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YAGT: Some advice please

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OneOfTheseDays

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I posted about this issue before but there was some content in my post that offended the mods. I'll try and explain my situation in as few words as possible.

A friend of mine, who i talk to every now and then, just recently told me that she and her boyfriend are going to take a break and that she is interested in me. Let's just say she expressed a marked interest in me, and now the ball is firmly in my court. I really like this girl, and I am having trouble finding faults with her, so I'm afraid I'll end up really liking her and getting dissed if she decides to get back with her bf. Should I take the chance and go with her, or play it safe and keep out?

About the pics, i don't have any right now.
 
it's odd though.....she told me she's liked me ever since we first met. I don't really want to be the fall guy, so I'm not sure what the hell to do. She's coming on a lot stronger than I expected for someone getting out of a relationship.
 
If she's worth ditching one of your friends for, then consider it.

If not, I'd stay the hell away.
 
Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
it's odd though.....she told me she's liked me ever since we first met. I don't really want to be the fall guy, so I'm not sure what the hell to do. She's coming on a lot stronger than I expected for someone getting out of a relationship.
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Don't get involved with a girl who is in a relationship or just got out of a relationship. Be her friend and wait till she is alone and not interested in her past any longer. You don't want to go out with her and constantly hear "I remember when my ex and I.. "Do you think he is thinking of me?" keeps coming up.
 
this girl is an absolute knockout, in every sense of the word. Under normal circumstances, this post wouldn't exist, but these aren't exactly normal circumstances. I don't know if its worth the risk.
 
If you have to think about it this much.. it's a no-brainer.. don't do it.

Things always have a way of exploding on you!
Somehow the b/f will find out, people talk, especially the girl you're planning on banging.. You will just end up losing her as a freind, which would suck!
 
Ask WayneTek. He's good with the ladies.

But if you ask me (keep in mind I'm not nearly as good with the ladies as WayneTek) I'd say don't do it. Friends > sex. But then, perhaps I'm a bit too loyal for this day and age.
 
Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
it's odd though.....she told me she's liked me ever since we first met. I don't really want to be the fall guy, so I'm not sure what the hell to do. She's coming on a lot stronger than I expected for someone getting out of a relationship.
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hmm...on second thought...tell her you like her use her then dump her. jk

um... actually nvm do it!


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yea I don't even know the boyfriend really. Seen him once or twice. And she told me she plans on mutually separating for a bit with her bf. I've never been so confused....
 
I make it a rule not to go out with exes of my buddies. I typically try to avoid those they may have "liked" in the past or whatever...however, if it's been long enough I will go to him and ask him what he thinks. Ultimately, it's your decision (as you stated). Nevertheless, I'm a firm believer in what goes around, comes around. Who knows if she would do the same thing to you? You might want to see if you can find out if she's had a history like this. But, who knows? Maybe she's not a lunatic, not a hoe. But you have to respect your buddy, too...
 
Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
Ok......her ex is NOT MY BUDDY. I don't even know the guy, I only know her. Wouldn't even do it if the ex was my buddy.
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haha..the reading comprehension on these boards is a bit lacking..
 
Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
yea I don't even know the boyfriend really. Seen him once or twice. And she told me she plans on mutually separating for a bit with her bf. I've never been so confused....
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if you don't know the guy then tell her straight up that you like her but this other guy is history. You don't want to hear about him ever again. If she mentions him never talk to her again or act like you won't and she'll get the point and never do it again and come crawling back to you. Be everything this guy isn't.

This is your chance to be the better guy. Be sweet to her and tell her things you know will make her think about you at night. Mind games is what it is all about. Don't get with her to fall in love. Get with her to see if you can get her to leave the other guy for you. Make it into a game and then if love comes then it comes. I only say this so you don't get hurt. Remember you need to have total control and dominate the situation. Girls will walk all over a weak guy, but if you are strong and speak your mind they will respect you more and be more into you.
 
Originally posted by: Aimster
Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
yea I don't even know the boyfriend really. Seen him once or twice. And she told me she plans on mutually separating for a bit with her bf. I've never been so confused....
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if you don't know the guy then tell her straight up that you like her but this other guy is history. You don't want to hear about him ever again. If she mentions him never talk to her again or act like you won't and she'll get the point and never do it again and come crawling back to you. Be everything this guy isn't.

This is your chance to be the better guy. Be sweet to her and tell her things you know will make her think about you at night. Mind games is what it is all about. Don't get with her to fall in love. Get with her to see if you can get her to leave the other guy for you. Make it into a game and then if love comes then it comes. I only say this so you don't get hurt. Remember you need to have total control and dominate the situation. Girls will walk all over a weak guy, but if you are strong and speak your mind they will respect you more and be more into you.
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i don't see how being a control freak would steal her heart. not talking to her because she mentions the old bf doesn't mean he should walk away. 🙂 it means she's prob. still sad and vulnerable. 🙂 that means you shouldn't get attached but um... work it.
 
ok I think i'm gonna go all in. here is basically what she just told me:

"all i know is that it feels really right, what could potentially happen with you, and who knows, if i enjoy being free so much then maybe we wont get back together"

nothing to lose here, only something to gain.
 
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