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YAGT: Should I do this???

PricklyPete

PricklyPete

Lifer
I am being asked by a girl who works for me to go out on the town in one of our neighboring citys for a weekend with her married friend (both girls if that wasn't clear). This would most definitely involve one night in a hotel room.

I am friends with the girl (we were friends prior to me being promoted above her), she has a boyfriend whom I am also friends with, and she often asks me to go and do things with them. Unfortunately I am often not able to hang out due to my busy schedule and long distance relationship (my girlfriend lives 800 miles away).

Anyway, my friend asked me to go to this city for the weekend and I agreed assuming it was going to be with a large group of people (they went with a large group only a couple weeks ago...they had so much fun they wanted to go again). Well, now I find out that it is only going to be my friend and her married friend.

I'm not uncomfortable with the situation...and I know my girlfriend will not care (she trusts me fully), but do you think I'm putting myself in a bad situation?
 
Yes, you're getting in sh!t between you and your 'friend', you and your ld girlfriend, and your friend and her boyfriend. Hell, maybe even you and her boyfriend.
 
Nah prolly not man. Especially if she has a b/f and her friend is married. They're prolly all about being faithful. And if you were planning on being good anyway, then why not?

BTW, how do you make an 800 mile away relationship work? I would think that'd be impossible.
 
Originally posted by: Hankerton
Nah prolly not man. Especially if she has a b/f and her friend is married. They're prolly all about being faithful. And if you were planning on being good anyway, then why not?

BTW, how do you make an 800 mile away relationship work? I would think that'd be impossible.
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the 800 mile relationship is tough...but we have been doing it for 2 years... and still seem to be good to go. I met her while on vacation with some friends from college. It works because neither of us are overly jealous. We have had some bumps (she's less patient on us moving closer together than I am), but overall things are going well. The real decision on moving closer together is when one of us is ready to make a change career wise. You really can't take that next step in a relationship until you live near the person for an extended time and get to experience each other on a regular basis. On a side note, we see each other ever other week or so. Not ideal...but not as bad as some long distance relationships.
 
If you're not going to bang both of them and at least take advantage of the upside of the situation, the downside goes a long, long way down. So not worth it.
 
Originally posted by: PricklyPete
Originally posted by: Hankerton
Nah prolly not man. Especially if she has a b/f and her friend is married. They're prolly all about being faithful. And if you were planning on being good anyway, then why not?

BTW, how do you make an 800 mile away relationship work? I would think that'd be impossible.
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the 800 mile relationship is tough...but we have been doing it for 2 years... and still seem to be good to go. I met her while on vacation with some friends from college. It works because neither of us are overly jealous. We have had some bumps (she's less patient on us moving closer together than I am), but overall things are going well. The real decision on moving closer together is when one of us is ready to make a change career wise. You really can't take that next step in a relationship until you live near the person for an extended time and get to experience each other on a regular basis. On a side note, we see each other ever other week or so. Not ideal...but not as bad as some long distance relationships.
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Man, at least you see her that much. I was gonna ask you how you can deal with not gettin laid. That would bother the hell outta me. Every other week I GUESS you could deal with for a while.
 
If I go, I will probably try and get at least another friend to come along (girl or guy) to make the situation more comfortable for all of us.

 
Originally posted by: Hankerton
Originally posted by: PricklyPete
Originally posted by: Hankerton
Nah prolly not man. Especially if she has a b/f and her friend is married. They're prolly all about being faithful. And if you were planning on being good anyway, then why not?

BTW, how do you make an 800 mile away relationship work? I would think that'd be impossible.
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the 800 mile relationship is tough...but we have been doing it for 2 years... and still seem to be good to go. I met her while on vacation with some friends from college. It works because neither of us are overly jealous. We have had some bumps (she's less patient on us moving closer together than I am), but overall things are going well. The real decision on moving closer together is when one of us is ready to make a change career wise. You really can't take that next step in a relationship until you live near the person for an extended time and get to experience each other on a regular basis. On a side note, we see each other ever other week or so. Not ideal...but not as bad as some long distance relationships.
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Man, at least you see her that much. I was gonna ask you how you can deal with not gettin laid. That would bother the hell outta me. Every other week I GUESS you could deal with for a while.
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Believe me...it is difficult. Especially when you're around available good looking woman all the time. I've learnt to deal with it...and my forearm has grown as well.
 
