YAGT: So, do you have a "one that got away"?

AndrewR

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Oct 9, 1999
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I have one. Only dated for about a month, but it was intense. She broke it off via email and wouldn't talk to me -- absolutely floored me. I think the lack of closure (God, I hate that term) is what makes it so keen. Still think about her now and again even after nine years, a marriage, and a child.

No, my wife has no idea and never will. Some things are better left unsaid.

How about you?
 
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i had a gf in high school(who was already bi) turn full lesbian...that kinda freaked me out...but thats about it
 

Modeps

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I met a girl while staying at my college over the summer. We had probably the greatest two weeks ever together at that point in my life, and I thought we'd be together for quite some time... We fell hard for each other, then she went back to her previous college at the end of the summer and that was that. As I understand it, she's also a lesbian now.

If it wasnt for her though, I wouldnt have been so close with my wife. We both had similar experiences with members of the opposite sex and basically that was our common ground at first to become friends.
 

TekDemon

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Haha well the ones that got away that I regret are the ones that showed interest in me but I didn't ever do anything about (which sometimes was because I was too stupid to realize) even though I felt largely the same way.

For example this girl I liked was talking to me about senior prom and whatnot, and I pointed out that I hadn't gotten a date yet, and she said something like "Oh, well I don't have a date either, haha if you don't get one soon you should ask me." Now see...it wasn't until like...umm...quite a while later, that I realized that that kinda meant to just ask her, and that such asking would likely result in a yes and whatnot. We used to dance together a lot in ballroom dance class and that's how I kinda got to know her better over time.
I suppose though this was more a regret about how several things collided to screw my prom over, and how this would have avoided at least like 3 of those things.

The other one now that I think about it, was also from high school. There was never any blatantly stupid things on my part like above, but I just never persued this girl who like me and whom I liked. Which is a real huge pity because I only later realized that I liked her a lot more than I thought. Oh well.

So anyways, there haven't been any close calls with people lately, and I probably regret the people I *DID* get with more than the people I let get away lol.

Anyways, do you guys realize how hard it is to start a relationship late into senior year of college when everybody is about to leave? Well, let's just say that I think I stupidly left all my college relationshipping for this last segment, so now my hormones are screaming left and right and things are going back to high school levels of drama eh?

God I hate feeling like a 15 year old again.
 

Landroval

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My first boyfriend from when I was about 8. His family moved away suddenly during the school year and I never got to say goodbye or find out where he went. I would not want to resume anything but I have always wondered about him and hoped he was ok :)
 

Goosemaster

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She was brazilian!
Great personality.
I blew it.

urgh.


Edit: Forgot to mention that she was smart as hell. :(
 

AndrewR

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Originally posted by: Modeps
I met a girl while staying at my college over the summer. We had probably the greatest two weeks ever together at that point in my life, and I thought we'd be together for quite some time... We fell hard for each other, then she went back to her previous college at the end of the summer and that was that. As I understand it, she's also a lesbian now.

If it wasnt for her though, I wouldnt have been so close with my wife. We both had similar experiences with members of the opposite sex and basically that was our common ground at first to become friends.

Hmm, don't think any of my previous GFs are lesbians now. Had one express interest in a threesome, but we broke up before that happened. :Q
 

Red Dawn

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Originally posted by: Modeps
I met a girl while staying at my college over the summer. We had probably the greatest two weeks ever together at that point in my life, and I thought we'd be together for quite some time... We fell hard for each other, then she went back to her previous college at the end of the summer and that was that. As I understand it, she's also a lesbian now.
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You ruined her for all other guys;)

 

AndrewR

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Originally posted by: Red Dawn
Originally posted by: Modeps
I met a girl while staying at my college over the summer. We had probably the greatest two weeks ever together at that point in my life, and I thought we'd be together for quite some time... We fell hard for each other, then she went back to her previous college at the end of the summer and that was that. As I understand it, she's also a lesbian now.
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You ruined her for all other guys;)

Either that, or she thought, "There's gotta be something better out there...". :D
 

PricklyPete

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Sep 17, 2002
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No.

I've always been the one breaking up except in one occasion and the relationship was not serious, so it was no big deal.

I'm thankful for this as I imagine it would be emotionally difficult if I was in love with someone and suddenly they wanted nothing to do with me.
 

shilala

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Oct 5, 2004
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Nope. When I shake em off, there's not much chance of them coming back. I do regret a couple. There was one in particular that would have made a top notch wife. I fvcked up on that one. :D
 

jjones

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Oct 9, 2001
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A girl I could have married when I was in my late 20's. We dated for about a year and she wanted to get married but I wasn't interested in that yet. She eventually found someone that would marry her (I insisted that our relationship remain open so we could date other people). I sometimes wonder what life would have been like if I had been ready to settle down when she wanted to. Great girl that worked for Playboy at the time; she wasn't a bunny but she was pretty hot.

Edit: BTW, not really a regret, but I just wonder about what turn of events would have shaped my life with probably the only other girl I would have been interested in marrying.
 

EGGO

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Jul 29, 2004
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4 months ago, ex-gf broke with me for reasons already said in the forums. Found out she still thinks about me and even still misses me, hell even still considers going back out with me. I'm through with her drama until she makes up her mind. ANYWAY...

I met this very cute girl and we hit it off easy, she's the shy and quiet type and so was I, so I had to man up to break the ice. Not going out yet but I found out next month she's moving to New Mexico.

I have such bad luck.
 

b0mbrman

Lifer
Jun 1, 2001
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God...I can think of...four:(

Four potential relationships, not just doing it. And all four probably would have been better than the girlfriends I actually did choose. :(
 

TWills

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Fooled myself into liking this one girl while I was gone on vacation one month, then came back and found out she never liked me to begin with...Guess that's how it goes.
 

PingSpike

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Feb 25, 2004
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I have a delightfully pathetic story that is almost exactly the same as TekDemon's. In retrospect, she might have just needed a warm body to bring her to the prom, so maybe it was a bullet dodged rather than an opportunity missed. I grew enough balls to ask her out a month or so later, but she said she was with some one. I retreated back into my hermit cave at that point. Not sure I regret that one or not, I don't really think things would have worked out between us anyway.



 

Pepsei

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Originally posted by: Landroval
My first boyfriend from when I was about 8. His family moved away suddenly during the school year and I never got to say goodbye or find out where he went. I would not want to resume anything but I have always wondered about him and hoped he was ok :)


was his name evan? and yours kayleigh?