YAGT: So I ditched a girl this weekend, can you guys help me analyze my situation please? Advice me on what to do tmmrw.

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nanyangview

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Long story short in point form:

Knew this girl from last year november
Became friends this semester.
She is very pretty and very experienced ( had BF before)
I am a total noob, never had a GF
I liked her personality and became good friends
Hanged out often after school (Eg, lunch, sports)
Originally planned to watch the Passion with her this friday.
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But i sensed something wrong, i feel that i was being played.
So i got a book from Sosuave.com - its david degangelo's Double your dating.
I read it, and it shocked me.
It listed everything a woman will do to "trick" an man in order to make use of him.
I got pissed, cancelled the movie.
On saturday, wrote her a letter via e-mail to end all friendship and from then on be total strangers.
End of story.

Unfortunately, she replied, now i do not know what to do.

This is her reply:
She said she is confused that why I am leaving.
She also said she don't mind hanging with me, you're a nice guy... but just as friends... if she ever gave the impression it was more than that... she's sorry and blah blah

its all stupid tricks woman use to play on your sympathy and i ain't buying into that or falling into the trap.


(MY letter was VERY CLEAR TO the damn point, and it is written in a neutral way without blaming her)
 
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Kipper

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You canceled a movie with a girl because you read something in a book, you didn't question what you read, or run it through your head, chalk stuff up to being a.) neurotic, b.) unexperienced, or simply didn't play a game to see if you were being played with?

I would have still gone out to see the movie. You haven't told us any details, so I can only say that you acted too quickly and now you're between a rock and a hard place, doubtful that you can fix it depending on how you called off the movie. Bad move.
 
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TommyVercetti

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Originally posted by: nanyangview
Long story short in point form:


I got pissed, cancelled the movie.
On saturday, wrote her a letter via e-mail to end all friendship and from then on be total strangers.
End of story.

Unfortunately, she replied, now i do not know what to do.
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I believe Sosuave also talks about how to increase a woman's interest in you by suddenly starting to act different and less interested in the girl. This is what you should have done, NOT writing her an email and telling her that our friendship is over. You should have seen how she reacted to that. How do you know she is "experienced"? She offered a sample?
 
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nanyangview

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She said she is confused that why I am leaving.
She also said she don't mind hanging with me, you're a nice guy... but just as friends... if she ever gave the impression it was more than that... she's sorry and blah blah

its all stupid tricks woman use to play on your sympathy and i ain't buying into that or falling into the trap.


(MY letter was VERY CLEAR TO the damn point, and it is written in a neutral way without blaming her)
 
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MercenaryForHire

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Originally posted by: nanyangview
She said she is confused that why I am leaving.
She also said she don't mind hanging with me, you're a nice guy... but just as friends... if she ever gave the impression it was more than that... she's sorry and blah blah

its all stupid tricks woman use to play on your sympathy and i ain't buying into that or falling into the trap.


(MY letter was VERY CLEAR TO the damn point, and it is written in a neutral way without blaming her)
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Way to cut off a good friend because you can't think with your head instead of your cock.

I bet you're real popular.
rolleye.gif


- M4H
 
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TommyVercetti

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Originally posted by: Jgtdragon
Ok, someone have to ask. What she reply with?
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Dear Nanayanview,

I am totally surprised by this email, believe me I am not type of a girl. Oh well, my friend Cindy was asking me about a 3some with you. Guess I'll tell her we can't surprise you with that.

Regards.
 
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TommyVercetti

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Originally posted by: nanyangview
She said she is confused that why I am leaving.
She also said she don't mind hanging with me, you're a nice guy... but just as friends... if she ever gave the impression it was more than that... she's sorry and blah blah

its all stupid tricks woman use to play on your sympathy and i ain't buying into that or falling into the trap.


(MY letter was VERY CLEAR TO the damn point, and it is written in a neutral way without blaming her)
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Right, and your 20 years of dating hot women tells you that right?
 
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nanyangview

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to be honest, i never written such a eloquent piece of work soo fast before. (the letter i wrote to her)
 
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nanyangview

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instant noodle time

tomorrow i am giving her back the 2 CDs and it will be over for good. I almost got booby trapped....what a close shave.
 
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RbSX

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Originally posted by: nanyangview
Long story short in point form:

Knew this girl from last year november
Became friends this semester.
She is very pretty and very experienced ( had BF before)
I am a total noob, never had a GF
I liked her personality and became good friends
Hanged out often after school (Eg, lunch, sports)
Originally planned to watch the Passion with her this friday.
----

But i sensed something wrong, i feel that i was being played.
So i got a book from Sosuave.com - its david degangelo's Double your dating.
I read it, and it shocked me.
It listed everything a woman will do to "trick" an man in order to make use of him.
I got pissed, cancelled the movie.
On saturday, wrote her a letter via e-mail to end all friendship and from then on be total strangers.
End of story.

Unfortunately, she replied, now i do not know what to do.

This is her reply:
She said she is confused that why I am leaving.
She also said she don't mind hanging with me, you're a nice guy... but just as friends... if she ever gave the impression it was more than that... she's sorry and blah blah

its all stupid tricks woman use to play on your sympathy and i ain't buying into that or falling into the trap.


(MY letter was VERY CLEAR TO the damn point, and it is written in a neutral way without blaming her)
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First of all. Thats women for you, they all do that. Get used to it. Secondly, NEVER use email/im to tell a girl something. They are usually taken in the worst possible manner. Third of all, just deal with it.
 
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thelanx

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Dude okay so she just wanted to be friends. This one didn't turn out that bad, but next time, don't be so rash. You think sosuave or whatever book you read has women all figured out? If it were true, the author would win a Pulitzer or something lol. Don't jump to conclusions so quickly, especially over some you read. It didn't go so bad this time, or maybe she was interested and is just covering up. Whatever the case, next time consider things before acting.
 
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boyRacer

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lol... you ever think that maybe you were the only one thinking you guys were more than friends?
 
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nanyangview

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too bad like the flow of the time and the river, what is done cannot be undone

i believe written communication is the most formal way, that is why i choosed that method
 
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RbSX

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Originally posted by: nanyangview
too bad like the flow of the time and the river, what is done cannot be undone

i believe written communication is the most formal way, that is why i choosed that method
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Unfortunately written statements often lead to interpretation by the reader. With women that is disasterous.

 
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