Originally posted by: PricklyPete
Originally posted by: Hankerton
Originally posted by: PricklyPete
Originally posted by: Hankerton
Nah prolly not man. Especially if she has a b/f and her friend is married. They're prolly all about being faithful. And if you were planning on being good anyway, then why not?

BTW, how do you make an 800 mile away relationship work? I would think that'd be impossible.
Click to expand...

the 800 mile relationship is tough...but we have been doing it for 2 years... and still seem to be good to go. I met her while on vacation with some friends from college. It works because neither of us are overly jealous. We have had some bumps (she's less patient on us moving closer together than I am), but overall things are going well. The real decision on moving closer together is when one of us is ready to make a change career wise. You really can't take that next step in a relationship until you live near the person for an extended time and get to experience each other on a regular basis. On a side note, we see each other ever other week or so. Not ideal...but not as bad as some long distance relationships.
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Man, at least you see her that much. I was gonna ask you how you can deal with not gettin laid. That would bother the hell outta me. Every other week I GUESS you could deal with for a while.
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Believe me...it is difficult. Especially when you're around available good looking woman all the time. I've learnt to deal with it...and my forearm has grown as well.
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I should add...my girlfriend is worth the effort.
 
Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77
Don't go.. its a bad situation waiting to happen.
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I completely agree that it's a bad situation waiting to happen... which is why I advocate going. 😀

Perhaps you're looking into this too much. If not, though, game on!
 
Originally posted by: Rumpltzer
Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77
Don't go.. its a bad situation waiting to happen.
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I completely agree that it's a bad situation waiting to happen... which is why I advocate going. 😀

Perhaps you're looking into this too much. If not, though, game on!
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I'm definitely thinking too much about this. Generally I would have just gone and all would be fine.

I guess the fact that she works under me has made me think twice.
 
Go.

What are you? A cock without a brain?

Seems every woman think all men are but i got news for you, we do know what we are doing and why.

Twinkletoes, you must be extremely insecure to make that kind of statement, either that or you simply have no clue about how it works.

I could sleep naked in a bed with 20 extremely HOT women and if i wasn't involved i would do all of those who were not, but if i was, i wouldn't.

Surprise you morons, men have brains and emotions!
 
Originally posted by: PricklyPete
Originally posted by: Rumpltzer
Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77
Don't go.. its a bad situation waiting to happen.
Click to expand...
I completely agree that it's a bad situation waiting to happen... which is why I advocate going. 😀

Perhaps you're looking into this too much. If not, though, game on!
Click to expand...

I'm definitely thinking too much about this. Generally I would have just gone and all would be fine.

I guess the fact that she works under me has made me think twice.
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The pun is too obvious, i call shens on this.
 
Originally posted by: PricklyPete
Originally posted by: Rumpltzer
Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77
Don't go.. its a bad situation waiting to happen.
Click to expand...
I completely agree that it's a bad situation waiting to happen... which is why I advocate going. 😀

Perhaps you're looking into this too much. If not, though, game on!
Click to expand...

I'm definitely thinking too much about this. Generally I would have just gone and all would be fine.

I guess the fact that she works under me has made me think twice.
Click to expand...

Aaaah, screw it man, shouldn't be uncomfortable if you just bring a friend of your own along.
 
Originally posted by: Klixxer
Go.

What are you? A cock without a brain?

Seems every woman think all men are but i got news for you, we do know what we are doing and why.

Twinkletoes, you must be extremely insecure to make that kind of statement, either that or you simply have no clue about how it works.

I could sleep naked in a bed with 20 extremely HOT women and if i wasn't involved i would do all of those who were not, but if i was, i wouldn't.

Surprise you morons, men have brains!
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It is not me I am worried about. I am perfectly capable of getting drunk, partying, and being completely faithful in the situation. I am more worried about my friend. She has definitely flirted with me in the past (innocently I think....but still flirting) and I'm afraid that going out, getting drunk, dancing, etc. could lead her to less than innocent flirting with me. I really don't want to find myself in that position.
 
