YAGT: So I found the woman of my dreams

[hans030390]

Just do her (or something) and see how it goes.

It's either:

1. You really do think she's "the one"
or
2. You're totally just making that up

so in the case of number one, why haven't you done anything? sometimes sparks dont happen unless you really try to make them...so try doing stuff. try at least a few times too.
and that's not exactly meaning sexual things.

in the case of number two, just quit thinking about your crazy idea, realize she's just a good friend, and find someone else.

Tell her you think she needs to figure out exactly what she wants. Or maybe she doesnt know because you're being boring. be exciting, maybe then she'll really want you, then maybe you'll spark or whatever.

and we still want pics. not of you though.

 

[Fox5]

Originally posted by: acemcmac

Originally posted by: Syringer
So what makes her the woman of your dreams?

Well... she's just perfect. I can talk to her. We're on the same level intellectually. We have a lot in common and similar goals, dreams and values. We see things the same way, have lots mutual respect. We make each other laugh... etc

I've met half a dozen girls like that, does that mean I missed my ideal mates?
I dunno, I always thought relationships were built on that spark in spite of a lack of things in common, as long as you can enjoy being together.

I dunno, I guess if you guys are feeling you're getting old you could go get married, and that way you'll have a friend in your old age.

 

[bmx045]

Originally posted by: acemcmac
she told me to tell you that she think's I'm "vanilla"

I don't know what that means but I think she might be into S&M and trying to keep from telling me.

HELLOOOOO

she's bringing up the whole differential candy food distinction.

"I'm vanilla, you're chocolate" GET IT?(but reversed..no diff)

 

[MrPickins]

Originally posted by: tallest1
spider

 

[PandaBear]

Originally posted by: Descartes
Here is the real situation.

1) She's not attracted to you. Others have said this and I think her comments make this obvious.
2) You ARE attracted to her; however, in a futile attempt at denying that and protecting your emotions from the pain of acknowledging that she's not attracted to you you decide to create a thread to further convince yourself.

IMO.

Exactly. I have been there done that. It wasn't until a few years later after I am in a healthy, stable relationship that I realized it myself.

Go out there and meet a few less than perfect women and enjoy your life. Then come back and realize what you want and what you can afford. Or work harder to get a better woman next time around.

If you are only looking out for your dream girl, if she shows up you will not be ready to attract her.

 

[dude8604]

Ok, what happened in the last 2 months?

 

[huberm]

stick a banana in your pants next time you're together and see if she is more attracted to you

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Fox5

Originally posted by: acemcmac

Originally posted by: Syringer
So what makes her the woman of your dreams?

Well... she's just perfect. I can talk to her. We're on the same level intellectually. We have a lot in common and similar goals, dreams and values. We see things the same way, have lots mutual respect. We make each other laugh... etc

I've met half a dozen girls like that, does that mean I missed my ideal mates?
I dunno, I always thought relationships were built on that spark in spite of a lack of things in common, as long as you can enjoy being together.

I dunno, I guess if you guys are feeling you're getting old you could go get married, and that way you'll have a friend in your old age.

Guess what ? sex is an important part of a relationship...even for older people. I would never settle for a guy I had no sexual attraction to.

 

[dsfunk]

add alcohol, see what happens

 

[imported_Phil]

I think we've been Syringered.

 

[Marinski]

Quit wasting your time with this tease, concentrate on your school, then get a good job, make some money, and then you can find yourself a slut that will let you ****** on her chest. Can't you find some guys to hang out with?

 

[erikistired]

you can't force a relationship, that's why the divorce rate is so high. if she was really "perfect" for you it wouldn't have anything to do with how compatible you might think you are.

 

[ThaGrandCow]

I think we need to start a mass-PM movement. Flood his box with PM's demanding an update until he tells us what happened. Win or lose, we at least need closure

Also: spider

 

[acemcmac]

The girl who was intellectually stimulating and a pleasure to be around, etc etc, had turned out to have been stalking me here on ATOT just about the whole time we were dating. Eventually her constant questioning me about "whether or not I wanted to be in this relationship" got to be more than I could bear and I broke up with her. She's been going out with one of mybest friends ever since (a diamond member on here, small world). I ended up going out with the 105lb, 5' 9", blonde hair, blue eyes version 2.0 of my ex girlfriend. She's relaxing to be around and is really good at not looking like a dumbass or bitch around my friends (a missing feature from the last ex).

Any questions?

 

[ballmode]

doesn't sound like youd be happy with her

 

[ruffilb]

Originally posted by: Zim Hosein

Originally posted by: Udel
Beer.

I like the way you think!

