YAGT:- Sort of

[Zombie]

A question for those who have been in a relationship for a while and/or are married;

After how long did you really feel comfortable visiting(dinner) her parents/relatives? I have already met her parents once over dinner but don't feel comfortable going back just yet.

 

[chin311]

hha, i knew my ex's parents as soon as i knew my ex-gf, but she was only 17....guess if your older it all depends....

 

[minendo]

Originally posted by: Zombie
A question for those who have been in a relationship for a while and/or are married;

After how long did you really feel comfortable visiting(dinner) her parents/relatives? I have already met her parents once over dinner but don't feel comfortable going back just yet.

I met her parents two weeks after we started dating. I will never feel comfortable around her mom, but that's the way sh!t goes. I still go there and make do with the situation.

 

[gigapet]

PICS??? if not of your gf at least some of her parents

 

[nativesunshine]

I met his parents while we were still casually dating...

I was nervous as all heck...and it took a couple more meetings for me to become more comfortable around them.

 

[AreaCode707]

With my xbf, I knew his family was comfortable around me when his brother would walk out of the hallway behind me and I'd hear his mom yell, "go put on some clothes!" Granted, that didn't necessarily make ME feel comfortable, but hey, they were pretty relaxed.

 

[NTB]

I actually met her parents before we started going out - she was still with her old boyfriend at that point. I went over to her house to help her install a new CD-RW drive, and to fix a few other things; her parents thanked me for the help, since they knew even less about computers than she did. We get along pretty well, actually, although her dad makes me just a little nervous once in a while. Usually everything's cool though. Oddly enough she seems to have a harder time with her parents - mom, mostly - than I do 😛

Nate

 

[Hoober]

I met my wife's folks a couple of months after we started dating. That was five years ago. I'm completely comfortable around them now. We go on vacations together, eat together a lot... it's fine.

 

[Rapidskies]

I felt comfortable as soon as everyone started acting "real" at dinner. What I mean is usually when you first meet the in-laws to be, everyone is on their best behavior (including the mother) and over time you get to know them better. More time = more relaxed until it's like eating dinner with your own family. 😉

 

[Zombie]

Just for reference I am 26 and she is 25. The first time we I met her father pretty much grilled me for like 30mins or so about my work, degree and company in general 😕. He asked questions like does your company own the office building or do they lease it? WTF...

 

[Nitemare]

Her father had died before I met her, met her mother the same week.

It all depends on how you are with people

 

[NTB]

Originally posted by: Nitemare
Her father had died before I met her, met her mother the same week.

It all depends on how you are with people

Ouch. Rough start. Hope things got better after that.

Nate

 

[Jzero]

I've been dating my gf for ~2 months. In that time we've pretty much been to hell and back. Her dad calls me up just to say "hello." I feel comfortable enough around them that when we were invited to a wedding for one of her friends and she ended up not being able to go, I went alone and hung out with her parents and siblings and had a great time.

My last gf I dated for over 2 years and I felt pretty comfy around her family pretty quickly, too.

 

[jjones]

I met my wife's mom (her dad had passed away years ago) shortly after we started dating. I had no problem with that at all and since she drinks tequila, we got along just great. One thing that did make me nervous was when we had decided to get married, her being from a very traditional family, I had to request permission from her eldest brother (in place of her father) for her hand in marriage. I thought it was a little old-fashioned but what the hell, I thought it was kind of cool at the same time.

 

[WhiteKnight]

I'd say I felt comfortable within a month or so. We met in college and her mom lived nearby and had both of her daughters (my gf and her sister) along with a few other assorted people over for dinner every Sunday so I got used to it pretty quickly.

 

[TwinkleToes77]

I go over to my inlaws for dinner every sunday.. and there are STILL sundays that I dont feel comfortable. Ive been with him for over 5 years.. 4 of which I have known his parents and had dinners there.