Does the friend factor come up when you ask to go on a date with a girl? Say for example its a girl that you've known for a while, a good friend, perhaps throughout school. I know that the friend factor is usually indicator that shes not interested in [you] that way.
To me, it would make more sense to date someone I know more so than a someone I just met. I would be uncomfortable going out with someone I just met, whereas with someone I've know for a while, I would feel more comfortable with.
I realized I have become attracted to this girl I've known throughout HS [she just graduated, I did the year before], and through some volunteer work we've done over this summer. We are good friends, but I don't know if by me asking her on a date if it would make our friendship different [would she would get a sense of "does he like me?"] or if she would just see it as a date with a friend. I'm not so much afraid of "no," it is a question after all, as much as I am that asking would set some things at unease, like our current friendship.
Through the volunteer work I've been doing this summer, I met her ex, we're cool friends with each other [I didn't know he was her ex until I found out from one of her friends]; I know there is this [man rule/commandment] about "not dating your buddy's ex w/o asking said buddy first;" I don't know him that well, really only from this summer, but should I still ask him if its cool with him?
-Chris
cliff notes:
friend factor
been friends with a girl for a while
i am going to ask her on a date, say for lunch
i somewhat know her ex, should i ask if he'd be cool with it
To me, it would make more sense to date someone I know more so than a someone I just met. I would be uncomfortable going out with someone I just met, whereas with someone I've know for a while, I would feel more comfortable with.
I realized I have become attracted to this girl I've known throughout HS [she just graduated, I did the year before], and through some volunteer work we've done over this summer. We are good friends, but I don't know if by me asking her on a date if it would make our friendship different [would she would get a sense of "does he like me?"] or if she would just see it as a date with a friend. I'm not so much afraid of "no," it is a question after all, as much as I am that asking would set some things at unease, like our current friendship.
Through the volunteer work I've been doing this summer, I met her ex, we're cool friends with each other [I didn't know he was her ex until I found out from one of her friends]; I know there is this [man rule/commandment] about "not dating your buddy's ex w/o asking said buddy first;" I don't know him that well, really only from this summer, but should I still ask him if its cool with him?
-Chris
cliff notes:
friend factor
been friends with a girl for a while
i am going to ask her on a date, say for lunch
i somewhat know her ex, should i ask if he'd be cool with it
