying.
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cliff notes:
* girls dont dig me, especially the hot ones that I'm intested in, maybe its cuz im not super duper good-looking.
darn! that sucks!
* whats wrong? could I be lacking something else, besides that fact that I'm average looking. I have money, can socialize, try not to be desperate, am bold, etc. I be myself around girls in every way that i possibly can.
* what should I do? Continue hunting for hotties, drop the standards, not bother with girls at all, or try to boost myself into the league that is good enough for the hotties?
*what would I have to do to get into a league that is good enough for the hotties?
It's been said that girls don't care as much about appearances as guys do (in the opposite gender) and that a girl just wants a guy who is a good friend to them, talks to them, and is there for them. It was said you could be an average looking man and get a hot looking woman if you were a good gentleman to her.
Whoever said that was wrong. All the girls that I find really attractive are not that interested in return towards me, infact any girl that I find reasonably attractive doesnt show any signs of interest in return.
How the heck am I supposed to get an attractive wife? What do I lack? I have money, I'm pretty smart, I'm pretty bold, I talk to girls, I try not to act desperate, I've been told that I'm not that bad looking. (I was told that I was average looking by one girl)
It's ironic, awhile ago I used to look a lot better, back when I lifted regularly, deprived myself of carbs, and ran my butt off every single morning. I did that for a summer and it sucked, the lowest I got was 9% bodyfat. But I used to get a few looks, whistles, and more attention back then, and now I dont seem to get any at all. Back then I had another hangup that was stopping me from getting a hot girl (I had social anxiety) now most of that is gone, but I still can't seem to get a girl!
Now that I'm in college, and more busy, its harder to stay in as good shape. I try to eat healthy (which is hard with cafeteria food) and I manage to do cardio 5 days a week, but lifting has been something I havent been able to make myself do for about a year now (it just really sucks). I'm not fat or anything, I just dont have an impressive build anymore, and probably not that much of an attractive face, i dunno the face is kinda hard to measure.
Next year, I'm thinking about living off campus and on my own. (so i can finally eat healthy for once, and not have cafeteria deserts, or the deserts back at my house, to tempt me) the only problem is that if i live off campus I'll not be as socially linked to everything, which also might disadvantage me in the chick-pickup game.
My goal is not to get laid, I really dont care to do that before I meet the woman that I know I'm going to spend the rest of my life with. I just want a girlfriend, something I have never had before. I am 20 years old and have just not had one. in highschool it was because i didnt know how to socialize and i didnt look good enough, then it was the social anxiety, and now its because my looks have faded, and no girls seem to be showing signs of interest.
So, should I drop the standards and get a woman who is not as attractive,
or should I just not bother getting a woman because it wouldnt be worth it if I'm not attracted to her,
Or should I raise my own status to get a hotter girl (I think I would need to raise more than my appearances though, because I know that girls are pretty picky creatures) they want it all: the man with a super eventful life, popular, a good group of friends, tons of hobbies and interests and talents and awards and status and abilities, smoothness in conversation and building relationships like none other, the money, and of course lets not forget that he has to look good at whatever the cost -cuz i think whoever made up that myth that girls dont care about that, i think was lying.
------------
cliff notes:
* girls dont dig me, especially the hot ones that I'm intested in, maybe its cuz im not super duper good-looking.
darn! that sucks!
* whats wrong? could I be lacking something else, besides that fact that I'm average looking. I have money, can socialize, try not to be desperate, am bold, etc. I be myself around girls in every way that i possibly can.
* what should I do? Continue hunting for hotties, drop the standards, not bother with girls at all, or try to boost myself into the league that is good enough for the hotties?
*what would I have to do to get into a league that is good enough for the hotties?
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