Cheers Udel :beer:

Originally posted by: acemcmac

Originally posted by: datalink7
Have you tried to have sex? Maybe once you get your clothes off something will happen.

*Being serious.

actually, no... we haven't

 

[ThaGrandCow]

Originally posted by: acemcmac
The girl who was intellectually stimulating and a pleasure to be around, etc etc, had turned out to have been stalking me here on ATOT just about the whole time we were dating. Eventually her constant questioning me about "whether or not I wanted to be in this relationship" got to be more than I could bear and I broke up with her. She's been going out with one of mybest friends ever since (a diamond member on here, small world). I ended up going out with the 105lb, 5' 9", blonde hair, blue eyes version 2.0 of my ex girlfriend. She's relaxing to be around and is really good at not looking like a dumbass or bitch around my friends (a missing feature from the last ex).

Any questions?

Are you having sex with her?

EDIT: The new girl I mean

 

[ElFenix]

Originally posted by: acemcmac
I ended up going out with the 105lb, 5' 9", blonde hair, blue eyes version 2.0 of my ex girlfriend.

Any questions?

pics?

 

[drinkmorejava]

Originally posted by: acemcmac

Originally posted by: bootymac

Originally posted by: acemcmac
We're great friends, but... there's no spark.

Woman of your dreams, yet there's no spark?

Well, there is a spark... its just not really sexual/physical...

She thinks this is more of a problem than I do.

I don't get this, are you saying you've actually had a serious conversation about how you both like eachother but somehow don't. If so, she was saying she likes you and wants to have sex. If she good looking, I fail to see how you can't get a a hard-on seeing her naked...and if you really do it means your hopeless and you're never going to have a longterm relationship with her. And what's with the sex therapist too? Aren't you supposed to be in a relationship before you go?

 

[skim milk]

use jealousy to turn your friend into making her want you

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: acemcmac
And we're not sexually attracted to each other. We're great friends, but... there's no spark. We'd be perfect for each other. Neither of us are overweight or out of shape... I'm your average 5' 11" college senior, she's 5' 2", 100lbs soaking wet and has had her BS for a year or so...

Anyhow... I was thinking we should see a sex therapist or something. We're way too good for each other to be passing each other up.

Anyone had any experience with this?

back away stalker.....

perfect is sparks. Getting her back to your place or hers, or even not making it out of the parking lot or club.

An average 5'11 (I am 5'10.5") college senior even here in S. Florida was either plump or bones.

 

[flexy]

hate to tell you - if there is no chemistry/sexual attraction this will NEVER work !

Chemistry is the first thing wich is important, all other things come afterwards. The fact that she has a BS or/and is 5.something tall or whatever will NOT contribute to a good relationship.

Also..if you just MET her and ALREADY talk about seeing a sex-therpaist and ADMIT that you're both not sexually attracted to each other - not good !

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: acemcmac
The girl who was intellectually stimulating and a pleasure to be around, etc etc, had turned out to have been stalking me here on ATOT just about the whole time we were dating. Eventually her constant questioning me about "whether or not I wanted to be in this relationship" got to be more than I could bear and I broke up with her. She's been going out with one of mybest friends ever since (a diamond member on here, small world). I ended up going out with the 105lb, 5' 9", blonde hair, blue eyes version 2.0 of my ex girlfriend. She's relaxing to be around and is really good at not looking like a dumbass or bitch around my friends (a missing feature from the last ex).

Any questions?

105 lbs and she's 5' 9"? that is not a healthy weight. is she anorexic?

 

[AbAbber2k]

So um... this thread is about two prudes who are affraid of their sexuality and refuse to get naughty? I read the first page and that was about it.

"105 lbs and she's 5' 9"? that is not a healthy weight. is she anorexic? "

DAMN, ya there's no other way to explain that. I knew a girl who was 5'6" and 100lbs and she looked unhealthy.

 

[ThaGrandCow]

Originally posted by: ThaGrandCow

Originally posted by: acemcmac
The girl who was intellectually stimulating and a pleasure to be around, etc etc, had turned out to have been stalking me here on ATOT just about the whole time we were dating. Eventually her constant questioning me about "whether or not I wanted to be in this relationship" got to be more than I could bear and I broke up with her. She's been going out with one of mybest friends ever since (a diamond member on here, small world). I ended up going out with the 105lb, 5' 9", blonde hair, blue eyes version 2.0 of my ex girlfriend. She's relaxing to be around and is really good at not looking like a dumbass or bitch around my friends (a missing feature from the last ex).

Any questions?

Are you having sex with her?

EDIT: The new girl I mean