yagt: she went to dinner with ex

[zixxer]

to make a long story short - I've been dating this chick for about a month. We're fairly serious, (even though it's a short period of time, I know) and have agreed to be monogamous.

An ex of hers is in town for the night - from what I understand they had a fairly slack relationship.. basically nothing serious, mainly physical, and he met some chick so they stopped seeing one another. I think him and this chick have since broken up



She talked to me beforehand and I was like yeah it's just dinner right.. no big deal. Now I'm almost 'second guessing' myself. Should I be concerned?

edit:

she just called - she's on her way home.. no big deal, she was gone like an hour or a little over.

 

[KLin]

You went to dinner with your girlfriend's ex-boyfriend? 😕

 

[SmoochyTX]

Originally posted by: zixxer
to make a long story short - I've been dating this chick for about a month. We're fairly serious, (even though it's a short period of time, I know) and have agreed to be monogamous.

An ex of hers is in town for the night - from what I understand they had a fairly slack relationship.. basically nothing serious, mainly physical, and he met some chick so they stopped seeing one another. I think him and this chick have since broken up



She talked to me beforehand and I was like yeah it's just dinner right.. no big deal. Now I'm almost 'second guessing' myself. Should I be concerned?

Was his name Chris?

 

[pontifex]

lol, do you guys not learn from the other threads that have been posted recently or what?
wow...

seriously, they had a purely physical relationship before and they want to get together for dinner?

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: zixxer
to make a long story short - I've been dating this chick for about a month. We're fairly serious, (even though it's a short period of time, I know) and have agreed to be monogamous.

An ex of hers is in town for the night - from what I understand they had a fairly slack relationship.. basically nothing serious, mainly physical, and he met some chick so they stopped seeing one another. I think him and this chick have since broken up



She talked to me beforehand and I was like yeah it's just dinner right.. no big deal. Now I'm almost 'second guessing' myself. Should I be concerned?

Was his name Chris?

no?

 

[T9D]

If I read one more of these I swear I'm never touching another women again. Some times I get so pissed off at how selfish and stupid women are and the things they put their SO's through. It's like they all have no sense what so ever.

Your Girl friend went on a date with an ex. He's in town? So he's staying at a Hotel? This is just bad news all around.

 

[SmoochyTX]

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: zixxer
to make a long story short - I've been dating this chick for about a month. We're fairly serious, (even though it's a short period of time, I know) and have agreed to be monogamous.

An ex of hers is in town for the night - from what I understand they had a fairly slack relationship.. basically nothing serious, mainly physical, and he met some chick so they stopped seeing one another. I think him and this chick have since broken up



She talked to me beforehand and I was like yeah it's just dinner right.. no big deal. Now I'm almost 'second guessing' myself. Should I be concerned?

Was his name Chris?

no?

Are you sure?

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: tk109
If I read one more of these I swear I'm never touching another women again. Some times I get so pissed off at how selfish and stupid women are and the things they put their SO's through. It's like they all have no sense what so ever.

Your Girl friend went on a date with an ex. He's in town? So he's staying at a Hotel? This is just bad news all around.

😕
you're talking about the girls? why don't the idiot bfs get some common sense and grow some balls is more like it.

 

[iversonyin]

Sorry to hear that....I'm 100% sure that wasn't a regular dinner they have.

 

[T9D]

Well thats good she wasnt gone long. But it's not fair to put you through the worry or second guessing. She should have asked you to come. She should be proud to be with you and want to introduce you to her friends.

And also now she's on good terms (or better). She could have gotten his cell number. There could have been a "yeah call me soon". They start chatting online blah blah blah. Next thing you know. Sorry maybe I'm being extreme but it always seems to start like this with everyone.

 

[intogamer]

if you let her loose on something... then she'll have to give you the same ticket

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: zixxer
to make a long story short - I've been dating this chick for about a month. We're fairly serious, (even though it's a short period of time, I know) and have agreed to be monogamous.

An ex of hers is in town for the night - from what I understand they had a fairly slack relationship.. basically nothing serious, mainly physical, and he met some chick so they stopped seeing one another. I think him and this chick have since broken up



She talked to me beforehand and I was like yeah it's just dinner right.. no big deal. Now I'm almost 'second guessing' myself. Should I be concerned?

