YAGT: Talking about previous encounters

[2Xtreme21]

The girl I'm seeing now has quite a bit of experience (more than most people it seems) and she always manages to throw in how she's "done this" and "done that" and has "been around the block many times" leading to me getting slightly unnerved. She then sees this in me and gets upset with me for being upset and "not accepting" of her past.

We had a huge fight related to this last night (apparently because I wasn't completely unphased by her throwing in that some dude "did her in a {really too graphic to say} way" ) and now she's not speaking to me and I get the feeling that it's over. While I really like her and we have a lot of fun together, am I in the wrong here? Would you be able to sit stoically and not have it phase you even slightly if your S.O. liked to randomly interject past experiences in bed in passing conversation?

 

[pontifex]

so you're girl is a slut?

 

[IceBergSLiM]

you gotta let a ho be a ho - NWA

 

[leftyman]

How does she say you rate?

 

[xSauronx]

shes just dropping clues for you, get with the program

 

[2Xtreme21]

Basically. She said she "f*cked up" her freshman year in college and decided to get some "notches on her belt" before eventually settling down with her last bf of 1.5 years. Then it was about 6 months between ending it with him and starting with me.

Edit: She says she likes me and is / was very happy with me and what not. She wouldn't sleep around while she was in a relationship or anything, so it's nothing about that. The only issue really at hand is her talking about her experiences in the past and me getting "noticeably upset" at it.

 

[sjvlad]

I'd try to tell her that you don't care/mind what past adventures she's had, but you're really not interested in hearing about it on a daily basis. If she keeps on talking about it, then she's just being cruel.

 

[mugs]

Originally posted by: pontifex
so you're girl is a slut?

Not only that, but she pretty much calls herself a slut. :laugh: Doesn't she know that "been around the block" is generally used as an insult?

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
The girl I'm seeing now has quite a bit of experience (more than most people it seems) and she always manages to throw in how she's "done this" and "done that" and has "been around the block many times" leading to me getting slightly unnerved. She then sees this in me and gets upset with me for being upset and "not accepting" of her past.

We had a huge fight related to this last night (apparently because I wasn't completely unphased by her throwing in that some dude "did her in a {really too graphic to say} way" ) and now she's not speaking to me and I get the feeling that it's over. While I really like her and we have a lot of fun together, am I in the wrong here? Would you be able to sit stoically and not have it phase you even slightly if your S.O. liked to randomly interject past experiences in bed in passing conversation?

honestly, i think you should move on. i don't know why anyone would feel the need to rub past experiences like those in your face all the time. i wouldn't even be bringing it up at all.

 

[GuitarDaddy]

She's been a bad girl and she wants you to spank her

 

[nonameo]

She's a dud.

 

[toolboxolio]

She has a problem with you having a problem with her being a slut?

Sounds like she is looking for approval for what she knows to herself was wrong.

Don't concede your feelings, else she will think being a whore is ok.

 

[iroast]

She's doing you a favor by telling you. You can either stay and ask her to get tested, or you can move on.

 

[DougK62]

The only reason a person would keep bringing that stuff up is if they were bragging. Sad. I think you're 100% in the right, and if she can't see it you should dump her dumb arse.

 

[irishScott]

I'd be uncomfortable with it. Would just be awkward. I don't think any guy wants to hear about another guy banging (or having banged) his GF.

Unless she says you're "better" then they were.

Kick it up a notch. Couldn't hurt

 

[kevnich2]

I'd say you should leave her and be done. If she keeps bringing it up, she either enjoys her past or as said before, is looking for "approval" from you for some reason. If she cared about you, she wouldn't EVER bring it up. And honestly, if she's done it before, she'll do it again. If she's getting mad at you about how you react to it (ANYBODY in your position would react bad to that, me personally would have walked out and said, that's it we're done) then it's time to move on. And as far as cheating, you don't know her well enough to say she wouldn't cheat if she's throwing in daily how many other guy's she's screwed around with.

 

[Cookie]

Originally posted by: sjvlad
I'd try to tell her that you don't care/mind what past adventures she's had, but you're really not interested in hearing about it on a daily basis. If she keeps on talking about it, then she's just being cruel.

QFT.

 

[Jeeebus]

fairly obvious that you have to do something so dirty and raunchy to her that she won't have anything in the past to talk about.

Break out the rotisserie.

 

[DarkThinker]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
The girl I'm seeing now has quite a bit of experience (more than most people it seems) and she always manages to throw in how she's "done this" and "done that" and has "been around the block many times" leading to me getting slightly unnerved. She then sees this in me and gets upset with me for being upset and "not accepting" of her past.

We had a huge fight related to this last night (apparently because I wasn't completely unphased by her throwing in that some dude "did her in a {really too graphic to say} way" ) and now she's not speaking to me and I get the feeling that it's over. While I really like her and we have a lot of fun together, am I in the wrong here? Would you be able to sit stoically and not have it phase you even slightly if your S.O. liked to randomly interject past experiences in bed in passing conversation?

honestly, i think you should move on. i don't know why anyone would feel the need to rub past experiences like those in your face all the time. i wouldn't even be bringing it up at all.

You see not all girls are like that, moshquerade knows what she is talking about. She is not that type of person.

You know what, why don't give her a shot?







j/k

 

[iRONic]

It gets her hot. Probe deeper for a reaction.

 

[brandonb]

She's lame. I had a GF like that once, she'd tell me about her past, ask me about mine, say this or say that, threaten our relationship over sex. All that entered her head was sex, like it was the most important thing to her. She has no substance other than that.

I also told her I was not interested in hearing about "hows shes very experienced in bed." I told her to not tell me because no good can come from it, and to be honest, the more she told me the more likely I'd want to run. She was fine with it and didn't talk about it as much.

However, she had a one track mind and it led to trouble. Like in my case, one day I was staying at her house and in the morning we got frisky. Then in the middle her daughter (8 years old) got up early from a bad dream or something and hopped into her bed. So we had to stop half way through. Of course the GF thought "it was natural thing people do" so she wanted to start up again with her daughter in the bed, so I blew her off as it wasn't really appropriate and she started humping my leg... I sat there a few minutes until she started to really not be all that discrete then started laughing at her for her being outragious (couldn't hold it in anymore) and told her "We have plenty of opportunity in the future to make it up..." Then 2 hours later she was telling me in voice mails about how we have a strictly platonic relationship. That I need to make sure to not leave her horny or she will go find it elsewhere. Never seen her again after that. Never again will I ever date a chick who only thinks about sex, who is completely void of any personality. Sure its nice to get it 3 times a day whenever I wanted. But thats only fun for the first 2 weeks!

 

[sixone]

Dump her. If you want a girl who will pretend that she has no past, then get one of those.

 

[DaShen]

RUN!!! Seriously.. those girls are way too insecure to be anything but trouble.

 

[Sinsear]

Ask her if she want you to do her in a [really too graphic to say] way?

 

[zinfamous]

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
you gotta let a ho be a ho - NWA

yep. just don't call her one directly. they don't like that.

take your penicillin and go for the poop shute. it's the safest option at this point.

or you could go try and be a man-ho yourself...see what it's like?