Originally posted by: Hankerton
Originally posted by: PricklyPete
Originally posted by: Rumpltzer
Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77
Don't go.. its a bad situation waiting to happen.
Click to expand...
I completely agree that it's a bad situation waiting to happen... which is why I advocate going. 😀

Perhaps you're looking into this too much. If not, though, game on!
Click to expand...

I'm definitely thinking too much about this. Generally I would have just gone and all would be fine.

I guess the fact that she works under me has made me think twice.
Click to expand...

Aaaah, screw it man, shouldn't be uncomfortable if you just bring a friend of your own along.
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This probably will be the best thing to do.
 
Originally posted by: Klixxer
Originally posted by: PricklyPete
Originally posted by: Rumpltzer
Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77
Don't go.. its a bad situation waiting to happen.
Click to expand...
I completely agree that it's a bad situation waiting to happen... which is why I advocate going. 😀

Perhaps you're looking into this too much. If not, though, game on!
Click to expand...

I'm definitely thinking too much about this. Generally I would have just gone and all would be fine.

I guess the fact that she works under me has made me think twice.
Click to expand...

The pun is too obvious, i call shens on this.
Click to expand...

If only I was that clever =)
 
Originally posted by: PricklyPete
Originally posted by: Klixxer
Go.

What are you? A cock without a brain?

Seems every woman think all men are but i got news for you, we do know what we are doing and why.

Twinkletoes, you must be extremely insecure to make that kind of statement, either that or you simply have no clue about how it works.

I could sleep naked in a bed with 20 extremely HOT women and if i wasn't involved i would do all of those who were not, but if i was, i wouldn't.

Surprise you morons, men have brains!
Click to expand...

It is not me I am worried about. I am perfectly capable of getting drunk, partying, and being completely faithful in the situation. I am more worried about my friend. She has definitely flirted with me in the past (innocently I think....but still flirting) and I'm afraid that going out, getting drunk, dancing, etc. could lead her to less than innocent flirting with me. I really don't want to find myself in that position.
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WTF are you? A man or a mouse? Tell her that you take it as a compliment but no thanks, she will feel embarrassed but just don't mention it. I have been in the same situation so many times and just pretended like i didn't know what she was apologizing for.

How fvcking hard is it, exactly, and i expect a description and a good analogy if you want to say it is hard.

Are you older than 14? honestly?
 
Originally posted by: Klixxer
Originally posted by: PricklyPete
Originally posted by: Klixxer
Go.

What are you? A cock without a brain?

Seems every woman think all men are but i got news for you, we do know what we are doing and why.

Twinkletoes, you must be extremely insecure to make that kind of statement, either that or you simply have no clue about how it works.

I could sleep naked in a bed with 20 extremely HOT women and if i wasn't involved i would do all of those who were not, but if i was, i wouldn't.

Surprise you morons, men have brains!
Click to expand...

It is not me I am worried about. I am perfectly capable of getting drunk, partying, and being completely faithful in the situation. I am more worried about my friend. She has definitely flirted with me in the past (innocently I think....but still flirting) and I'm afraid that going out, getting drunk, dancing, etc. could lead her to less than innocent flirting with me. I really don't want to find myself in that position.
Click to expand...

WTF are you? A man or a mouse? Tell her that you take it as a compliment but no thanks, she will feel embarrassed but just don't mention it. I have been in the same situation so many times and just pretended like i didn't know what she was apologizing for.

How fvcking hard is it, exactly, and i expect a description and a good analogy if you want to say it is hard.

Are you older than 14? honestly?
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No...I"m older than 14, but you sound like your 10 with your complete lack of ability to express your point without attacking someone.

Most people have been in situations where they have received unwanted Flirting from someone...that's not the point. The point is she works with me and unless you are 10 and have never worked in an office, your relationships with co-workes (plutonic or not) have to be handled with care.

While your input is appreciated, your "know-it-all" attitude and verbal attacks on my intellect are not.
 
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