Was his name Chris?

no?

Are you sure?

yes 100% wtf would you ask that though?

 

[fbrdphreak]

Don't let the naysayer's get you down. None of us know if you should be worried, only you do. Do you trust her? Has she ever given you a reason not to trust her? Has any girl given you a reason not to trust them in general (i.e. ex cheated on you)?

Make your own choice about it, but frankly I'd always keep an eye open. If you notice something that bothers you, go with your gut and look into it.

Right off the bat, I'd say don't worry unless you have a real reason to. The other trick is to have sex with her tonight, her willingness to do so and/or physical condition in the nether-regions may give you some clue.

Always worth being suspicious, but not to the point of disrespecting your SO assuming she has been honestly in the relationship previously.

 

[T9D]

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: zixxer
to make a long story short - I've been dating this chick for about a month. We're fairly serious, (even though it's a short period of time, I know) and have agreed to be monogamous.

An ex of hers is in town for the night - from what I understand they had a fairly slack relationship.. basically nothing serious, mainly physical, and he met some chick so they stopped seeing one another. I think him and this chick have since broken up



She talked to me beforehand and I was like yeah it's just dinner right.. no big deal. Now I'm almost 'second guessing' myself. Should I be concerned?

Was his name Chris?

no?

Are you sure?

yes 100% wtf would you ask that though?

It's from another thread where some Chris guy cheated with some guys girl on here or soemthing.

 

[drum]

you better spy during dinner just to be safe

 

[iversonyin]

Call the dude and ask what they had for dinner. Then ask you gf what she had for dinner.

You win.

 

[fbrdphreak]

She should have asked you to come. She should be proud to be with you and want to introduce you to her friends.

Good point. If my gf (Almost 5 years....jeebus 5 years next week :Q) had someone like that come to town & wanted to go to dinner with her, she would ask me if I wanted to come. She also wouldn't go to dinner with an ex whom she had a physical relationship with out of respect to me. I'm lucky like that 🙂

 

[SmoochyTX]

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: zixxer
to make a long story short - I've been dating this chick for about a month. We're fairly serious, (even though it's a short period of time, I know) and have agreed to be monogamous.

An ex of hers is in town for the night - from what I understand they had a fairly slack relationship.. basically nothing serious, mainly physical, and he met some chick so they stopped seeing one another. I think him and this chick have since broken up



She talked to me beforehand and I was like yeah it's just dinner right.. no big deal. Now I'm almost 'second guessing' myself. Should I be concerned?

Was his name Chris?

no?

Are you sure?

yes 100% wtf would you ask that though?

You should try calling her up in the middle of the night and see what she calls you. Then you'll know for sure. 🙂

 

[rsd]

Do people really have to post a new thread every time their gf goes out with another guy?

 

[Zap Brannigan]

Originally posted by: rsd
Do people really have to post a new thread every time their gf goes out with another guy?

Yes, because then it gives you the chance to bring us this public service anouncement.

 

[her209]

When she gets home I would check out what colour underwear she is wearing.

 

[Pacfanweb]

Originally posted by: fbrdphreak
Has she ever given you a reason not to trust her?

Wanting to go out with an ex is a reason. Particularly if it was a "just casual sex relationship, just broke up with his girlfriend"-type of ex.

 

[Pacfanweb]

Originally posted by: her209
When she gets home I would check out what colour underwear she is wearing.

Yep, but be careful about putting your hand inside. 😉

 

[Zap Brannigan]

OP, if you don't mind your gf's ex sticking it in her ass, I mean going to dinner and stuff then your 1 month "serious" "relationship" should be safe, so when you two love birds getting married? LOL

 

[homercles337]

Blow it off (meaning getting upset over the dinner), even is she did fsck him you have only been dating this chic for a month and he (the ex) lives out of town. TRUST ME when i say that 99% of the equation is proximity. Im currently working to get my girl back from the 1% range and it really sucks! You have a HUGE upperhand here. Your play is to do some shiet for her "just because." THis shows her that you care about her and youre not the jealous type. Now if she did fsck him, youre hosed in the long run because youre reinforcing this kind of behaviour.